Do your DH/DP make you orgasm everytime?

[welshbyrd]

Or do you lie/bend the truth for male ego?

Just being a bit nosey really ...

Its never a size issue ShowofHands its a skill issue, but I dont think that is the problem with you by the sounds of it, as you would be able to "alone" if that were the case.

I would argue that orgasm is not about losing control as such to be fair. Its simply about enjoyment. Okay, so you can't pluck your eyebrows effectively while you are having an orgasm but you can stand up, sit down, remain quite, speak if you have to (dont ask!!!) - but, yes, I know what you mean.

It's fine - Tatty - I do still very much enjoy sex and am always happy to add more things to the list to try out!

I was merely responding to catinboots suggestion that size makes a difference. Probably does in the extreme.

I probably don't mean control. I don't cry for example. Because I don't like to feel overwhelmed. That's more it. I'm not a control freak, I'm quite laidback. But I don't like to be overpowered by anything.

Just read that about your big toe - its got to be a brain/nerve ending/signal rewiring thing surely (I'm not a neurosurgeon but it sounds like you are just wired differently)

I honestly dont think its a case of trying harder or doing something different if that's the case. Hell I'd got the hang of it by the time I was about 9 which probably wasn't unusual but the more I post the more of a sex-crazed bean flicking g-spot tickling nipple clamping sicko I sound! What I am saying is it happened almost by accident for me. I wonder if that is the same for others or if I'm just weird? For the orgasmic out there, who wants to admit when they had their first? (God please dont everyone say "19" or something)...

All this talk of orgasms aside, for me I really do like the general thrusting of normal penetrative sex. Its a separate type of pleasure to the build up to orgasm, easy to say as someone who has them but I actually think I could be very happy with just that as long as my DH was an ample (or reasonable) size, for sure. Nowt wrong with that.

I was 12. I ejaculated, thought I'd wet the bed.

It's never happened since (the gushing, not the orgasm).

Have only orgasmed once through penetration. God, it was amazing.

Usually do, though, but it's never as good as that one time.

Did I just say that?

I think we are quite similar ShowOfHands. I don't cry either! And am very chilled about stuff that is outside of me. But I/me/personally I have to be in control of. If that makes sense.

Maybe not so much on the physical side. I definately get the build up.

Anyway - I'm going to go back to my regular name now!

I wonder if it's just that clitoral stimulation doesn't do it for me. Penetrative sex is fine. And I have orgasmed once that way though years ago.

I must admit, I've er, never allowed dh to um, er. Let's just say I'm a giver not receiver.

Bollocks, who am I kidding. It's definitely something to do with control. He headed down there once and I panicked.

when i orgasm i squeeze dh's willy out at great speed. we always crack up at this. tattyDevine - any suggestions?

ps I gave myself my 1st O at about 18 ! couldnt figure it out til then!!! (didnt sleep with dh til 19)

g-spot for me - very rare to get to it with no thrusting too and if i do i feel cheated!!!!

took about 15 years of sex to get this far but by heck worth the wait!!!!

It does happen most of the time but i have to be in the mood and relaxed - stress from work and tiredness affects it. Sometimes its down to me to hit the g spot but the best time (rare too) is when its two orgasms together at the same time.

yes, but weirdly only through penetration since I have had children! Things must have shifted rather alot...

Yes. DH has no choice he must keep going (and going, and going) until we are both happy.

Oh, I'm so demanding

God no. He's not very good at it and I generally can't be arsed.

I have to say for me it has very little to do with whoever I'm with and any technique on their part, it's more whether I let go and go for it . I've only had a few where I haven't had to put any effort in at all.

I've had amazing sex without orgasm and pretty shit sex with (and vice versa obviously)

I'd say 98.8% of the time, yes. :)

that is a very precise %, CY

have you a spreadsheet ?

100% of the time - yes - but I am currently very single

PMSL at spreadsheet

On average yes...but not everytime depends on a multitude of reasons..i never fake it..tis a waste of time and I would feel crap if I did...I like 'The bullet' works a treat ;)

I had a flatmate who was the spreadsheet sort (she printed up a weekly menu and stuck it to the fridge) - the rest of us in the house were convinced that she lay tarpaulin down for really dirty sex!

No, never had one, either with a partner or alone. Current, long-term, partner is crap in bed, so never will.

id say 9 times out of 10, early days it was touch and go but we were young and both learning...

god i miss being young free and childless having more free time

I'm one of those really lucky women who orgasm really easily through penetrative sex - it's weird if I only have one. I agree with whoever it was who said that size does matter, my DP is very well endowed and I wouldn't have half as many orgasms if he wasn't. I wonder how many of the 60% of women who've never had an orgasm through penetrative sex have never had a partner with a big penis.

Tatty, you're not alone; I was about 9 or 10 when I first had one. Sort of discovered it accidentally too :)

I think I have definitely experienced G-spot..er...sensations. Quite different to a clitoral orgasm though...not so much a build-up to a climax as...I don't know, kind of a very intense sort of friction I suppose! Really nice though.

I am surprised that quite a few people seem to be not keen on 69s. I think they are just fab and delicious and out sex life wouldn't be the same without them.