Do your DH/DP make you orgasm everytime?

[welshbyrd]

Or do you lie/bend the truth for male ego?

Just being a bit nosey really ...

If I concentrate then yes everytime, but if I'm too distracted or stressed then there's nothing he could do to help me along.

I only ever orgasm in my sleep if I nap during the day, which is wierd but my dreams are always much stranger (and naughtier) during the day. WTF is that all about?

Why would you fake it if you don't come - it's possible to have good sex without neccessarily having to have an orgasm every time and that's true for both genders. Also, why should it dent anyone's ego. It's life that it doesn't always work.

that's his job!

can anyone recommend a good g-spot vibrator thingy and where to get it then?

have been reading Tatty's post with interest!

If it seems it taking a bit of effort, I'll help, but always orgasm. Right now sex is very one way... he pumps, I lay completely still. I'm 32 weeks pregnant, and if I start moving around, I get uncomfortable or a pain somewhere, so when he finds the spot, that's where we stay till we're done. lol

sugar...go to LoveHoney.com

Fuzuoku 9000 Its not sold so much as a sex toy, but it certainly gets the job done. I've had mine for years.

lots of people like rabbits, sugar. most popular seller.

rabbits too big, scary and noisy

crap at the g-spot too

I don't know why I read this thread. Glutton for punishment...

I can't have orgasms.

At all.

Ever.

AFAIK it is purely psychological. Have one of those 'interesting' childhoods and am such a control freak as an adult. I can hide the need to be in control most of the time but even on my own I just can't let myself go enough to follow through and have an orgasm. With my husband if he tries to push me over I get really panicky and try and crawl away... have kicked him to make him stop before!

It bloody sucks.

Don't take your orgasms for granted people!

I do agree that (at least for me) it's all psychological. If I don't think the right things, it will never happen.

Have name changed for this (I hope this one works!)

My dh does every time without fail, and, believe it or not, he's not happy unless it's more than 1 (I can usually come 4 or 5 times before it gets too much)

I realise he's quite a rare breed but tbh, but it turns him on so maybe that's part of the reason he's so attentive

ReallyQuiteGutted, I had an utterly normal childhood. I can't orgasm. I have no idea what bit of me is missing tbh.

Thanks for posting Showy. Have you ever been to docs etc? Have not yet got the nerve to go in and enquire if there might be something physical (probably not in my case... but maybe so in yours?)

It's nice not to be alone though! I'm always fudging through girly conversation about orgasms.

DH knows I can't and is very good and patient about it but I feel like other people will assume it is his fault and he doesn't know what he's doing.

I do enjoy sex very much, and he knows what goes me going incredibly well, and I cannot click my own bloomin' mouse so it's definately not him that's the problem!

blushingposter - I normally orgasm more than once.

This may be contreversial but I personally think that size does matter. With my ex-P I never once had an orgasm through penerative sex in six years.

With current DP (who is nicely endowed) - I am like a teenage boy! I have to think of things to stop myself climaxing too quickly. Just regular old vanilla sex makes me orgasm very easily. He doesn't have to do any fancy tricks

Am I the only one who enjoys the sex far more than the orgasms?
Don't get me wrong, they are nice, but to me, an orgasm is just a by-product, I'd be perfectly happy to not have orgasms tbh. because the actual build up is what I enjoy the most, after an intense orgasm I go uncomfortably tight and quite numb .

If I've had even one drink you can forget it and the first session after a period I pretty much write off because an orgasm then is approaching on painful, I spasm so much I often think that DH will get stuck!

One thing that puzzles me is that oral rarely does it for me nowadays and that was always the one cert, DH is always happy to oblige but I find myself wanting it less and less, I'm much more satisfied by a good hard seeing to.

I always get amused at these sorts of threads because if you cant tell/show/guide a partner as to what does it for you then it's likely that other lines of communication in the relationship are bolloxed too.

20% of women cannot orgasm at all apparently, although I wonder if they've ever tried a Hitachi magic wand.

Sorry to bang on about this Really after your post - I'm sure you have something. Really nice hair. Really well behaved kids. The ability to work out tips when a waitress is hovering over you with a portable merchant terminal.

Um, G-spot vibes. I dont think the rabbits are all that bad as a starting point - I like the way they squirm (rotate basically) around rather than just staying put up there and vibrating, like some of the curved vibe-only ones do. There are also "thruster" ones which basically have bit metal balls that go up and down inside the shaft that you can feel through the latexy outer.

Ahem

I re-read my post from before and I would like to amend the bit that said "dont do anything with your clit" during the bit about having a g-only orgasm - I think the important bit is as you approach orgasm and have it, you are not doing anything with your clit - that is a true g-spot one. I dont think it jeopordises the operation to help things along a little with the odd flick of your bean

I would look at either Love Honey or Sh! (next day delivery!!!) and have a browse. Take it from there. There are quite helpful reviews on some of the products.

oooh, and it not even Friday!!

Nope, never really worried about it. I enjoy sex, have a normal sex life, have normal urges, just don't orgasm. Some women don't. MN taught me that. I wish I did, I feel a little wistful sometimes that it doesn't have a natural conclusion iyswim but I guess it's about the journey not the destination. A small part of me does wonder if it's psychological. I don't like to lose control. I don't drink for example because I couldn't relinquish any part of me to the effects of alcohol. So it might be something to do with that. I don't think about it though tbh. Maybe I should.

And dh is not ungifted in that area so it's not a size issue.

Malificance - Hitachi you say...I thought they only did train engines!!!

Which bodes well I have to say!!!

DIY does feck all for me btw. May as well rub my big toe with a bit of sandpaper for all the response it gets.

The answer to your question is, Yes, always.