Do your DH/DP make you orgasm everytime?

[welshbyrd]

Or do you lie/bend the truth for male ego?

Just being a bit nosey really ...

GetOrfMoiLand - you have a wicked sense of humour

Yes, they are antiD's dementedma, they must differ in some way from SSRIs but you would have to be a lot cleverer than me to understand what it is!

It is strange because I have been on SSRIs before and they have completely wiped out any desire or libido. It has been the opposite with the SNRIs - I have got a 15 year old boys level of libido but with the anorgasmic side effect.

What a bastard etc.

Yes, I believe SNRIs are anti-depressants, as are SSRIs.

In my experience, the fisrt time I went on them, it took ages for the ability to orgasm to return (a few months, I think). Then I stopped taking them for a while and have now gone back on them. This time, the orgasms were only AWOL for about 6 weeks, if that. And now they're back. YAY!

Need a sense of humour if I have outed myself now as someone who is eternally frustrated.

How hard is it to bloody namechange!

(d)p and I last had sex nearly 5 years ago.
At first it was great but as time wore on I think we were both going through the motions. He did pretty much every time, but it got more difficult for me. Often I just wanted a shag. I didn't need or want all the foreplay, wanted something different. Problem is he was so sensitive about his 'performance' any comment or thought would have been taken as criticism

Getorf I know that "interrupted sneeze" feeling it is fucking frustrating! (sic)

It's hit and miss with us, but DP is always very caring and generous and I suspected he figured out when I was faking so I stopped doing it, and it's much better now as he makes sure it happens!

No additional toys and stuff here yet

Yes, every time :) We've been together less than 6 months though so ALL the sex is good

But TBH if I'm not getting into the swing of it I say so and he always wants to stop. That option never occurred to me with any other partners so the sex was more hit and miss with them and sometimes not a nice experience at all.

Vibrator - fine, use it together and alone, he's never been jealous of it

rest assured I will update you lot when D-Day happens.

Me too, GOML. Although in my case it's SSRIs that have stopped me being able to come and I'm 17 weeks pregnant, so all in all my libido has disappeared!

I've been faking since being on SSRIs, but never did before. Or at least, not with DP. XH never made me orgasm and I stopped bothering showing him what to do after a few years.

Oh please don't anyone fake it. Just learn how to say "it's not happening for me tonight, don't worry about it." His pride can take it.

Men are very sensitive about "underachieving" [if thats the right word ]

Unless its a one night stand, then its all about them and their needs, well, thats my experience anyway

Of course, what would be the point in having sex if I didn't have the obligatory five orgasms minimum.

Majority of the time yes, but I won't fake it if no.

getorfmoiland Im a Psychiatric Nurse, havent worked in the wards for years but as far as I remember SNRIs are very similar chemically to SSRIs.

SSRI stands for selective serotonin re uptake inhibitor and the N in yours stands for noradrenaline - basically serotonin and noradrenaline are simply 2 different type of brain chemicals that can affect mood so these type of anti depressants work on these chemicals. Hope you feel better soon

Glad to hear that GOML - will keep my checking on you, for any developments

Fabby are you being sarcastic....

bloody hell Fabbychic, 5? I feel blessed with twice, lucky you

No im not being sarcastic!

I hope she is Brainsurgeon, if she is not, then Im going to be chatting to DH tonight

Yes, never with penetration, though.

Aww DH is in for it tonight then

Sometimes I can't even make myself orgasm.............

Namechanged!

No, never through intercourse and i never have! However i stupidly faked it from the beginning, i cant come clean (pun!) with him now because weve been married forever.

Yes but not at the same time and not in the same way!

At least your bloody name change worked