I'll try to give all the facts here so that it doesn't come out in drips but I'd appreciate any good quality advice how to handle this too.
My ds deliberately went up to a black girl at school and said 'chocolate face'.
My ds has ASD.
We have worked extremely hard with ds and the attributes of his ASD that affect him most are not behavioural, but social communication, reading emotions and facial expressions.
We have spent a couple of weeks getting ds to concentrate on people's faces and talk about the differences in them and how they are different.
We have been also working on the theme of 'looks like' or 'same as' i.e. yellow pen looks like a banana. Hand looks like a foot etc etc.
The school say they have to log the incident as a 'racial' incident, but my ds has no idea about races, and there was no racial intent, although I do not dispute that he meant what he said, or at the very least that the little girl had a face 'like' or 'same as' chocolate.
I am gutted to the core that my ds has his name in this 'log' and am really desperate for advice on what to do about it.
I do not for one second dispute that the teacher has to be seen to be doing the right thing, given that the girl in question may have told her parents of the incident, but surely this is a bit much.
I would also appreciate any guidance on what a school is likely to 'do' with such a log and what effect it might have on my ds.
Many thanks in advance.