to tell DH his mother's day efforts are crap

[lurcherlover]

My first mother's day (DS is 5 months)...I have received a card and a novelty wine glass saying "No.1 Mum". I am in a sulk because:

1. He knows I don't like tat that clutters up the house. How can he think I would appreciate an oversized, pink striped wine glass?
2. I'm breastfeeding so hardly drinking at the moment anyway.
3. All I wanted was a card and a bunch of flowers - how did he not think to get flowers?
4. He hasn't even thought to get anything in for lunch so I've just sent him off to Tesco.

Can I sulk or am I being childish? Well, I know I am a bit, but surely his efforts have been pretty feeble...

You sulk away, but men are just crap. You deserve flowers too. Get over your sulk before he gets back from Tesco though. Bless him, he tried.

YABU mothers day in its current form is a commercial invention

Well, he is doing better than my DP on my first mother's day (with 2mo DD so v. hormonal and tired still!)

He forgot completely, then tried to get me a card on the monday but no mother's day cards left so he got me a thank you card, then signed it from himself and didn't even mention DD!

YABslightlyU though I do understand - just repay the favour of father's day by buying him novelty socks and I'm sure he'll start to realise...

Childish. At least he remembered.

At least you got something is the way you are going to have to look at it.

Mine are 8 and 10 and dh decided they are now old enough to do something themself if they want to, so I got a card from funkypigeon, which I registered for so that I could get a £3 credit for them to spend rather than their pocket money which is only £1 a week ( when I remember). It is a funny card so I appreciate they chose it but no present and I am still cooking lunch and have a cold etc.

I think we just sometimes want them to put more effort in but they don't always think like we do I'm afraid. I do love dh btw and he is great but doesn't get the whole present and card thing. Although his family are like that too so can see where he gets it from.

YABU, spoiled and ungrateful. You're not his mother either.

I agree it is tat.

But i think YABU, he tried, he got a card and presumerably something that you could keep, that would not die, to remember your first mother's day and show your ds when he gets bigger.

Mother's day presents as your kids get bigger will be all about the intention and effort not they actual appearance.

You're being very spoilt and very childish.

Perhaps you should just realise for a second that it's the thought that counts.

Also, it's a day for children to appreciate their Mum's...not Husbands.

I hope when your child is old enough to buy something for you, it won't clutter up the house and will be to your specific requirements

i agree with worral......

Look at it as training for having "tat that clutters up the house" as over the coming years you will have a lot of it.
From the clay pots and paper flowers made in primary to the wonky bird houses and plant stands made in secondary.

that is crap IMO :(

sorry, he should have made more of an effort on your first mothers day.x

YABU

You are not his mother, why should he do anything special for you on mother's day?

yabu

I think you present sounds lovely actually, a nice thought.

I don't get these comments of "but you're not his mother" in reference to your husband. The fact is, you are the mother of his children and as such, you deserve some love and respect for the job you do- especially when the children are too small to thank you themselves. OK, so Mother's Day in its current form might well be a commercial invention, but it has a long cultural tradition and it is nice to have a day where the contribution mothers make is recognised.

I don't think you are spoiled or childish, OP. It is disappointing and hurtful to receive a gift which suggests the giver hasn't really thought about it or doesn't seem to "know" your tastes, especially when the giver- as your husband- should do! Giving any old tat "because it's the thought that counts" isn't good enough in my book. I try and choose thoughtful gifts for my friends and family and I think it is nice for them to do the same in return.

YABVVVU!

Some of us got nothing...

overmydeadbody I think we should make an effort for our other halves on mothers/fathers day so show them we appreciate how good they are as a mother or father and that we are glad they are.

YABU. No card or present, just a panicked look from DH when I mentioned what day today is. Apparently he now has to go out in a bit. Despite the fact he rang me midweek to get his mum's address for her card.... so he was in a card shop, buying mother's day cards, even had me in his mind and still forgot. Apparently I'm being totally unreasonable as I'm not DH's mum you know. Despite the fact that DS is 19 months so he can't exactly do it, I've got awful morning sickness and an early scan tomorrow due to unexplained bleeding in this current pregnancy. I'd rather like a big tacky wine glass right now.

Yes, you are being very childish and ungrateful. Your poor DH. :(

You are not behaving well
He is not your mother, but he did something.

If all the OP 'wanted' was a card and a bunch of flowers then why didn't she put her order in with her Husband?

Still she's 'sent' him to Tescos so perhaps he'll dutifully return with some...assuming supermarket flowers are good enough.