to tell DH his mother's day efforts are crap

[lurcherlover]

My first mother's day (DS is 5 months)...I have received a card and a novelty wine glass saying "No.1 Mum". I am in a sulk because:

1. He knows I don't like tat that clutters up the house. How can he think I would appreciate an oversized, pink striped wine glass?
2. I'm breastfeeding so hardly drinking at the moment anyway.
3. All I wanted was a card and a bunch of flowers - how did he not think to get flowers?
4. He hasn't even thought to get anything in for lunch so I've just sent him off to Tesco.

Can I sulk or am I being childish? Well, I know I am a bit, but surely his efforts have been pretty feeble...

I will be watching WTD with her not for her!

It doesn't sound like you have much tolerance at the moment OP, perhaps you are feeling genuinely undervalued & your gift has been the catalyst for this?

If not & it is just a case of a present you don't like then I do feel YABU.

Today I was given a bright green & orange felt giant pin cushion by my 6 yr old so get used to gifts of different taste it is a lovely part of motherhood :)

ThornyKate - aah but 'interesting' presents from dc are absolutely fine. Crappy, thoughtless presents from the person who should know you better than anyone is a poor show.

The pin cushion sounds very homebase lush

Oh and LOL at desperatelySeekingSnoozes definition of mummy martyr in one post and then making herself one in her subsquent post. Brilliant.

yabu

YANBU. But don't grieve over it if he's generally more attentive. In my family we never celebrated Mother's Day (my mother said she disapproved of it, and we were lazy selfish children), but in DP's they really go in for it in a big way. Now I love it (apart from today but that's another story). So, find a moment to write your Mother's Day wish list for next year and give it to him a week in advance. And when it comes to Father's Day 2011, choose something really good, if you think he'll get the hint.

Wowsers, some harsh bastards on this thread!

YANBU to be disappointed with the gift. It is OK to not be bowled over by something that you don't like. You would be being U to tell him though. That would be pretty mean and unnecessary.

Erm.. this is from last year.

They can't fucking win, can they.

Even if it's from last year, people are still thinking along the lines of the OP, change glass to picture frame, or whatever. People are always ungrateful every year.

Yanbu. Although my DH was worse. He claimed to have lost the card he'd bought me from our DCs (0 and 2). I was a bit . Later he said he'd found it, got the toddler to draw in it and presented it to me smugly. He'd 'found' the card I'd got my mum, which I'd left on the mantelpiece ready to write in, as she's coming over later. Errr, thanks!

I remember this from last year, I thought I was having deja vu for a minute.

to be fair i dont think the men can win

That's teh whole point :o

Well, it is the thought that counts.

But then if OPs husband knows that she wouldn´t like it-why did he get it?

I would rather nothing than something for the sake of it.

Fortunately though my husband knows this-that a card & flowers/chocs/wine are always acceptable.

Failing that, cup of tea/breakfast in bed, lunch cooked...

Oh bugger-old thread!

I wonder what the OP got this year...

At least he bloody well remembered got you something! It's the thought that counts! Have you seen the threads on here today about partners that have done nothing for their wives? Jeez stop being so spoilt and appreciate that you've got a thoughtful husband. It's your first mother's day at least he made an effort.

You are being a bit ungrateful, you got a card and a gift (ok a daft gift), but still.
That better than my DH would manage.

I've chosen my own Mother's day gift, just got him to type in the payment details.

And taken the DDs shopping, ok that's just how it worked out. He was working.

I didn't get any Mother's Day gifts or cards until the dcs started pre-school / school because, as pointed out by dh, I'm not his mother

It is lucky that I always go out and buy his mother Mother's Day, birthday, Christmas and just-because pressies, or she would never get anything either

I've had texts all day from people saying "what did your lovely DS get you for mother's day?"

This is the bit of this sorry tale of woe that I find rather peculiar. Who are all these people who have nothing better to do that barrage you with texts about what you've got for Mother's Day. Is it a competition? If so, I've clearly failed to pick up an entry form.

(Has nothing whatsoever to complain about here, incidental. Not a trace of a hangover despite being a tad wrecked last night and a tea party to attend shortly hosted by ds2, ddil and dgd who want all the mothers and grandmothers to feel rather special today)

Oh utter cack - it's a fucking zombie thread, isn't it?

Clearly I have not recovered any sort of alertness...

After reading this thread i have now realised why so many people put up with crap relationships , because as a woman i should be bloody grateful i got anything at all to show any sign of recognition that i do absolutely every sodding thing on every day of the bleeding year and i should be grateful and happy that DH bothered to get up at all , two and a half hours after me , to drink the coffee i made him , and listened to him complain about the expensive perfume i had had the temerity to ask for , the only reason i asked was because he got paid a small bonus and asked if there was anything i would like, as he had just spent £600 on something for his hobby . I now realise i am a shameless , materialistic hussy and should of stuck to the morrisons own body spray which is all i can afford to buy myself after paying for all the childcare ......................................aaaaaaargh

As you were , shall get back to slaving over a hot stove

Oh utter cack - it's a fucking zombie thread, isn't it?

It's a hardy annual :o