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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be upset that dh hasn't got me any flowers for mothering sunday.

103 replies

Northernlurker · 02/04/2011 21:02

The dcs have got me something I know but dh usually gets flowers too. Has just revealed that he hasn't 'got round to it' today and I won't mind will I? Well yes actually I bloody do mind!

Three episiotomys, 124 weeks of pregnancy, countless vomiting from morning sickness, knackered ligaments, heartburn, exhaustion, poverty - working for YEARS as part time, always being locally based and doing the school/nursery run, enduring drama performances, talking to other mothers even when they are insane/ competitive/dull, keeping the present bag stocked up, buying nice clothes, buying shoes again and again and again, taking them to the dentist and for jabs and I don't even get any flowers?

Totally and utterly pissed off.

AIBU?

OP posts:
hardhatdonned · 02/04/2011 21:03

Yes.

You're not his mother. Enjoy the gift the kids give you and smile at their attempts to make tomorrow special.

SlightlyJaded · 02/04/2011 21:04

YABU. He hasn't forgotten and he's made sure your children are prepared.

Anyway he might be double bluffing.

Goblinchild · 02/04/2011 21:05

I'm going to buy myself something lovely. Have done for years.
I also get little things from my children, but DH has never celebrated it with me, because I'm not his mother.

Butternutsquash22 · 02/04/2011 21:05

well how old are you children? I think to a certain extent its the husbands job to make sure there is something 'decent' being given to you, so needs to give something 'from the kids' to you as well as anything they have got you if they are below secondary school age.

although my dad still gets my mum a bunch of flowers from me and my brother and we are 21 and 24 haha. (we do get her something as well... just to clarify...)

LindyHemming · 02/04/2011 21:06

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Summerbird73 · 02/04/2011 21:08

YABVU - to me mothers day is all about quality time with my son. i dont care if he never gets me anything, but although he is v young (almost 2) he makes cards at nursery and draws pictures, that means the absolute world to me.

I have told DH that i will be happy with a cup of tea in bed and a fun day spent with DH and DS

Flowers are overrated IMO

JarethTheGoblinKing · 02/04/2011 21:09

YANBU! I know that DP hasn't got me flowers either (DS is 3, but apparently has chosen a Ben 10 card for me Grin, but am mostly pissed off because he never buys me bloody flowers...

toeragsnotriches · 02/04/2011 21:10

I thought Mothering Sunday was a celebration of motherhood, not just your own mum. I always send my mum a card as well as Mil as DH is sooo rubbish and forgetful.

So no, YANBU. But neither the kids nor DH will have bothered with me (as usual on these events) so I'm quite jealous he's even thought about it and as hardhat says, just enjoy. Smile

Maybe he's taking you somewhere amazing and the flowers are not needed???

Olivetti · 02/04/2011 21:10

I remember my mum and dad having a huge row one mother's day on this very subject - I must have been about six Sad. I'd got her a present and a card, but she went in a massive strop about my dad not getting her flowers. That's now my overriding memory of mother's day as a kid. Sad So be nice to your DH and your children!

Goblinchild · 02/04/2011 21:10

Try and make a list of positives about being a mother as well OP, because you don't sound as if you like the job much TBH.

sweetygilly · 02/04/2011 21:13

Northernlurker

Leave him.

Original poster
Northernlurker · 02/04/2011 21:13

Harrrrrumph! I always get flowers. Kids are 12, 10 and 3. The older two have organised themselves this year. The baby is too young to do so. The car has disappeared from the front of the house so I guess he got the message.

hardhat - of course I will smile tomorrow - do you think I would sulk in the face of my children's loveliness Hmm

OP posts:
Summerbird73 · 02/04/2011 21:13

'enduring drama performances'

dear god, i absolutely cannot wait for my DS to do stuff like that.... Hmm

olivetti that is so Sad and kind of proves my point.

UmYeahLikeTotally · 02/04/2011 21:14

Yanbu. I feel the same way!

UmYeahLikeTotally · 02/04/2011 21:14

Yanbu. I feel the same way!

sweetygilly · 02/04/2011 21:16

Northernlurker

Actually. Have you thought of therapy?

Olivetti · 02/04/2011 21:16

I know it is. On a happier note, tomorrow is my first mother's day as a mum. I'm so excited about this very fact alone! Grin

flossymuldoon · 02/04/2011 21:16

Tomorrow is my first Mothers Day. I think hubby had got me a card but probably no presents. To be honest, finally being a Mother after many years of heartache is the best gift ever, and flowers or chocolates couldn't posibly make it any more special than it already is!

desperatelyseekingsnoozes · 02/04/2011 21:19

I am quite relieved that I have a husband who does not buy me flowers on mother's day.

I think YABU

SoupDragon · 02/04/2011 21:19

FGS you are not his mother. Get over it.

I will get something DS2 made in cubs, a card DD made at school and a card from DS1 when he remembers and sneaks off to draw one. That's it. And it is all I need because they are my children.

sweetygilly · 02/04/2011 21:20

flossymuldoon

Jeez... What a lovely post.

Summerbird73 · 02/04/2011 21:21

olivetti congratulations Grin tomorrow is my second ever mothers day and i just love it. methinks you are going to have a wonderful day Smile

Goblinchild · 02/04/2011 21:22

It's my 20th Mother's day tomorrow, I still love being a parent and have a fine collection of home-made cards and weird gifts to show for it. Grin

mayorquimby · 02/04/2011 21:23

grow up

NotAnotherNewNappy · 02/04/2011 21:25

Depends what he did for Valentine's...

If he made a huge fuss of you in your role as his wife, then YABU and can say to yourself that Mothering Sunday is between you and your kids (who sound v sweet to have sorted something for you).

OTH if you actually had to remind him to buy you a Valentine's card while you were on the supermarket together and he then promised to buy you flowers at a later date, but these never materialised, then YANBU and you can sit on the sofa and cry as I am currently doing.

Sorry OP, I may have let my own issues take over here.

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