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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be upset that dh hasn't got me any flowers for mothering sunday.

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Northernlurker · 02/04/2011 21:02

The dcs have got me something I know but dh usually gets flowers too. Has just revealed that he hasn't 'got round to it' today and I won't mind will I? Well yes actually I bloody do mind!

Three episiotomys, 124 weeks of pregnancy, countless vomiting from morning sickness, knackered ligaments, heartburn, exhaustion, poverty - working for YEARS as part time, always being locally based and doing the school/nursery run, enduring drama performances, talking to other mothers even when they are insane/ competitive/dull, keeping the present bag stocked up, buying nice clothes, buying shoes again and again and again, taking them to the dentist and for jabs and I don't even get any flowers?

Totally and utterly pissed off.

AIBU?

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puffling · 02/04/2011 23:04

Why do threads by famous regulars always go like this? Famous regular posts flamable thread, gets flamed by people who don't know her, appears to rise above it with the humour of the confident head girl, head girl's henchmen come in to defend her.

hardhatdonned · 02/04/2011 23:04

Yes because i was told very strictly after the damage DC did to do my pelvic floor exercises. You can never do too many...or, in my case, doing them will be a totally pointless exercise because nothing will fix ya fanny other than surgery.

Happy mothers day ladies!

theotherboleyngirl · 02/04/2011 23:09

can I competitively aim for worst?? My pregnancy with DS brought on arthritis which resulted in 7 operations and countless drugs (and pain) over 4 years. My pg with my DT's nearly ended in the loss of them, had me in a wheelchair for 5 months believing I would never walk again. I will never have a pain free day again unless I am knocked out. C'est la vie. But those flowers from DH tomorrow to say 'thanks' kind of take the chip off my shoulder about it Wink

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Northernlurker · 02/04/2011 23:11

I don't think I'm famous puffling am I? Certainly regular though I'll concede that - really should get on with cleaning my skirting boards more.

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Longtalljosie · 02/04/2011 23:11

Hah! I'm a henchman! I'd be honoured to be one obviously but no, it's more that I've known her for (counts) 16 years and know when she's being serious and when she's not.

Oh and NL no getting up yourself now you're famous, I knew you when you were capable of getting pissed on half a glass of Lambrusco. Oh, hang on...

angel1976 · 02/04/2011 23:11

theotherboleyngirl And I think you deserve a very, very big diamond for all you've been through... :) Still, those little sods sweeties are worth it, aren't they?

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Northernlurker · 02/04/2011 23:12

Wow thotherboleyngirl - that's hardcore. Should your dh ever fail to come across with suitable floral tribute let me know and I'll come over and flatten him with my headgirl ooomph Grin

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Northernlurker · 02/04/2011 23:13

Shush hench person don't get above yourself and make me bring up the soave......

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theotherboleyngirl · 02/04/2011 23:14

of course they're worth it, mostly Wink (shudders at recent memory of DT's antics)

no diamond... that would be pushing it... but hey the daffs currently sat in a bucket on the dustbin will do just fine

Longtalljosie · 02/04/2011 23:17

Boleyngirl - my goodness, you win the prize hands down. Poor you x

Cymar · 02/04/2011 23:17

I don't envy you Kendodd. Would like to be in your shoes. Have you tried the classic one liner "(Insert name), I've got one nerve left and your getting on it". Usually works a treat for me Grin.

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter · 02/04/2011 23:18
TheAllNewOoooh · 02/04/2011 23:18

Having just been on the end of a Mothering Sunday guilt trip from DM, I tend to think that the whole concept is fraught with potential for disappointment/guilt/profits for Hallmark.

DM is a sucker for the way in which the day is marketed as a flowers/cards/meal/card-with-sugary-message bonanza and, frankly, I'm not. It feels a bit grabby. So once a year I do something out of obligation and that apparently is a better measure of our relationship than the many other days of the year on which we have a lovely time together and I am an appreciative daughter.

YABU to guilt trip your husband on mother's day. Guilt tripping is unpleasant, particularly when there's no basis for it.

I won't be doing that to my DS and certainly not my DH.

And I have a prolapse. Grin

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Northernlurker · 02/04/2011 23:19

TOBG - you keep mentioning those flowers - you wouldn't be flaunting them at me would you?

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angel1976 · 02/04/2011 23:19

Ahhhh... boleyn I hope your DCs realise one day what you have been through for them. DS and DTs????? I can't fathom how anyone copes with twins, let alone twins and another!

hardhatdonned · 02/04/2011 23:29

Yes Boleyn you win. You win much chocolates, wine and flowers.

chickchickchicken · 02/04/2011 23:36

i read the OP as tongue in cheek
Grin at

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Northernlurker · 02/04/2011 23:37

Wink Grin

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Jajas · 02/04/2011 23:38

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Northernlurker · 02/04/2011 23:44

If you don't get in early then you run the risk of folks running out of ways to call you a bad mother/daughter/wife. Earlybird gets flamegrilled Grin

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earth1984 · 02/04/2011 23:54

In the past I was the 1st one to whinge about dp not doing stuff for Mothers day. I always make sure dc provide a little gift for fathers day. However, this year i wish MothersDay would just go away. My dm passed away this month. I know I will get some lovely cards from dc tomorrow but I just want to forget abou Mothers Day this Year. Can't as we are going out with MIL.

angel1976 · 02/04/2011 23:57

Sorry to hear about your dm earth1984 :(

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Northernlurker · 03/04/2011 00:07

Sorry for your loss earth - do you have to go? What is your mil like? Would she understand if you didn't go but just had time to yourself?

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earth1984 · 03/04/2011 00:11

Yes, she would understand. Not sure if being on my own would help though.