to be upset that dh hasn't got me any flowers for mothering sunday.

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The dcs have got me something I know but dh usually gets flowers too. Has just revealed that he hasn't 'got round to it' today and I won't mind will I? Well yes actually I bloody do mind!

Three episiotomys, 124 weeks of pregnancy, countless vomiting from morning sickness, knackered ligaments, heartburn, exhaustion, poverty - working for YEARS as part time, always being locally based and doing the school/nursery run, enduring drama performances, talking to other mothers even when they are insane/ competitive/dull, keeping the present bag stocked up, buying nice clothes, buying shoes again and again and again, taking them to the dentist and for jabs and I don't even get any flowers?

Totally and utterly pissed off.

AIBU?

Summerbird - a child THREW UP on the stage in the middle of the last performance. Really it's not all glowing proud moments!

Thank you Summerbird! You too.
Sorry for hijacking a bit. But my point is, please don't waste time upsetting yourself about this. You're not his mother, and the poor kids don't deserve to have a pissed off mother on mother's day.

Still no sympathy here NL, I've sat through hundreds of performances as a parent and as a teacher.
It's worst of all when something goes wrong with a performance you have planned and been responsible for creating, and you see all those frozen and disapproving parental glares.
Vomit? That I could have taken in my stride!

One year I told my DH two weeks in advance exactly what I wanted to happen on Mother's Day - from tea and thoughtful gifts in bed, to special breakfast (specified menu) and walk in the park to time on my own in the afternoon. I worried that this would make it feel unspontaneous but it was fabulous. Exactly what I wanted!

Now that's a plan!

YANBU - but be gratful that at least your kids have made/got you soemthing.

I am sure it isnt OP, and in my short foray into motherhood i can see that it isnt glamorous or shiny and lovely like the Bisto kids adverts.

Yeah that must have been a pretty rubbish thing to happen at the last performance but i dont get your bitterness towards having to 'endure' motherhood. That was one incident, you need to get over it.

Its just a shame really.

I'm not upset - pissed off is not the same as upset.

Even if I was upset I wouldn't let it affect the kids.

Yes YABU. Silly woman.

Think yourself lucky you don't have my eldest son he doesn't buy me a birthday card let alone a mothers day card.

If my youngest has forgotten to get cards, I won't get anything. But I'm not really bothered.

Oh for God's sake NL, will you never learn that semi-ironic rants never come across properly on Mumsnet

YANBU - but I'm worse off than you - see my thread in Chat (and yes I know I've given up Mumsnet for lent, but this warrants a relapse ])

Oh LTJ you've spoiled it now - I was quite enjoying seeing myself as mean nasty unappreciative mother.

Right - better go look at your thread now.......

Well you know what I got last year.....one of those mop thingies that you swipe over a wooden floor!

YANBU. This year DP did nothing for Valentine's day, "couldn't think of anything" for my 30th birthday, and has just announced that he's got nothing for tomorrow but went on to ask if he should "pick something up in Tesco so you don't go and rant about me on Mumsnet". THAT SHIP HAS SAILED, SONNY JIM!

Sorry. But no, YADNBU.

A mop???? Oooh that's bad. In comparison that really does make me sound like a spoilt madam

Washnomore - rant away!

Well said BluddyMoFo. Love the name BTW .

Mothers Day is a load of auld cobblers. If your children appreciate things you do throughout the year, then why do we need this one day to appreciate what mums do as a matter of course?

Look, clearly the most sensible course of action is to hold out hope 'til the kids have gone to bed tomorrow, at which stage you will give up. Feeling furious and rejected you will start to noisily fill the dishwasher, snapping "nothing" when he asks you what's wrong, before issuing a bitter tirade of bile and flustration upon the poor bastard, who did not realise he could have avoided it all by the simple expediancy of spending £5 on a bunch of flowers in Tescos.

Or you could put deep heat in his boxers?*

*joke! My sister-in-law did this to her husband once, he still winces at the memory. It was perhaps an unduly harsh retribution for slapping her on the bum too hard as she left the room...

I've done the 'nothing' snap already - like I say the car disappeared so I think he has suitably salvaged our marriage and preserved his boxers from interference

Buy yourself some. That's what I did.

you're not his mum. Or are you? that would be wrong.

THat would be wrong. And more than a little unreasonable........

NL Run now, while you can! :)