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The OFFICIAL buddy bench/naughty bench thread No. 5

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Teaandcakeplease · 01/04/2011 22:15

Come hither all those who haven't found their place on mumsnet, have scrapped in Aibu or crossed words in chat. The buddy bench shalt not judge.

The buddy bench will hand out wine and cakes, it will join you on your scoffathons getting pissed

All those who sit on the bench, will have their sins erased and be given a warm welcome and cheerful chat from CheerfulYank, gomummy, tired mum, Elmo and far, far too many more to mention.

Welcome to the buddy bench, we look forward to meeting you all Smile

Oh and don't forget, last one to leave polishes bench and locks up!

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elmofan · 11/04/2011 21:35

I know Gomummy , Ds is threatening to play dot to dot on DD's face Hmm Wink
Yes over here we have an emergency out of hours doctor service called
D-Doc , and they will make house calls if needed. Seeing as dd's temp hit 40.1 & stayed up high for almost 24 hours & calpol did nothing to help her temp come down the doctor came to our house at 5pm yesterday . We also had to take her to our normal GP this morning as she has asthma he is keeping an eye on her chest .
I really hope you & ds get a good nights sleep tonight .
Yummy scones Tiredmum Thanks

candleshoe · 11/04/2011 21:49
elmofan · 11/04/2011 22:20

Gives candle Wine to cheer her up . Do you want me to sort them out for you ? Wink

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Teaandcakeplease · 11/04/2011 22:24

Just a quick fly by. I'm busy packing for bonny Scotland. So I'll probably not get on here much until I'm back. I'll miss not checking in with you all until back. Unless FIL can give me the key to his broadband if it's wifi, then I could check in from my phone

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CheerfulYank · 11/04/2011 22:57

Just commented on the "why do people abort fetuses with down syndrome" chat...stopped by for a restorative gulp of G&T before getting flamed. :o

gomummygo · 11/04/2011 23:17

Candle - baby wipes for the oven?! A little disturbing that they can do that actually! Hmm Will have to try them for other things though, thanks!

That is a wonderful service Elmo. On a Sunday even! Ireland has thoroughly impressed me! Hope DD is on the mend now, poor wee girl.

You should not be flamed Cheerful, you are exactly right. IMO, of course. :)

Have a good trip Tea! You will be missed.

CheerfulYank · 11/04/2011 23:27

Thanks gomummy :) We'll see how it all pans out. I think the "I don't understand when people abort a twin because they only want one" comment may get the most fire, but it's true. I don't. So ner.

CheerfulYank · 11/04/2011 23:29

Bye tea ! Have a good trip! I've always wanted to see Scotland, I'm sooo Envy . Make sure to ask the pilot if you can see his...cockpit. Wink

gomummygo · 12/04/2011 13:10

Morning all!

Shock Cheerful I had never heard of people doing that! But now that I have, I will certainly join you in not understanding it either.

@ "...cockpit" Grin

elmofan · 12/04/2011 14:16

Grin cheerful

Did you and ds have a good nights sleep gomummy

tea have a lovely trip & try not let ex MIL wind you
up too muchWink

CheerfulYank · 13/04/2011 18:45

Just popping in to say hi and see if everything is going all right for everyone. I was home from work again today and am finally feeling better YAY.

How's DS gomummy ?

And the move tiredmum ?

And everything else elmo and vali ?

And which thread were you referring to when you said you were being picked on, Candle ? Need me to swing in and sort 'em out? Angry

gomummygo · 14/04/2011 02:59

Good evening all. DS is slowly on the mend I think, hard to tell, it is a bit up and down right now. Nerve wracking, that's for sure. We are absolutely exhausted, emotionally and physically.

Anyway, enough of my moaning, how are all you lovely benchers doing? Any weekend plans yet?

We have had a huge rainstorm and it washed away most of the snow... crocuses will soon be peeking out! I have hung my first load of laundry outside today, instead of in front of the fire, yay! I know, I am just far too excited about getting the laundry out. Blush

CheerfulYank · 14/04/2011 03:58

Oh, I'm so glad he's getting better! I was worried.

DS has a birthday party to attend this weekend, beyond that no plans. :)

candleshoe · 14/04/2011 20:53

Hi all - glad DS is feeling better gomummy! Glad it is warming up there for you too!
Gone cold and damp here just in time for school holidays. Typical.

Weekend plans are ruined by going to 4 different kids parties!!!!!! JOY UNCONFINED Sad

elmofan · 15/04/2011 11:56

Hello Smile

My modem broke down again on Wednesday so i had to wait until this morning to get a new one delivered .
How is everyone ?
gomummy great to hear ds is on the mend xx & that the spring has finally sprung Grin
No plans for the weekend as DD is still covered in spots , although as far as i know she is past the contagious stage , don't want to take any chances though .
Any one know how long the spots last ?

CheerfulYank · 15/04/2011 21:45

Hi elmo ! I'm not sure about the spots. Poor DD!

It got cold again here too candle. It was 3 here today (your temp) with a freezing wind. Hats and mittens again....sigh.

So tired...was up doing laundry and arguing with DH. He doesn't want another baby. He wants to wait for "the right time." Well when the h is that I ask you?! :(

candleshoe · 16/04/2011 00:00

Has everyone seen this Royal Wedding T-Mobile advert? I think its brilliant!

Chicken pox spots last up to 3 weeks!

CheerfulYank · 16/04/2011 03:01

That made me LOL. :)

gomummygo · 16/04/2011 13:15

Aw Cheerful, that must be really hard for you. Do you think he will change his mind?

No idea about the spots elmo, but glad DD is feeling a bit better. Hopefully now that winter is over she'll be illness-free for a while.

CheerfulYank · 16/04/2011 17:55

I don't know. I'm so frustrated with him. He does want another DC; we've both agreed that we don't want DS to be an only. (Of course I realize we are lucky to have DS at all, and if something happened and more DC are not possible, I would be content!) DH has a two sisters and a brother. He is quite close to his eldest sister and his brother even those his brother is an arse . (He gets along well with his other sister too; we just don't see her as much.) So we've talked about how we would like for DS to have siblings to have that type of relationship with.

It's just that he (DH) is the most cautious, indecisive man alive. Usually this works out well because I am far too spontaneous for my own good :) , so we kind of balance each other out. But he always feels like it's never the right time to do anything and it's driving me crazy! If DS hadn't been a "surprise" I doubt we'd have children even now.

It's probably immature but I've been very irritated with him for a few days now and been giving him the cold shoulder. I told him that I'm really angry with him and I'm not going to pretend that I'm not. So basically, fun times at the Cheerful household!

Sigh....

Well, anyway. Enough whining. Have a lovely weekend everyone! I'm going out with a friend tonight to see a band we used to follow around in our pre-mommy days and then DS has a swimming birthday party to go to on Sunday, which should be fun.

valiumredhead · 16/04/2011 18:14

Hello Folks! :)

I haven't read back so please excuse me jumping right back in. My Grandfather died last weekend so have been with my family. Although he was 90 it's a bit of a shock as he and my Grandmother ( who died 2 years ago) were very constant in my life, we moved around a LOT so they were always 'there' iykwim? It keeps catching me by surprise that they are both gone now Sad

Ds is SO upset as he was really close to both of them, Nan going was awful and now Grandad too has just really rattled him. We have been doing lots of fun things over the holiday to try and take his mind of it all.

I hope all the benchers are well and I'll post when I can - it's all a bit hectic here atm, but it'll settle down after the funeral x

CheerfulYank · 16/04/2011 18:43

I'm so sorry Valium . :(

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Teaandcakeplease · 16/04/2011 19:17

Elmo I think they're contagious for only 5 days from when the spots first appear. If they've all scabbed over nicely then it's fine.

Cheerful infuriating as it is, I saw first hand the strain on my marriage with a surprise second baby that my H wasn't mentally ready for. My H found it terribly difficult. In fact it was one of the main contributory factors to our marriage breakdown. I'm certain of it. It changed the dynamics drastically. I know not every H is like mine. But it's much better to have a planned second baby imo. If he's unsure it must be so hard. He'll come round in the end. But your patience must be wearing thin. But 2 kids is a big change from one. Life with one was simple. Love my kids but boy am I exhausted Grin

Posting from my phone so excuse the typos. Flying home tomorrow for a rest!

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Tiredmumno1 · 16/04/2011 21:22

Valium sorry for your loss, hope you are ok.

Cheerful, am sad to hear about the disagreement with dh, i hope you resolve it, remind him we only have one life so enjoy it

Hello to the rest of my buddies, i am having a lil drinky poos tonight, and relaxin in the new house, its so much bigger, i am glad we moved, the town is 5 mins walk away, so all is good

Been missin you all

And jamie was wearing your jacket today, he looked so cute Smile

Tiredmumno1 · 16/04/2011 21:23

That last comment was to cheerful Blush

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