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Original poster

to want to report a really close friend for claiming &earning?

172 replies

havenobrain · 01/04/2011 19:20

she claims what ever you are allowed for having two dc,no husband,no earnings. She has her mortgage paid too (interest only by gov).
She is working for an accident claims company cash in hand £70 a day and more money if the public that she names has a successful claim.
She works 5 days a week. It's not guarenteed work but she's been doing for a few months now!
She's got loads of money&me&my dh can hardly afford to pay the mortgage let alone book a holiday as she did today to Spain!
If I'm honest I'm jealous. I have no treats. My dh gets up every day at 5/6 a.m& works so hard. We have no luxuries. Sad

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ShirleyKnot · 01/04/2011 19:21

HOORAY!

LadyThumb · 01/04/2011 19:23

She's a Benefit Cheat - report her, because we're ALL paying for her dishonesty.

SenoritaViva · 01/04/2011 19:25

I don't think your motivation for doing it is right (jealousy etc. but at least you were honest!)

However, I don't think she should be cheating benefits and therefore would report, it is just plain wrong when there are so many cuts happening (or any time I suppose, but particularly when everyone is bearing the brunt).

LittleNicci · 01/04/2011 19:26

Report her.

ShirleyKnot · 01/04/2011 19:26

I'm not! I'm paying for that woman over there's dishonesty. Her

Look at her. Eating a cream slice when all I've got is a lint covered polo mint.

beesimo · 01/04/2011 19:31

Backstabbing a really close friend is a far bigger crime than diddling the goverment. You are a bit of a bergrudger aren't you, jealously is a curse not a blessing get on with your own life and stop bloody whinging.

I have no doubt she will end up getting 'caught' as there is always someone who gets half a tale and goes off half cocked to the powers that may be.

Some pal you are.

DoingTheBestICan · 01/04/2011 19:34

But she isnt diddling the govt is she? She is diddling every tax payer in the country.

I admire your honesty op & i think i would report her also,then again i believe in karma & what goes round comes round.

uniquegeek · 01/04/2011 19:35

Report her but you aren't a really close friend are you really?

nethunsreject · 01/04/2011 19:36

Why not challenge her on it?

Of course it is wrong and she shouldn't do it, but if she is a friends, give her a chance to do the right thing.

Grumpystiltskin · 01/04/2011 19:36

Five days a week and getting her mortgage paid...that's pretty necky. I would find it very hard not to do something about this but then I would like to think that my friends are not the sort of people who would cheat and lie their way to extra money.

Lovethelittlefishes · 01/04/2011 19:37

Doesn't sound like she's found herself stable, longterm employment at this point, so I think reporting her for cheating the system might be a little hasty. Maybe ask her if she's reporting her earnings?

SomethingProfound · 01/04/2011 19:38

REPORT HER or pm me her details and I'll do it! Grin

ShirleyKnot · 01/04/2011 19:38

If I were, you know, evil and were cheating the Honest British Taxpayer out of their Hard Earned Money Alarm Clock Britain Big Society (sorry, not sure what happened there) then I'm not sure I'd be telling all and sundry and best friends and people what I walk dogs with and showing them my back statements and stuff.

Tsp. These Benefit Cheaters should really get their act together. There are so many of them with Loose Lips

bigbeagleeyes · 01/04/2011 19:40

Are you sure she works cash in hand? I would have thought most accident/claims companies would be legit., and everything declared or would be would be working illegally.

FuppyGish · 01/04/2011 19:40

Shirley, will you share your mint with me?

LaurieFairyCake · 01/04/2011 19:42

She's not your friend

a friend is not a gloating bitch who watches you have nothing and tells you all about her mortgage being paid and her trip to Spain

don't grass her up (that's not karma) just get better friends

mamatomany · 01/04/2011 19:42

Do you think she'll stop claiming if the employment is steady, I must admit when you see the problems caused by signing on and off and then back on again i can't say i blame her until she knows if the job is a good one or not.

mamatomany · 01/04/2011 19:43

Oh yes and you know mortgage support, ctb and is follows on for a while after you've signed off don't you ?

Particles · 01/04/2011 19:45

I will still pay the same amount of tax whether you report your "really close friend" or not. Sigh.
I personally would concentrate on making things better for myself so that I didn't have to envy people who may or may not be cheating the Benefits system. How do you know she is not declaring her earnings? From what I understand, if she brings home under a certain amount per week she can still claim so based on an average wage she might still be entitled to anything she receives.

ShirleyKnot · 01/04/2011 19:47

Fuppygish. I will. You can have the hole in the middle.

meditrina · 01/04/2011 19:48

If she has correctly declared her earnings (and if it's for a major company, it is likely to be legit), then she would have nothing to fear from investigation.

smartyparts · 01/04/2011 19:48

I have a family member who lives with his gf and ds. He runs his own company.

They pretend they live apart so his gf can claim for absolutely everything.

I disapprove, massively. But wouldn't dream of reporting them.

Original poster
havenobrain · 01/04/2011 19:49

No I suppose really we r not that close. We are very different. I love her kids to bits. She is quite a selfish mum& palms them off at any opportunity. We have fallen out on so many occassions and it's always when I'm honest with. She loves to have drama in her life.
Oh I don't know. When I said jealous I didn't mean I wish I could do what she is doing I just wish that me and my family were a little bit more comfortable. We really struggle.

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atswimtwolengths · 01/04/2011 19:51

I think that's about £20 per week, Particles, not £350!

ShirleyKnot · 01/04/2011 19:52

Does "palming off" your kids mean smacking or SOMETHING WORSE?

Cos this shit is about to get real.