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to want to report a really close friend for claiming &earning?

172 replies

havenobrain · 01/04/2011 19:20

she claims what ever you are allowed for having two dc,no husband,no earnings. She has her mortgage paid too (interest only by gov).
She is working for an accident claims company cash in hand £70 a day and more money if the public that she names has a successful claim.
She works 5 days a week. It's not guarenteed work but she's been doing for a few months now!
She's got loads of money&me&my dh can hardly afford to pay the mortgage let alone book a holiday as she did today to Spain!
If I'm honest I'm jealous. I have no treats. My dh gets up every day at 5/6 a.m& works so hard. We have no luxuries. Sad

OP posts:
Clarabumps · 01/04/2011 19:53

bear in mind that once she is reported and will be charged then she will go to court and she'll have a criminal record which may prevent her from getting a job again. I am totally on the fence with this one as i have a friend who is doing this and i know someone who has been prosecuted for it. You can also go to jail for this crime.. i dont know if i could be responsible for sending a friend to jail should the worst happen. I get where you're coming from tho..its bloody sickening!!

Particles · 01/04/2011 19:54

I thought op said it wasn't guaranteed work as in not contracted hours? Working two hours a day for example, over five days per week probably wouldn't push her over any limits.

ShirleyKnot · 01/04/2011 19:54

Oh but wait. Is she the reason I get text messages telling me I've had an accident and could get 350 quid for my injuries?

ohnoudidnt · 01/04/2011 19:54

what she is doing is not right but you are being very disloyal as a friend.I believe the truth always comes out anyway but i certainly dont think it should come from you.

MigratingCoconuts · 01/04/2011 19:54

She doesn't sound much of a friend to me.

GORGEOUSX · 01/04/2011 19:56

Can you please tell me why we should work and pay taxes to keep your friend in luxuries? It's not difficult is it? Report her NOW! Angry

Particles · 01/04/2011 19:56

Just caught up with the £70 per day - perhaps not then!

MigratingCoconuts · 01/04/2011 19:56

How can the truth 'out' if no one has the balls to actually 'out' it???

thats just passing the buck to some other poor sap or its plain gutless.

beesimo · 01/04/2011 19:56

Do you have any idea what you may be starting. Some of the local single Mams who work on a casual basis got 'investigated' last year they all had a brilliant time at gestapo headquarters, had their money suspended sraight away and we did have one suicide attempt and another one ended up getting caught shoplifting food food for her DCS.

Still they probably deserved it and it gave the spiteful person who ratted them out a golden glow of self satisfaction

FuppyGish · 01/04/2011 19:58

Shirls you fuck Grin I just starting sucking it and then realised nothing was there.

You betrayed me, I'm telling Hully. And that scary Figgy? Fergy? Fliggy? Whatever her scary ass was called.

GORGEOUSX · 01/04/2011 19:58

beesimo Everything you just said, except for the suicide, has made me very happy indeed!

TrillianAstra · 01/04/2011 19:59

Why would you be friends with someone so selfish and deluded? What makes her think that she is special and the rules don't apply to her?

cazza40 · 01/04/2011 19:59

Yabu in fact you sound like a rotten friend. Leave her alone !

ENormaSnob · 01/04/2011 20:00

Report the theiving cow.

bubblecoral · 01/04/2011 20:01

Report her.

Beesimo, if these single Mums were decent people (and decent mothers) they wouldn't have put themselves in that position in the first place. If people don't cheat, they have nothing to fear.

GORGEOUSX · 01/04/2011 20:01

particles Yes, you'll pay the same tax, but somebody more deserving, who really needs the benefits and is entitled to it, will get help, because there will be more in the pot.

LoveLeonardCohen · 01/04/2011 20:02

Do NOT report her....the repercussions of your actions would have far reaching consequences that you may not intend.
Your motivation is jealousy and bitterness. If you feel so strongly, by all means go ahead and challenge her face to face about it. Going behind her back to the authorities because you feel resentful is a cowardly action

GORGEOUSX · 01/04/2011 20:04

I suspect the people who are telling you not to report her, don't pay taxes and are on benefits themselves. Nobody who pays tax wants to give it thieving low-life.

LittleNicci · 01/04/2011 20:07

Hmmm, you can tell who on this thread is of the same ilk as the "really close friend".

Triggles · 01/04/2011 20:07

And I'd stop referring to her as your "really close friend" as well....as it's obvious from your comments that you are not her friend....

FuppyGish · 01/04/2011 20:08

Gorgeous - I pay higher tax rate, I still wouldn't advocate reporting her. Not because of her but because of the effect on her children.

Let her worry about what shes doing, everyone else worry about their own lives.

chunkyjojo · 01/04/2011 20:08

Cant believe some people here think its wrong or underhand to report a crime! Thousands of people are getting benefits they are not entitled to - guess where the money comes from? Your taxes! What she is doing is wring and you should report her.

Beesimo your post seems a little hysterical, surely someone attempting suicide has underlying issues?

cazza40 · 01/04/2011 20:09

That's rubbish I pay tax I just think it's a stupid idea to report her op is just jealous and sounds like a shit 'friend'

IQuiteLikeVodka · 01/04/2011 20:09

she shouldn't have told you.

IQuiteLikeVodka · 01/04/2011 20:10

what about the £16billion unclaimed benefits?? I don't think it's affecting the whingers (you know who you are) as much as they think.....