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AIBU?

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Original poster

to want to report a really close friend for claiming &earning?

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havenobrain · 01/04/2011 19:20

she claims what ever you are allowed for having two dc,no husband,no earnings. She has her mortgage paid too (interest only by gov).
She is working for an accident claims company cash in hand £70 a day and more money if the public that she names has a successful claim.
She works 5 days a week. It's not guarenteed work but she's been doing for a few months now!
She's got loads of money&me&my dh can hardly afford to pay the mortgage let alone book a holiday as she did today to Spain!
If I'm honest I'm jealous. I have no treats. My dh gets up every day at 5/6 a.m& works so hard. We have no luxuries.

OP posts:

usualsuspect · 01/04/2011 23:23

no to glasses for badgers

or foxes ..

short sited foxes are cool

MissGreatBritain · 01/04/2011 23:33

No, to be honest she was a friend I wanted out of my life, because she was constantly pissing me off with her "look how clever I am" attitude by not paying her TV licence, always parking on double yellow lines/ in disabled spaces etc etc. Everything that those of us who live by the law don't do, she thought was very cool. Her stupidity and general selfishness really got on my tits. So yes, I reported her, and I'm glad I did. We all have to live in this country, and we have rules to live by so that we can all get along. I have no time for those who break rules, sorry. Same goes for speeding, tax evasion, etc. I don't expect to get away with it, so why should anyone else?

usualsuspect · 01/04/2011 23:35

You were a good friend

ShirleyKnot · 01/04/2011 23:39

No, exactly, why should people get away with anything?

Laws are laws.

usualsuspect · 01/04/2011 23:40

everthebeliver · 01/04/2011 23:44

havenobrain: I am so glad you are not a friend of mine, you sound like a mean spirited horrible nasty bxxtch. what goes around comes around I say. Why would you begrudge your friend anything. These threads do not cease to amaze me. So called friends to thier faces back stabbing so and so's behind thier backs

mamatomany · 01/04/2011 23:48

short sighted foxes are usually flat, on the M53

MissGreatBritain · 01/04/2011 23:49

But why should people get something for nothing? It's not an unreasonable thing to suggest. If I have to pay for something, it's only natural that I'm going to be annoyed if someone else is taking the piss and getting it for nothing. If my friend had been in need of money/couldn't afford it then that would be a different matter. But when it's just to try to be cool and show off to your peers then it's wrong. It's not big and it's not clever. We all have to pay our way, and those who can afford to contribute should, so that those genuinely in need can be helped.

usualsuspect · 01/04/2011 23:49

Thats true mamatomany

hmc · 01/04/2011 23:51

Why are you friends - you clearly hate her?

ShirleyKnot · 01/04/2011 23:59

Seriously MissGreatBritain.

Why does it bother you so much? You just get on with your life, live by your moral code. Pay for what you pay for enjoy your life, enjoy that feeling when you get into bed that you've done the right thing. (I'm not being sarcastic here either, honestly, this is what I do)

What I don't do is worry about other people's soul or what is going to happen to them or whether they're paying their TV license or not?

They'll get caught anyway - the TV license people are on it.

Also, you seem to be running with some strange pack if they think dodging their tv licence or parking on a double yello makes them cool. Seriously. Sort that shit out.

TondelayoSchwarzkopf · 02/04/2011 00:10

Having read this thread I'm now a little bit in love with both Shirley and Glasnost

MotherMucca · 02/04/2011 00:34

I'm too busy in my hot tub to add anything constructive or intelligent.

Apart fro to say: Shirleyknot and beesimo, you'd both get it.

everthebeliver · 02/04/2011 00:54

and goodnight to all xxx tommorow is another day, another battle to face, lets hope the sun is shining on all of us

LDNmummy · 02/04/2011 01:10

If you love her kids the don't report her as they will suffer too. You are two faced in all honesty and resentful.

I don't think she is right to claim and work cash in hand but as you said, the job is not assured.

Who needs friends ay...

LDNmummy · 02/04/2011 01:14

"I have no time for those who break rules, sorry."

OMGoodness you sound like a goody two shoe's playground tattle tale.

Would you report someone for walking on a bit of grass where a sign say's DO NOT WALK ON GRASS?

expatinscotland · 02/04/2011 01:18

I'd say FA.

I'd pretend I never had a clue.

Reality · 02/04/2011 08:15

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Parmallama · 02/04/2011 09:51

I think that as a friend you should definately challenge what she is doing, if you haven't already.

In these times of austerity people are really suffering with facilities cut, pay freezes, job losses all round etc

Benefit fraud costs this country in excess of 1 billion every year..so why should those who are cheating the system get away with it?

Parmallama · 02/04/2011 09:55

Can't imagine that anyone working and paying taxes would encourage the OP to turn a blind eye when indirectly they are the ones paying for the billion or so of benefit fraud each year.

chicaguapa · 02/04/2011 10:04

Typical mn. Attack the OP, tell her she's a crap friend/ horrible person and defend the scrounging friend who's cheating the benefits system.

YANBU to want to report your friend. Though actually doing it might be a step too far. The consequences would be further reaching than her simply getting her benefits stopped and it would stay with her forever. I would just drop her as a friend, and if you want to make a point about it, say it's because of the benefit fraud.

mypandasgotcrabs · 02/04/2011 10:08

havenobrain - have you tried claiming benefits yourself?

I'm shocked as to how much we get. DP is on minimum shitty wage, working his arse off for 40 odd hours a week and only brings home just enough to cover our rent. However we receive benefits totalling almost double his wages! The amount we get into the house is equivalent to the take home pay of someone who is earning in the 40% tax bracket.

Yes it's wrong that she's claiming benefits & not declaring her earnings, but irregular income really does fuck things up so maybe that's why she's doing it until she gets a guaranteed permanent wage. Or maybe she is declaring it, but still under the earnings threshold to get everything topped up.

Put some claims in for benefits yourself, you may be surprised.

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