To be in a total state over ds7 having his tonsils out and considering cancelling

[MilaMae]

Ds has an enlarged tonsil.

When he's ill it swells up,it annoys him all the time.He constantly throat clears,coughs etc.It drives his peers mad(and he gets teased).

When he does a lot of activity(eg long bike ride,running around) he has to catch his breath more than his twin.He dislikes reading aloud etc.He ended up in A&E with flu at Xmas due to the damn thing making him think he couldn't breath(his twin didn't).

Anyhow I was thrilled we'd got a date but after a hospital visit(form signing etc),speaking to friends etc I'm now crapping myself,seriously. The consultants are happy to do it but kind of handed the decision over to us.

The dtwins are long awaited IVF twins and I feel like I'm spirally back into this fraught filled ttc,newborn anxiety days ie convinced he's going to be taken away. We've been the 1 in 10000 before so even though there is only a tiny chance of anything bad happening I've blown it up big time.

I get really tearful when thinking about it,can't think about it etc. He's very excited which makes it worse. If something happens I'll never be able to forgive myself as obviously he could poke up with it.

Really don't know what to do.I know I deserve a virtual slap and many mothers have far worse to worry about so I feel bad being so silly but I really am terrified.

So should I cancel or not?

I had mine out at 7. I loved being in hospital because there were other children there, and once my tonsils were out, I felt well enough to play. I had been ill with recurring tonsilitus for the best part of 2 years. The worst thing I remember is a sore throat afterwards for about a day.... but it was nothing compared to the tonsilitus!

THere is an identified risk with

Giving birth
Having dental treatement
Eating cheese
Crossing the road
Using mobile phones
Eating saturated fat

Have you never done any of those things either ?

Bogeyface don't forget flying/driving a car/swimming/using a sharp knife when angry.....

I didnt want to go OTT Boosmummie and panic her completely :o

I also do not believe an anaethetist would say that to anyone before an op. I've had a couple in my time, and they're obliged to tell you no operation is risk free before you sign the consent form, but would never say "it happens more than you think". I echo bollocks.

pahahahahahaha

My 3yo recently had his tonsils and adenoids out. It took me just over a year to finally get them to agree to this.
He constantly had tonsilitis and at one time was on AB's 4 times in 6 months! Plus he suffered sleep apnoea(sp?).
When we finally received the appointment slot, it didn't even cross my mind not to go through with it.
And now, 6 months on, he is absolutely fine. He has not even had a cough. He breathes fine whilst sleeping, he doesn't snore.
The only down side is that it has caused his voice to be a bit more high pitched, so slightly annoying

Mila I just want to say that I underwent two major operations in the theatres I worked in. Hand on heart I can tell you that I was not scared of things going wrong because I knew how well looked after I would be. My husband is about to undergo major surgery too and he is of course nervous. I'm sad that his body have to undergo a bit of a battering (because of the sort of surgery he will be having) and his recovery will take a while, but not worried about the outcome in any other sense.

Hope that reassures you x

THere are no guarantees in life, everyone knows that and the OP will be taken through the risks etc before the consent, if she hasnt already.

What I find more irresponsible is the asumption that just because something CAN go wrong, it will and that that somehow justifies you spreading ill informed rubbish amongst terrified parents!

Do it now OP, I had mine out at 17 and it was a truly hideous experience.

Kerry you are not helping and are speaking out of your lowest orifice.

Everything has a risk.

Including not being able to breathe properly because a swollen tonsil is blocking your throat.

This is in danger of going round in circles.....I'm going to bed. Bogey be careful when you go up the stairs.....

Ah so the anaesthetist (ie the person who actually works in theatres day in day out) didnt say that....

Who here is saying that there is no risk whatsoever? And of course no-one can predict who will have a bad reaction, but if you do (which is very rare) the outcome is very much dependent on the quality of care you receive.

I would never normally say this on here, but you really dont know what you are on about, and on this occasion (for once ) I do.

That is so childish.

Shit I don't know what to do.

I hadn't even heard of the CJD risk thing,we're in England.

Tried googling and petrified myself even more. Don't know if it's laser,single use instruments(which have risks) or the others with the CJD risk thing.

I don't know who to ask.I can't ring the surgeon as his secretary has already bent over backwards to get me the date I need.

I don't want to turn up on the day,ask questions and then mess everybody about(ds included)by chickening out. I won't even meet the anaesthetist until then.

I really don't know what to do. Have been out all afternoon and really felt positive but totally shitting myself now. Tis my own fault for starting the thread I know.

Dont take any notice of KM Mila, she cant even spell anaesthetist.

I wouldnt even give CJD a second thought. This came to light in 2001, so was sorted long ago.

Ask your questions on the day, its fine. I dont think you will chicken out actually, but of course it is entirely your choice.

Hope youre happy now KM with your ill-informed rubbish.

Mila read the link I posted back there. It applies to Scotland but will give you an idea of what to look for.

Kerry is talking absolute crap.

Honestly.

Seriously, don't let some crackpot on an internet forum make you jeopardise your DS quality of life.