What minor social skills malfunctions annoy you then?

[doctormonkey]

For me, it's when you talk to someone who has something significant in common with you, but proceeds to lecture you about it as though you know nothing about it.

I met a woman at toddler group the other day with two children the same age and sex as my own two children who proceeded to lecture me all about what having two children of that age and sex is like as if this were all brand new information to me.

She knew I had two children the same age and sex as hers - I had pointed them out to her when she asked.

This sort of thing gets on my wick - don't people have the basic conversation skills to do anything other than talk about themselves these days?

Oh! Another one. When people say "I'm terribly outspoken", under the pretext of apologising in advance, when really they're just trying to inject some personality into the introduction. Surely...you don't need to speak more about it! People who say "if I was really being nasty to you, you would be crying by now", as if they're that witty and threatening they can have that effect on you. Completely complimenting themselves. People who are really devastating don't need to affirm it just in case we don't know what they can do.

People who make noises with their mouths- this is where my Aspie sensitivity rears its unwelcome head- but anyone smacking their mouth or making little clicks would annoy people. Once I had to sit in a train compartment with a man who wouldn't stop making these little noises for the entire two hours. My mother with me and at one point I was so frustrated, I just erupted into laughter and from that point he just went at it more vigourously than ever...
Oh and people, in mid conversation, who make a big whollomping noise with their mouths. Do you know what I mean? At the start of a sentence. Yuck.

People who, if you start on a topic immediately know far more about it than you then lecture you on it, regardless of what knowledge you have, because they haven't asked. I was once lectured on a system that I had implemented...I already knew quite a lot about it, thanks.

People who, when you express a liking or preference immediately rubbish it and tell you it is crap.

People who ask you what you paid for something, then tell you they could have got it cheaper, or better.

Oh, and if you think Parmesan smells like vomit you are buying the wrong Parmesan.

People who whistle!! I once had to get off a bus and wait for the next one because a man at the back (and it always seems to be men) was whistling.

People who talk AT you rather than with you.

Being unable to use a knife and fork properly.
Not saying please and thank you.
yawning without putting a hand to the mouth,
chewing gum in meetings

"Being unable to use a knife and fork properly."
Quite. Especially holding a knife like a pen.

I think if you want people to understand (quite rightly) that your aspie senses might be sent ajangling then you might also need to consider that the mouth clicking could be a tourettes thing.

I had a manager who clicked and did the whollomp noise and he had tourettes.

turning their back on you when standing in a group as if to exclude you from some vital piece of gossip that they just have to impart to another person of the group, and talking in a low whisper.

I definitely have a "thing" about knives and forks, dating back to when I came home from school and held my knife like a pen and my mother hit the roof (I was 11 and hadn't seen it done before). I have to avert my gaze!
I hate being hugged by people I hardly know. I find it a bit tricky with close friends, but I really think you should have some kind of relationship before people take liberties. I can manage a handshake though.

Doctormonkey- I hadn't thought of that. Thanks.
But with the whollomping noise, what I mean is...everyone seems to do it. It's not a tic. It's only once in a while, but it's so loud and deliberate. Older people more than those in their 20s/30s.
Well, anyway. Persistant mouth clickers have my blessing from now on :)

I don't like 'touchers'.

It takes a long time for me to warm up to someone to the point where I will touch their arm or whatever to emphasise a point.

I don't like it when someone you have just met touches you like that.

Personal space people, respect it.

"I had a manager who clicked and did the whollomp noise and he had tourettes"

Someone I know does that too. Yep it's somewhere on the line between stammering and tourettes. Definitely not NT

Omg the person who said shy people should get couselling...
That's great advice is everyone has the money to do that, otherwise there is a long waiting list. It's not that simple!

I don't like rude people, shy people aren't always rude people.

I went into a clothes shop the other day and I vaguely know the woman who owns it. She said hello and then said 'you've got bigger, are you eating too much?'
Why the hell would someone say that?!
Which reminds me of the other thing I hate, pushy shop assistants! I ended up trying on a hideous tracksuit once due to a pushy shop assisant. I never wear tracksuits and I went into the shop for a gift for someone else!!

DP is shy he has avoidance personality disorder. He can have panic attacks at the thought of speaking to someone many people think he is rude he is not he is just scared. He has problems in work and is trying but it takes time, once you get to know him he is very friendly this was caused by severe bullying BTW he has a problem with his eye and had all his fingers broken by bullies .

I am sorry to revive this thread but I can't bear it when people brush their hair in public (except in the Ladies of course). My very old fashioned Granny impressed upon us that you mustn't brush your hair downstairs either