to think if you dont donate to comic relief......

[LilaTheBrave]

You're a complete arsehole.

I gave £2 for the lads donations at school, including for Ds1 who wasn't in today and not donated anything else. I give money regularly throughout the year to various charities, both for overseas aid and for this country and to be honest I haven't watched Cominc Relief in years.

Yep I'm an arsehole

Why should I give money to a pointless act of national guilt tripping, you want to give money to Charity go ahead be my guest.

but why all the shouting about it, why the programs on TV why the stupid sponsorship of idiots in fancy dress? you wanna give money do so and use the money you spent on the fancy dress to donate to.

it's charity mixed with a healthy dose of consumerism , buy our chap and we will give a few pennies, I see no point in Red noses, daffodils, poppies, ribbons etc, what are they medals? to say you are a good citizen who has given money, here is your reward.

such trash

I donate to my local hospice,Alzheimer's Society and ARC a small uk Charity.

I have bought a few CR items on ebay because I liked them. Everyone is an individual if you get so worked up about the issue I suggest you use the energy constructively.

When I was 15 I "fed the world" I shall be 40 this year and things are still as bad, malnourished, malaria riddled children dying of illness that should be easily treated, the money is not (for the most part) reaching the people who need it.

I would rather put my money to something that can be changed!

i'm now starting to change my mind having read a few of the posts on here that maybe i shouldn't have donated?! i did feel a bit emotionally blackmailed at the time was just so sad to see those poor babies.

i donated £50 last night (well i donated £25 and DH said he would match it) plus a red nose for my care
plus £10 on various charities/dressing up/sponsorships at work.

still about those babies though i have been thinking of them all day, just want to go over there and hug them.

sorry red nose for my car

lila

Do you give to any other charity during the year or do voluntary work?

Yes it is tragic but it is a higher power then money that can change it.

For years aid and charity donations have been sent in to these country's and still children are dying.

Education and contraceptives are needed as much as clean water and mosquito nets. But anything is a drop in the ocean for the needs are vast.

I will not give to comic relief as it is throwing good money after bad, we are in a recession and it is hard enough to meet the needs of my own two children without being guilt tripped in to trying to save the whole world when it can not be done, our children and their children will still be poring money in to Africa for decades to come and the outcome will be the same, starving children dying from dirty water and D&V.

But thanks OP and you can rest assured that due to your stupid out burst less money will be going

As Smithy said to George Michael, "you can't be in Comic Relief, because its FOR people like you"

if someone could guarantee that my £50 in totality would go into the care of the babies shown on telly (i didnt watch it), and doesnt go to

a) corrupt governments and their flash new cars
b) expenses for zelebs
c) paying for film crews etc to fly around the world

i would gladly hand over my £50 to the doctor in charge

unfortunately i dont believe even a fraction will get through

And thinking about it, i am a bit if an arsehole anyway.

Hmmm... 'a bit 'if' an arsehole'?

There seem to be alot of arseholes about today..

AIBU to think that if people only donate to charities they see on TV, they are arseholes?

Actually, I think CR has a much better record than many for getting donations to those in need, and not frittered away in bureaucracy or bribes.

I end up buying CR bits for DC to fit in at school; and I'll sponsor any schoolboy willing to wear a dress in a good cause .

But I loathe CR nonetheless. Because of the arm-twisting & forced joviality of it... OP's attitude is a case in point, really! Lots of other charities I donate to, because I like them, not because somebody did a special song & dance.

A bit if an arsehole is very odd isn't it?

Just an arsehole. Quicker to type, less chance for error and ultimately more accurate.

An arsehole can be a bit iffy though.

Very true. My iffy arsehole issues seeped through my subconscious and onto my iPad

I don't.

I bought the 3 dc a nose and payed 50p each for mufty day. Couldn't afford more.

I constantly seem to be shelling out for school fund raising and other school charity stuff so feel I do my bit.

Couldn't give a stuff what anybody thinks to be frank.

op is an arsehole

Perhaps a bit of a shame that our main Comic Relief discussion thread on MN has centered more on who is and who is not an arsehole, rather than on the people and causes the money will be going to.

A bit like navel gazing, but this year it's arsehole gazing !

But I guess that's what you get when you start a thread on Comic Relief with the post,

"You're a complete arsehole"

Love to all, arseholes or not

But actually whilst watching last night it dawned on me.. where does all this money actually go??? £22 for food for x amount if time.£5 for a net...£40+ million was raised last time, so why is there no change in situations? At 10pm last night £46million had been raised... yet in 2 years time.... again nothing would of changed.

Exactly my view, 26 years of sending huge amounts of money here & there & nothing is changing.

74 million raised this year, 64 million last year. Show me an hour long programme proving where that 64 million actually changed something.

Sick women dying of aids but still giving birth to babies they can't feed?

Mosquito nets? Why do they still need mosquito nets? 64 million & there are stil not enough nets which are needed to stop even more deaths?

It's all so misguided & poorly distributed.

If you watched it and didn't donate because you can't afford it, fair enough.

If you watched it and didn't donate because you can't be bothered informing yourself about where the money goes and instead tell yourself that it's throwing good money after bad and that it changes nothing - both patently untrue as you would see if you took the time to find out more about it instead of posting on mumsnet - well, what the OP said.

I am now a bit worried about all the arseholes out there getting no help or support. Someone should help them. It is tragic really. Maybe people could donate a few quid to help.

The Sleep Fairy - It's all so misguided & poorly distributed.

And you're a development expert, are you? You know better, I assume?

Comic Relief are development experts. They know what they're doing. Too disgusted to read any more of a thread where people are slagging off a great cause that raises money and changes people's lives. Mumsnet really is the lowest common denominator, thank God you do not represent the majority and there are kinder, less ignorant people out there.

notreallyno - have you been out to Africa and seen Comic Relief in action? do you know for a fact that what you are saying is true (that they are development experts)?

because I used to work out there, for the British Gov, and a big part of my job was clearing up after the mess that was left after a few do-good projects didn't do the good they shoudl have done.

A lot of good work is done.

A lot of damage is done.

Sometimes, what is done in the name of aid and relief is sickening.