to think if you dont donate to comic relief......

[LilaTheBrave]

You're a complete arsehole.

i have just taken up running......am amazed at how quickly i have built my fitness up!! and its truly addictive yes,be proud of him!

gah - I'm jealous - I used to run when I was much younger - and ride as well (20+ miles a trip just for fun - though the last "big" ride I did was from Hout Bay to half way into the Cape Point National park many many moons ago).

Sadly can't do either with 3 young children on my own now

I have donated, probably a fair bit if I added up all the tat the children have made me buy. Much like you OP, they have brain washed by the school and TV to believe that the only way you can help is to give to Comic Relief.

I won't be donating tonight though. And I won't be handing over a £10 note at the PO tomorrow like I normally do for natural diasters. I could afford to but then I wouldn't be able to afford this month's £10 DD to our local Hospice.

Op, some of us don't need a TV program to tell us to help others. I didn't watch it and didn't donate.

tsc i was just thinking we might get to meet up at the marathon if i make it in to watch

Ahem, My name is BCO and I'm an arsehole.

Ok so the OP wants to know how if you watch it you don't donate

22:56 You're a complete arsehole.. yep

22:58 Well why wouldn't you?!. cos I dont want to

23:02 Nope. I couldn't. If you don't donate, you're an areshole!! . nope, still not donating, yep ok im an arsehole

23:05 Really? I'm amazed, can you watch it and not donate? I'm skint, really skint, but I can't not give something?! yes really! Be even more amazed. I watch it and Im not skint (comparable) and I CAN and DO not give anything.

23:08 Yep I did, again why wouldn't you?. because I choose not to

23:22 I don't own a house, how hard is it to give something? I don't mean a lot, I mean something?
I do own a house, I dont care how much you mean.

23:25 No I don't actually!!! I still think if you don't donate to it, while you watch it, you're an areshole.. Ok Im an arsehole, If I dont watch it next year does that mean I wont be an arsehole?

23:40 Good grief you really do amaze me.. Oh I think your arrogant self abnignation has amazed people on here far more than any amazement you have for others

I now refer to your 23:33 post

Yep, I would say it in real life......

really, well done you, but tell me OP do you do anything hands on to help these people or do you just throw in a few coppers or whatever and clear your concience with a smug smile as you open your wallet, then close it and then close your eyes and walk away.
See some people do hands on stuff to help people in a more immediate way, not necessarily this particular charity but thats no never mind. Who says who's need is greater.
So I could give you a running commentary on what I do and what I know lots of people do and how their gift of time and hands on approach over a long period of time is much more helpful and meaningful than your patronising smile as you offer money and walk away , but I wont because , well because Im an arsehole and you are a judgemental nob and I am quoting my friend here but
There is no more deeply moving spiritual experience than popping the bubble of some useless, brainless person who thinks they have a valid opinion about something they know nothing about. Thats you OP

oh and before you say it yes I know.....Im an arsehole

I'm with OP here [not the arsehole bit} but I can't watch a minute of CR without becoming very upset and donating. I always have!

The whole event is basically aimed at people like OP and me who react crying and snotty strongly enough with the emotive films to donate.

You lot are either too sophisticated to be taken in by this slebby appeal or rich enough to have a DD to donate elsewhere.

rich? sophisticated??? haha - not me.

You are a rebel blackeyeddog. Too much wine maybe.

Sorry Blackeyeddog. That was really rude.

Sigh. All this mudslinging. People being called smug for donating. For crying out loud. Let's look at the faces of mums watching their babies die of malaria. Even a pound makes a difference, does it matter which tv personality begged for it? What matters is that lucky western living people acknowledge that by geographical accident of birth they were born into a relatively safe existence and not born fighting a losing battle.

And yes, I've donated, my husband and kids have too. Whether our donations go to Africa or Leeds I'm happy just to have been humbled for a moment, to acknowledge that people need help.

Easy for us to call it celebrity tosh, but id sure as hell rather be on this side of the tv cameras.

Some wine skippity! But anyone watching this prog is told about the miniscule amounts that make a difference. It's so desperate. If I had a lot of money I would feel an arehole not to offer a chunk of it.

Agreed Dog. I wish I could give more.

YABVVVVU. Who are you to tell us what charity to donate to? How do you know what other peoples' charitable giving commitments are??? I gave £1.50 to my kids for their red nose days and that's all I'm giving to this particular charity because I don't trust it and I don't need to see a lot of tragic stories to prompt me to give to charity. You have no idea what I've given to other charities this month or year, so how dare you judge. If you want to give to this ONE of MANY causes then do so, but don't worry about what the rest of us are doing.

I literally don't have any money to donate, apart from the red noses I have bought for my children in the past week. I can't watch it, it makes my piss boil.

I saw a news item on bbc24 the other month, can't remember where/when it was. The news item was that some "ruling body" sorry can't remember which one, was half asleep, decided that after supporting a population since the 60's, a starving one (somewhere in Africa I think).

They would no longer bother . There was no good reason for this decision, they had sacks and sacks of food to distribute, they had simply decided that unless people were literally starving they would no longer give them out. The poor people had 1 weeks notice, they were literally eating the material their houses were made from .

It's not us little people that can make a difference, it's the people with all the money and power. That's why those heart rending appeals drive me insane. The pharmaceutical companies could donate that malaria medicine, and still make an obscene profit from the west.

It all makes me sick lately, the speed the Japan disaster dropped out of popular view being one thing. If it doesn't affect you it doesn't matter.
£10 to comic relief, all is well with the world.

I can't afford to donate to charity at the moment but I give free holistic therapy to very poorly people who can't afford to pay for it.

Yet I am an arsehole. Kiss my flaps!

Ok ok, need to rephrase my op. What I meant:

AIBU to be amazed that people can watch comic relief all night and then not give anything.

I think some of you make good points about giving to other charities etc. I am sorry if I offended anyone with my arsehole posts, I didn't mean to, it just surprises me.

And I'm far from having enough money to see me through, but I just couldn't watch it and not donate.

Maybe that makes me a sucker, but I couldn't care less which celebrities were on it, it is just so sad.

I'm a professional fundraiser. I wonder how far I'd get with donors using phrases like "If you don't donate you're an arsehole".

Don't you realise that Comic Relief isn't the only charity in the world? It certainly isn't the only one fighting against famine.

Why aren't you out helping the Japanese Red Cross at the moment? And the homeless problem in the UK? Why aren't you volunteering in a hostel at the moment. You arsehole!

Oh fine, I just explained my post but carry on!

I do give to other charities etc, but it wasn't the point I was ( badly) making.

My point was, how can people sit there, watch it all evening and give NOTHING..?

''AIBU to be amazed that people can watch comic relief all night and then not give anything.''

Lila YA still BU.

Refer to my earlier posting on this thread.

What a truly, truly unpleasant bunch of people you are.Regardless of whether you've donated or not.

The OP made a silly comment, to show how moved she'd been by the stuff she'd seen on TV, which granted she could have put better.

You are like a mob of bullies who scent blood and crowd in on someone. Just for saying that, she's been told that she's probably never donated to charity in her 'vile' existence and sworn at. Just sickening. It was a thread about a charity event and you have all dragged it down to mumsnet's usual nasty bullying level. Disgusting.

I didn't watch Comic relief, not this year and not any year. I don't ever watch children in need either. I find it all irritating and not very entertaining tbh.

I hate the way that giving to charity has become obligatory and 'arseholes' like the op judge people who don't donate.

I work as a nursery nurse at the frontline, for a pittance, making a real difference with young children who might otherwise not get the best start in life, who might otherwise not make the best decisions in life, or might not have the best life skills without my early intervention. I am already making a difference to peoples lives.
It's not all about the money.

Um.
I am just reading this thread but perhaps the tone was set somewhat by the op calling people areseholes?

Just a thought.