SWC, I do see that saying someone is pissed is a novel take on saying she is a moron when you don't agree with her, and I'll be honest, I admire your efforts to mix things up a bit, I really do!
I tried to say a while back that I don't know your or your child's specific circumstances, and from what you say I guess you're not looking at Eton or anything but somewhere very specifically tailored to helping him with specific issues.
But that wasn't good enough for you, and you seem to like to have it all ways round with the 'chose private because mainstream wouldn't be right' and the 'private is better anyway' camps, so I'm really not sure where you're genuinely coming from.
I am sure your situation is exceptional and far too complex for my tiny mind to comprehend, and I wish you all the luck in the world.
But the fact remains you are terrible at arguing, incredibly defensive, and - it pains me to say it - not very bright.