To punch an old lady right in the kisser?...

[SquishyBumsMum]

Ok, ok, so I would never actually punch an old lady, or anyone for that matter..
But AIBU to be extremely pissed off that an old woman approached me in a coffee shop to say how cute DS was etc and then proceeded to tell me how much she felt sorry for me ruining my life at this age with kids, and she bets it's hard coping on my own but then how nice it must be to just be able to live off of everyone else's hard earned taxes and claim benefits. Ooh and what are the council houses in this area like as her friends daughter is moving into one soon...

FGS yes, I'm a young mother, but apart from working tax credits and child benefit, I don't get any benefits! My DP and I work very hard for what we have and are proud that we stand on our own two feet.

Not that there's anything wrong with being on benefits, it just pisses me off that people seem to see a young mum and assume I don't know who the dad is/can't possibly be in a good relationship/live purely on benefits.

I don't see old people and instantly think "Hey look, a demented, incontinent, old biddy!"

So aibu, or should I just accept that this is what people think of younger mothers?

I don't understand why people don't believe the OP.

They should also lay off her. If you are only saying it because a previous poster did. Get minds of your own.

OP. YANBU.

lol at Bristol bus

Anotherplace.. I told her not to call me to look after her when she has been decked.

:o

I can understand your frustration.....SquishyBumsMum....I really think the old biddy was a cheaky cow tbh.

My MIL has a first class honours degree in offering an unwanted and often inappropriate opinion to complete strangers. She completed her education with a Phd in stating the bleeding obvious.

The other day she was out with my DN in her pram and got a puncture, she complained that several people stopped her on the way home to say "do you know you've got a puncture", apparently she found this most annoying

You should have asked if she enjoyed living off benefits too if she was old enough to get a pension, free bus pass , winter fuel allowance, these are all paid by the taxpayer.

I have never received comments from anyone in real life about how I chose to feed my DD when she was a baby, neither have any of my friends who have children.

I have never suffered from or known anyone who has been a victim of domestic violence.

I have never experienced crappy service from my doctor or the NHS in general, nor do I know anyone who has.

I have never experienced overt sexism directed at me or which has prevented me from progressing in my career. Neither have I witnessed it in any of the places I work.

By the logic of some on here, I should obviously respond to any threads about these things by saying that I don't believe the OP, because you know, it obviously doesn't happen because I've never seen it or experienced it

OP - it sounds like she was being a little tactless rather than intentionally nasty - don't let it get to you.

Nah, don't believe it, sorry. Think OP was looking for an opportuntity to boast about the fact she is a young mum with 8 zillion A levels and not on benefits.

Well done pet

Lenak not everyone is being categorised in this way if they don't believe the OP, it jus seems that the general consensus is that it must be fabricated without any reason as to why it comes across that way. There are no inconsistencies to OP's story yet people have been on her case about it.

Teenagers.

Always uo in the air about something, huff at the drop of a hat.
OAPs.

Always offering their unwanted wisdom to strangers and family alike.
Thank God I'm neither.

Old people are scum.

Young people are scum.

Middle-aged people. Scum.

You are scum.

So is your mum.

And your dog.

Want a fight? PM me you cunts.

Morning bupcakes...

lovely day..

Standard MN response when someone posts about something that shatters illusions that many posters hold dear = "that did not happen"

We did have a nasty old woman neighbour a few years ago who used to give two fingers to all the DC from her front window.
Sadly she died.

I told her once during a disagreement that she could get her face unpuckered for free on the NHS.

Is that true, reeling?

Quite true...straight out of Rab C Nesbit.

It isn't a question of shattering illusions. It's a question of finding it so hard to beleive. Yes I must live in a different world but strangers are hardly ever rude or offensive. Least of all old ladies. Even teenagers are nice by and large here I don't exactly live in Leafytown-on-Nirvana either.

There are some OPs that seem a little too much like straw men to be credible.

Strangers are rarely horrid.

It's the ones you know who think they can say what they want with impunity (in my limited experience).

I think it happened but FWIW I think the OP needs to either answer back or get over it.

Younger mums join MN and can slot right in, others join MN with their teenage attitudes and make a show of themselves. Only time will tell what type the OP is.

OP you are a mum now and should be articulate enough to defend yourself against this old lady without being rude. You don't have to tell the old lady your history just that, quite frankly, its none of her business.
I never got comments when I had DS at 18 - or maybe I just ignored stupid opinions of strangers - I can't remember (getting old).

Well, I've never been subjected to an OAP radge-attack like many MNers seem to have been either. The old folk here are lovely, it seems. Doesn't mean I automatically think someone is telling pork pies if they say they have experienced it though...

No indeed. I don't really think she is either.