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Have you ever taken a child to a child-free wedding?

454 replies

Hammy02 · 12/03/2011 13:01

This isn't a rant about attitudes to children at weddings. Due to finances, I am having a v.small wedding (20 people for the ceremony & reception) so having to exclude lots of adults that we would rather have there. I am just worried that one of the couples we are inviting will ignore the no-children stipulation and bring theirs anyway. If they do, there will be no-where for them to sit as the room we have hired for the reception is a table for 20 only. Have you ever ignored the no-child comment on an invite?

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freebreeze · 17/03/2011 22:20

Really is it THAT bad? I mean it's sounding like a crime-against-humanity criminal event the way some of you are reating to Human. It's really not that huge a crime. Worse things are happening in the world ladies.

We in fact did have a child free wedding and one family did ignore this and bring their kids. It wasn't that big a deal. Weddings are surely about the fact that you are entering a marriage and celebrating that with family/friends - not about all the minute details of the day. Don't you think?

happiestblonde · 17/03/2011 22:49

Nah.

I want to be a total bridezilla. Anyone with children, wearing white, with a cold, with ermm clashing colours to my bridesmaid dresses/colour scheme... all out. I might even pelt them with cake. I wish bloody DP would hurry up and bloody propose Wine

fastedwina · 17/03/2011 22:53

so your not even engaged, no wedding is on the horizon and your obsessing this much - yup, bridezilla you will be. Grin

mrsgordonfreeman · 17/03/2011 23:00

I don't give a shit about other people's boring prissy child free weddings.

I will never go to one again.

As for brides crying that their dress is dirty and needs cleaning: why? So it's ready for the next time they wear it?

I would like to add that the woman who suggested training a bf baby to take a bottle should take one of the many, many bottles I tried to persuade dd to drink from and stick it up her bottom.

happiestblonde · 17/03/2011 23:04

did mention this earlier...

just fancied wading in for the fight Wink

mrsgordonfreeman · 17/03/2011 23:09

you know what else I don't like?

I've yet to go to a wedding where the bride's dress wasn't exactly the same as every other dress I've ever seen and yet they're all deluded that theirs is, like, really original.

thumbwitch · 17/03/2011 23:19

mrsgf - my dress in fact wasn't like anyone elses for many years. It had been bought some 13y prior to my actually getting married (long story, cba to explain) and had sleeves an' everything! it was very different to the current efforts, even 4y ago (things don't appear to have changed much in 4y).

thumbwitch · 17/03/2011 23:24

happiestblonde - I offer you this thread for your entertainment guide.
Enjoy! Grin

fastedwina · 17/03/2011 23:28

nah, mine wasn't particularly original but it was lovely and cheap. It still got absolutely covered in huge stains, that was beer from the adults - not children tearing about stains!

ChaoticAngelofAnarchy · 17/03/2011 23:33

If I ever get married I think I'll piss everyone off and just invite the dog WinkGrin

thumbwitch · 17/03/2011 23:45

Well I must admit I was tempted by going to an orangutan sanctuary in Borneo and getting married there, Chaotic - but couldn't manage it in the end.
Grin

Maryz · 17/03/2011 23:47

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thumbwitch · 17/03/2011 23:58

was it in chat? Was it moved to MN CLassics? I'll go and have a look...

thumbwitch · 18/03/2011 00:01

here you are maryz - just for you Grin

ChaoticAngelofAnarchy · 18/03/2011 00:05

Orangutans would have added a certain something thumb Grin

thumbwitch · 18/03/2011 00:08

DH said it would be like having a whole bunch of my cousins there HmmGrin (I hasten to point out that none of my actual cousins remotely resemble orangutans!)

Maryz · 18/03/2011 00:10

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ChaoticAngelofAnarchy · 18/03/2011 00:14

Grin thumb

I've opened that thread in another tab and will save it for tomorrow. Off to bed now, night :)

thumbwitch · 18/03/2011 00:26

oh do read the other one as well - it was bloody funny, someone suggesting that everyone should come to her wedding in pink!
Mary, it just sounded like something that would have been moved to classics - took me a while to find the Classics topic though!Hmm

Maryz · 18/03/2011 00:44

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fastedwina · 18/03/2011 01:04

goes both ways though. If you really like /love the bride or groom - often you will go to crazy lengths to be there for them and try and join in the spirit of the day - even if it is not always your thing and often at great cost. Equally, as I think loved guests/friends/family is also what makes a wedding special - I think the bride and groom should equally be prepared to accommodate their special/loved guests. You can never make everyone happy and choices have to be made but surely it is never just about the bride and groom - unless they don't really care about guests.

thumbwitch · 18/03/2011 02:13

oh you're right about that fastedwina - I went to one friend's wedding where everyone was asked to come in Indian dress, because the bride was Indian and the groom wasn't but they wanted to make it as much like an Indian wedding as they could, partly for the bride and partly to appease her mother. So the groom was drummed in, a bunch of us learnt some traditional bhangra dances which we then started the dancing part of the evening with; and about 80% of the guests were in traditional Indian dress. My other Indian friend brought about 5 saris with her to lend out and then had to help everyone dress as well, bless her.

But we did it because we cared enough for the bride and groom to help them have the day they wanted.

happiestblonde · 18/03/2011 02:15

That sounds so, so fun.

thumbwitch · 18/03/2011 02:19

Ah happiestblonde - I have just seen on another thread that your DP is super-Scottish - that means you too can force ask your guests to dress in national dress! Kilts ahoy! oo, I love a good kilted wedding.
Grin

Wamster · 18/03/2011 08:50

Where do people get off on pissing off their guests? Do they honestly think they'll get Brownie points or something? This is an anonymous forum so I do not see the point of being dishonest: the guests do NOT forgive or forget Bridezilla behaviour.
Guests are not bl saints.

I attended a wedding once where the spoilt little *** of a bride went into a huge strop because the icing on her precious cake was not quite right.

Nerves are one thing, her behaviour was ridiculous.