busy,annoyed sahm

[lovelymumma]

I went to childrens party today.Feel upset that uncle asked @what i did with all my spare time.Uncle is nice,but never had children,and made me feel as if because I am at home and 3 children are in school,I should have all the time in the world.A school day after u drop kids off and before u leave to pick them up gives you 5 and half hours.I probably spend half hour eating having coffee,whilst catching up on e mails or post.an hour walking dogs.An hour doing washing and ironing.Another hour cleaning house and trying to order stuff children need off internet for various activities or catching up on doing garden or clearing stuff out,or putting clothes away.another hour can be spent on shopping or cooking,which usually leaves an hour for trying to decorate our new,old house.I don't see where I'm supposed to have all this spare time.At same party dad who only has children once or twice a week asked me if I worked,and thought I was so lucky not too.aaagh,just having a rant,because they think my life is so perfect,with all this spare time for me!

Beat that? Challenge accepted.

I am a WOHM with 2 cleaners, a window cleaner, a CM and a gardener.

lame heckling.only on mn

However I clearly cannot italicise now that MN let you do whole sentences.

Pah.

Bugger

Can't [wunk]

PS 2 CM, one for each child, bad planning I know.......

Well the Dcs had nannies and aupairs when they were younger but now they are too bolshy old ...

How about the handyman? You can't beat a good handyman.

what? over use italics?

"Why do some of the posters on this thread think that running a home should be exempt from 'recognition' purely on the grounds that everyone does it." Because the only people bitching about not getting recognition is poster like the OP.

Bossyboop Too bad for you to have a DH that doesn't engage in domesticity. Mine cooks on his two days off and will do dishes, load dryer if I'm busy doing other things and sweep if need be. He understands that I do this all week, and the chores get done faster when there's two of us to do them on his days off.

Blueshoes "It is the SAHMs, esp those with school-age children, that can just about get away with chaos because there is so much give to their day. I find it so much easier to organise things with WOHMs because they understand and respect the need to plan in advance. It is the SAHMs that like to live impromptu that are so difficult to get hold of and commit." I swing both ways.. I love filling up my diary book with working moms and friend dates and its easy for me because I have a little leeway in my day and work around their schedule, although D is only 2 and NB comes in spring, but love that I can and, so long as DD isn't napping, pick up and go when I feel like it.
"Once your children are at school, a SAHM's life is easier." This is the original discussion; SAHM with children at home all day and SAHM with full time school age children and how the two differ. One is not harder than the other, but one is certainly a little easier than the other, iyswim.

scottishmummy I think you hit it on the head with the fact that you are neither guilty or stressed and it sounds like you enjoy your career very much. Not everyone, parents or not, have that luxury, although I'm of the sense that only you change what is shit in your life and stop martyering about it, which is why I am absolutely happy with my life. I get to be an artist with representation and a parent and stay at home, although, I wish I could enjoy more wine. But in terms of HE to SE, I guess you'd need to bring in Montessori style 'teaching' as well, because that isn't traditional either.

"Once your children are at school, a SAHM's life is easier." This is the original discussion; SAHM with children at home all day and SAHM with full time school age children and how the two differ. One is not harder than the other, but one is certainly a little easier than the other, iyswim.

How about employing a cook to pop the ready made meals into the micro

I did think of that but I like cooking :) Really like cooking.

Sorry to burst your bubble but all working parents ( see I can do it) do not live on takeaways and ready meals. I made chicken kievs from scratch last night and have just finished making DS's birthday cake (from scratch, naturally).

Please say we can call a truce

I used to house clean and worked a few years in housekeeping at hotels... loved the job TBH. I just love cleaning. Hate cooking, which is why I married a Chef. He'll even go through the fridge for me before heading to work and set up a 'menu' for me to cook, otherwise DD and I would eat a rotation of toast and peanut butter, cereal or pasta.

Truce ... particularly since the OP has left us all out to dry since her original post. Perhaps she's out on a buying stamps expedition.

Right, I also have a man to clean my car while I am working. I WIN

:) See if only she had to practise effective time management she would have purchased those urgent stamps when she was doing her weekly (note weekly not daily) shop

And tush, I get my car valeted every month by a nice man wielding a head of steam. You do not win, you merely draw :)

DH's car, on the other hand resembles a tip. If I were a Stepford wife, i would wield a head of steam and clean it for him. As things stand, I simply refuse to set foot in it and require him to drive mine

yes, every day. My 10 year old Golf is worth it

op does faff stretching tasks whole day unnecessarily