I flashed my headlights at someone today and then gave them the finger

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fucking witch wouldn't let me pull out from parking into a slow-moving queue at traffic lights

seriously made a point of speeding up until she was level with me

The person behind her did though

so I flashed and gave her the finger

she deserved it - it was such purposeful bad manners / etiquette whatever you call it

AIBU?

I hate bad driving but YABU only because it probably gave her some satisfaction to know she'd annoyed you! xx

yes, you were a bit, imo. highway code does not give you right of way in the circumstances you describe and she was under no obligation to give you way.

It would have been nice of her to do so, yes. I certainly would have, but she didn't actually do anything wrong.

Why bother?

You ended up behind her instead of in front.

"so I flashed and gave her the finger"

Maybe so many people have done this, that´s why she isn´t courteous any more.

YABU.

Do you behave like that when you are walking down the street?

Or only when you're in your metal bubble?

I flashed my headlights at someone yesterday for overtaking me in a 30 zone when I was doing 30 - they zoomed past at about 45mph. About five minutes later I caught up to them as we were both held up by traffic in front. I don't normally do this but it does so annoy me when people speed on this stretch of road as there is no pavement at one part and pedestrians have been run over before. Also further down the road it is a 60mph limit but this section is clearly marked at 30 because it is more built up.

Charming!

How is there parking near traffic lights ?

I don't often let people out. Not because I'm a fucking witch but because I worry that I'll flash to let them out, they'll start to move and then someone behind/infront might not realise what's going on and overtake/turn and there'll be a bump.

Same reason I never beckon pedestrians across the road; they might walk out, on my instruction, only to get ploughed down by someone coming the other way.

YABU She might not have felt it was 100% safe and didn't really deserve the finger.

I doubt it made you feel better - you're still dwelling on it after the event and she's probably gone home/to work and not given it a second thought. YABU. Sorry.

I've only had a few driving lessons but I did call someone a cunt fool under my breath when they drove straight across a roundabout leading me to think they were going to turn right when I was emerging and frightening the life out of me.

I wouldn't expect to be let out in that situation though. Perhaps she had a really good reason for getting out before you and speeded up to give you a gap?

Be interested in this thread if it turns into a catalogue of driving crimes. Know Thine Enemy and all that

you're all wrong

she was unneccessarily aggressive in her speeding up towards a traffic light - which was 20 cars away by the way all stationary.

I only needed to get past one parked car to nip down a side road and get home

YouMakeMeWannaLaLa good for you. The pedestrian crossings and zebra crossings where I live are bloody lethal because there are two lanes of traffic.

I worry about letting DD (10) cross to the library because drivers are always hurriedly beckoning pedestrians across when there is another car speeding up the inside lane!

How weird you are. What life-changing thing would you have done with those extra few seconds gained by pulling out in front of her instead of behind her?

Maybe she'd already let ten other people out that day and thought it was someone else's turn?

I try to let people out/in where I can, but a couple of days ago had been waiting for ages at roadworks and let someone out who then proceeded to do a three-point turn in front of me, resulted in my missing the next cycle of green lights, and he didn't even thank me. Tosser!

So I felt a bit less charitable after that.

I was actually moving at the time, not parked

life-changing thing - nothing

what life-changing thing did she do by acting like a cunt? - she made me cross enough to swear at her

bad manners begets bad manners

PMSL at "You're all wrong" in AIBU. Respect, OP

they drove straight across a roundabout leading me to think they were going to turn right when I was emerging

Huh ????

I'm not sure I quite understand ... but sounds like you;re saying they werent' signalling, but noentheless pulled out in front of them ?!

Please please continue with the lessons.

thank you mists

doffs imaginary hat

But why were you moving ?

Were you parked illegally near traffic lights ?

You sound lovely

Aggressive behaviour and obscene gestures to other road users are never acceptable IMO. Also there's always the odd nutter who may well get out of their car and thump you, so really not worth the risk. Sometimes people just make mistakes or are a bit oblivious and don't really deserve it. The ones who are just twats (and I acknowledge there are many) have to live with their own shitty personality, which I like to comfort myself is usually punishment enough!

Thank you

i am rather lovely