I flashed my headlights at someone today and then gave them the finger

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fucking witch wouldn't let me pull out from parking into a slow-moving queue at traffic lights

seriously made a point of speeding up until she was level with me

The person behind her did though

so I flashed and gave her the finger

she deserved it - it was such purposeful bad manners / etiquette whatever you call it

AIBU?

you what?

big i-am online all "fucking witch" etc tapping away at home

wuss

cluck cluck

bet you dont say boo to the goose

@ scottishmummy

what do you think I should do scottishmummy

rant in the street?

challenge her to a duel

ROFL

of course I'm ranting online - and enjoying it immensely

of course I didn't challenge her to a fight - I don't fight are you suggesting I should

pistols at dawn

You'll give yourself a stroke. Relax-its not worth it. Have done similar stupid things myself when pre menstrual though

Hahaha

I would have done the headlamp flash without the finger gesture - the latter being a little vulgar

OP

If you were walking and someone walked in your way.
I bet you'd both say sorry

Why when you are in a car (and it's not just you) is it ok to be so aggressive?

Radge?

I would have gotten out and kicked her car.

Buck up your game, OP, you can do better

Maybe this will help

www.firstfoot.com/dictionary/r.html

Youllskimmer (great name by the way)

I think a closer analogy is the walking towards a checkout or cashpoint and someone running to nip in front of me

in which case I'd probably pointedly say "excuse me?"

(as an aside awwwww DD (6) is sitting on th floor with DS2's (13) head near her knee and she's just stroking his hair - and he's letting her)

I think you will find that it's customary for drivers approaching a motorway from a slip road to judge traffic and speed and merge accordingly, some drivers may consider moving into middle lane to allow others on but they are certainly under no obligation to do so.

On the basis of your incorrect assumption that everyone must swerve into middle lane to allow you onto a moterway I am assuming the other driver today was also in the right so yes YABU

I take it you don't use the motorway much

yes it is up the sliproad joiner to judge speed and distance but it is COMMON COURTESY to pull out and allow them to join where it is safe to do so

I thought everybody knew that

activate - have read whole thread now...many of the other posters are being a little bit barmy (bless!)

I hate discourtesy on the roads and would always flash a mild rebuke (but as aforementioned wouldn't do hand gesture)

'She' probably didn't give two shits whether you flashed and fingered anyway, she was probably too busy muah-ha-ha-ing at her 'winning'.

And you, like, losing :o

I would have let you in though (probably :) )

I am always on motorways, accompanied by nutters people like you.

All I want to do is get home safely

and agree with you on joining motorways - it promotes greater safety and better traffic flow if cars from the slip road can merge at a speed approximating the motorway average - which in turn is helped by alert and responsible driving from those in the left hand lane, pulling out into the middle lane where it is safe to do so

....most people on the motorway do tend to observe this principle, mercifully....

I think YABU. I would have let you in, but doesn't sound like it made any difference to the length of your journey and in the meantime you got yourself wound up about it.

god I read the thread title as you had finished doing someone's highlights today then gave them the finger.ie arsy hairdresser
pmsl

YANBU. I hate arsehole drivers like that.

with youlls on this one, and scottishmummy and nosuchthing... because you said you didn't know for sure if it was a WOMAN...so there. YABU.

here you are

"ALLOWING OTHERS TO JOIN THE MOTORWAY

It is usual for an entrance to arise letting others join the motorway after you have passed a motorway exit. Make sure that you look well ahead in this situation, especially if there are several vehicles joining the motorway. Be prepared to adjust your speed, or if safe to do so, move to another lane to make it easier for joining traffic."

from jsfdrivingschool.co.uk/category/news-and-articles/motorway-driving-tips/

and you can google more if you wish

youllskimmer
Interesting point there. I actually have quite a strict yet also fairly arbitrary criteria for who'll I'll let out into traffic (abide by the rules for motorways etc).

Usually I will let parents with children out, but only if they look friendly. Boy racers get let out because they are usually generous with their waves of thanks. Middle aged men don't get a look in.

I was at a roundabout today, there was nothing to the right but the road I was joining was full (temp traffic lights) so I waited (the rule being: if you can't get off a round about don't get on one). Some stupid whore in a gold Merc was to my left, I began to pull out as the traffic started going and she put her foot down and zoomed in front of me, missing my car by inches.

I beeped my horn and the traffic lights turned red so we were both literally stuck in the middle of the round about.

If I hadn't had my ds in the car I would've gotten out and kindly explained how a round about works.