I flashed my headlights at someone today and then gave them the finger

[activate]

fucking witch wouldn't let me pull out from parking into a slow-moving queue at traffic lights

seriously made a point of speeding up until she was level with me

The person behind her did though

so I flashed and gave her the finger

she deserved it - it was such purposeful bad manners / etiquette whatever you call it

AIBU?

lol

am I being unreasonable?

YES!

You're all wrong

I love it.

At least you're honest

You're my kinda gal.

YANBU. This is the correct and most appropriate response for anyone who does anything to even mildly piss you off. Well done, that lady!

Would you have done or said anything if it had been a couple of dodgy looking characters in the car?

Or did you do it because it was a woman? So not threatening?

Tries to explain situation

Was in a marked out parking zone in one of the lanes

there were no cars ahead of me for about 10 car lengths, then one car then the road I needed to turn left down

There was an gap in the traffic, so I was driving forward, indicated, started to pull out only to have the person in the car behind me speed up, close the gap so that her bumper approached my bonnet and made me swerve back - the person behind her hadn't speeded up and so there was ample space to pull out move round the 1 parked car, pull in and turn left - no impact on car behind

I took great pleasure in ensuring that her bad driving was marked by a good ol' fashioned southern finger - yeehah

Take no notice of them, activate.

You did the right thing. The world needs more like you. Too many of us suffer fools gladly.

I'm not even sure it was a woman - it was just a 4wd badly driven and I made a hugely sexist assumption

I ensured that I thanked the person behind with my hazards and a hand wave by the way

you sound like a prat

oh good - your opinion of me counts so much

typo - I meant of course Oh God

or did I?

heh heh heh

You had no right of way. She was rude but under no obligation to you.

This will get to 500+posts.

When did you pass your test?

I think you could do with retaking it.

cumfy I'm of course I am continuing. My instructor said he was wrong in his positioning. I stopped in time but it did frighten me.

He was coming from the right and instead of getting into the left lane to go across he was close to the roundabout until the last minute before cutting across where I was trying to turn left if that makes sense.

I've only had a few lessons as I said, hope that makes sense.

Well you cleary wholeheartedly believe you were in the right, and so don't need to know what anyone else thinks. If you're happy with being abusive to a total stranger who had the audacity to not get out of your way, then good luck to you. I just think that people acting like their need to get where they're going is more important than anyone else's is why driving can be so stressful sometimes. Does it really matter?

Oh and no signal as he came off left either.

activate, do you also think that drivers on the motorway have to pull over to let you on from the slip road?

the point is not that she didn't get out of my way

the point is that she made a point of speeding up to get in my way

anyway karma got her in the traffic light queue

I hope my finger made her feel very bad about herself too

YABU and I think that you really probably know that already.

notjustapopforsoup

it is customary practice on a motorway that if you are driving in the left-hand lane and approaching a junction where you can see traffic joining the motorway you move over to the middle lane should it be safe to do so

it is not customary practice on a motorway to ensure you block people from joining because the road belongs to you

oh god I know I was unreasonable but it felt good and I feel no regret and I'm a little bored so thought I'd start a polarising thread

unfortunately the poles are me, and possibly mists and everyone else

So what you mean is, essentially, you were both driving, you saw a gap in her lane and indicated to pull into it and then she sped up so you couldn't?

That's a rather different scenario to you being stationary and her not letting you pull out.

Either way I think you could do with some relaxation techniques. You sound like a very angry person. If I were to get that cross every time I drove and someone didn't let me out or was an arse or unthoughtful in any way, my blood would have literallly boiled over by the end of a journey.

No. Your finger would have made her dismiss you as an ill mannered lout

You should have waved at her and blown her a kiss

I get you now (Your OP wasn't that clear tbh), it was the fact she put her foot down when had she continued at the speed she was going before she saw you were going to go into the lane, then you would have slipped in easily without causing her to even touch the brake.

However, the person in the lane you want to go into has right of way, even if they choose to use that to speed up and stop you from getting into the lane.

So she was being petty to speed up just to stop you going ahead of her, when she was far enough away for it not to have affected her at all.

But highway code is very clear. indicating does not give you priority.

Giving the finger makes you common

It's happened to me loads. Some people seem to be terrified of someone getting in front of them, even when they are really far away they really put their foot down. I think they see it as queue-jumping

but, I say again, the finger made you appear loutish, my dear. such conduct is beneath you

Mists

That's almost exactly how I imagined it from your original description.

If someone isn't signalling the default assumption is they are carrying straight on (everywhere , not just roundabouts).

You can't just pull out -- you're not Mystic Meg - you don't "guess" where people are going! :o

so you were driving along the marked out parking zone? ie not on the road?