As I spent most of my time here..I thought I'd use it to say goodbye

[ThePosieParker]

As starkly reminded by recent threads, MN is not the sort of place that I feel very safe, with or without anonymity. I don't expect to be missed, I have often been quite and outspoken bitch on here and haven't exactly made a lot of friends. I am delighted to have met some of the feminists, and will hopefully see them again. But twice in two weeks I've had PMs reminding me of things I've posted about my husband and I'm really upset about it. For me MN has been a quick knee jerk experience, one that captures my mood at any moment. So toodle pip.....about time I did more with the dcs anyway.

I am really aware that this is an attention seeking thread, but I just wanted MN to know that I won't be the only one leaving when apparent heartbreak (not mine) is fodder for someone's 'shit stirring Sunday'.....

That's okay then! Just wanted to point out the obvious!

I was on that porn thread about a thread not about a thread, not sure I posted but was reading it. FFS you said nothing wrong on that thread it was all a bit of a non issue IYSWIM. it was a post asking a simple question that did appear to have a secretive undertone. making it a crock of shit in the first place.

TSC - nicely put

I dont disagree with why you are upset and think sending PM's is a shitty cowardly pathetic thing to do. However I know darn well if someone less known/liked posted this it would be 'oh stop attention seeking, if you dont want to stay just go' yada yada by many of the poster being so positive about YOUR thread.
Also I am a bit confused, do you mean you've been getting pm's from someone who knows you and feels you have hammed up how great your life is on here compared to reality?

tsc...

I agree with Tallulahxhunny... If you're having problems with being contacted, report them. There's a mechanism for you to do that. To post a leaving thread is a bit indulgent but if it makes you feel better then I guess it's ok but the maddening thing is that you're letting the person(s) who hurt you know that they had an affect on you. Do something about it if it's bothered you, nobody should get away with doing stuff like that.

Take a bit of time out and come back again rather than leave if it's not what you want but keep yourself safe information-wise, it's a lesson for everybody really. Nobody knows who else is here or whether people are who they say they are... if your details are kept private then it won't matter.

byebye posie you'll be sadly missed by us here in the shetland isles

Bascially Gemsy throughout my time on MN I have been honest with every post, not always consistent, because my life isn't consistent. I have posted things under different names, talked about my DH, parents and children. The PM reminded me of an old posting name and insinuated old threads that have been deleted. I find it very disconcerting and a little threatening.

Noone from RL has ever found me online.

Posie, I am really sorry to hear that someone has been stalkerish and vile to you. That is a real abuse of the email system. I have mainly have enjoyable discussions via PM. However, whenever anyone has emailed me in disagreement with something I have said, the resulting exchange has always been respectful and constructive (totally 100% acceptable to me and as it should be).

It sounds like a definate line has been crossed with regard to the messages you have received. IMHO, you should stay (it sounds like you want to). Report the poster and let MNHQ deal with them. This person knows who you are anyway so leaving will not remedy that aspect of the problem. For the same reason I would not bother namechanging either. The vile poster is most likely jealous of some aspect of you/your life. There is nothing much you can do about that. Don't let the loser spoil something (MN) that on the whole you enjoy.

It is woefully self indulgent but I am saying goodbye to an old friend and confident, she maybe Lenin one day, SPB the next, Pagwatch or LeQueen....but 'she' has been a source of kindness(OJ, MartinBishop), great learning (Riven, dittany) or just entertainment....too many to mention. But MN has been my friend....

No you fucking aren't. You are being a daft bint now. You are staying, and that's the end of it.

Look posie I did post on thread about a thread (pro-porn)if this is what this is about, so:

The PM person disagrees with you and is angry, but why make it so personal to the point they use other stuff - I think they maybe had a weaker argument or just couldnt accept that opposite views exist on most topics and wasnt mature enough to respect this. Maybe they were jealous or your ability to argue intelligently and used low references.

I mean they did away from public forums where people couldnt comment, this is cowardly its like a bully getting someone in the toilets aways from everyone else.

Will you report?

"But MN has been my frend" Then don't go.

If you are spending too much time here, getting upset over stuff that isn't "yours" to get upset about, then go have a break, come back if you want. But please don't be bullied off the site.

I have been away for a while, its not the same place as it was, i can tell you that. :(

Jeez...how could I forget the most beautiful woman on here!! BOF.

I will report but am still going to have to retreat. It's win/win for me!!

Whoa there I am being a daft bint....

I find it really bizarre that people continue to argue something on pm.

I thought pm was for gossip and laughs not nastiness.

If you need a break, of course you should take one, but please, seriously, don't let somebody's nastiness taint everything. Really.

and BoF is always right! and yes she is beautiful