As I spent most of my time here..I thought I'd use it to say goodbye

[ThePosieParker]

As starkly reminded by recent threads, MN is not the sort of place that I feel very safe, with or without anonymity. I don't expect to be missed, I have often been quite and outspoken bitch on here and haven't exactly made a lot of friends. I am delighted to have met some of the feminists, and will hopefully see them again. But twice in two weeks I've had PMs reminding me of things I've posted about my husband and I'm really upset about it. For me MN has been a quick knee jerk experience, one that captures my mood at any moment. So toodle pip.....about time I did more with the dcs anyway.

I am really aware that this is an attention seeking thread, but I just wanted MN to know that I won't be the only one leaving when apparent heartbreak (not mine) is fodder for someone's 'shit stirring Sunday'.....

Oh that really sucks that it was someone you 'know' (if only on the web).

I too think the PM thing is massively open to abuse, although I have never had anyone having a go at me on it and I can be quite rude...

Posie if this is the only reason for you wanting to leave then you are letting this coward win . Name & shame or report .

Report it even if you do decide to leave (which you shouldn't if you don't want to). Bullying via PM isn't on, nor is weirdy stalking.

Fwiw I like it when people who have been here a long time post to say they are leaving or taking a break. I hate that sense of familiar posters just disappearing.

Someone always posts like that janiesmum. And it always amuses me that they post on a thread to say that they think it is pointless.....which is kind of pointless.
Occasionally they have a point. Usually they are snarky little fuckers.

i dont get this leaving thread malarkey! Why say your leaving then linger on? why not just go after saying your piece? If you are having pms then report them, or post them for everyone to see and embarress the person who sent them? shrugs

Anyone posting that they were getting odd pms would get support.

Gemsy....that's the point isn't it, MN is so abrasive at times that someone posting what Janie wrote is barely flinched at. The fact that I'm a prolific no life outside MN poster means it's got to be relatively significant behaviour that makes me want to leave. I'm sure Mn will not change or even notice that I'm gone, even riven didn't leave much of a space, but it's a cautionary tale (even that is full of my own self importance!) that there are bitter, nasty people everywhere that are saving up your stories to rub in your face whenever you disagree with them.

Posie I dont frequent the feminist board ever, but I have seen some of your other post and tend to find what you say sensibe and kind and often funny.

I dont thibk you should leave on the basisyou have described. If folks feel the need to pm you either to support you or make convictions for you then do not respond or take to heart. some times we all contradict our selfs or say things that others do not see fitting with our persona but that is the purpose of being here. is it not to thrash those things out with like minded or not so like minded people. I change my mind on some very personal and political things on a daily basis.

I hope you re think and do not leave, take a break or name change if you must.

Agree with Pag. I don't like it when someone goes, but appreciate chance to say goodbye.

Posie just read your OP, I really hope that wasn't meaning the message I sent you?? I really never intended it to be like that?

I agree with pagwatch - its nice to know if people are going. And hey - at least when people post nasty messages it means I just add them to my ever growing list of people to ignore.

The pm thing is just nasty and I'd report to mnhq but suspect they'd be name-changers anyway.

I do think the name-changing thing is being massively exploited at the moment.

And I agree with the sentiment that a prolonged 'I'm leaving' is annoying....but it's hard not to respond!!

but Gemsy, she isn't a less wel known poster. these are the perks of being a prolific contribbuter

Posie, it's been a real pleasure to have a little 'discussion' with you. Don't feel bad about others, I feel a bit drawn in sometimes when I really should be doing something important. Have a break, then come back for a lurk! Good luck to you and yours.

Oh posie this person has really got to you, what about all the nice stories people could rub in your face! I dont know you but this isnt right.

Did you challenge them in any way re PM's, i always try to think about the persons motives to try an understand why theyve done it.

I am for name an shame them, but dont think you should be pressured into it especially if you feeling vulnerable as you dont knw what flack this may cause.

Take a look at the support youve got even from people who dont like you!

ok just read thread and I think probably not...phew
Please don't go

I think the irksome thing about the 'goodbye' threads is that quite often they are more like the one sulking in the corner at school, with everyone crowding round asking what's wrong? etc etc. And then the poster stays. There was one recently - did the whole self flagellating thing, got their self esteem back, stayed. After a while, it's a bit - meh. Sorry posie - not you really, just goodbye threads attracting vitriol.

Report to mnhq and get them banned!

I know why the person has done it, it's because I'm anti porn.....apparently it's a source of great anger.

Makes you wonder if the PM thing shoudlnt be regulated a bit more. I have had a couple of PMs but they have only been pleasant. Ive namechanged a lot over the past few weeks because i have come on here and ranted about personal shite and been embarrased.

Lost count of the amount of times i've left - sorry Posie but i even used to post these "goodbye" threads in the hope I wouldnt have the bareface cheek to come back!

Best of Luck

Grumpy....I've been here long enough to know saying 'goodbye' invites many 'oh just fuck off quietly' responses....I can cope with that!