To think I shouldn't have to eat everything at once to ensure getting something???

[TheyDidntKillKenny]

This happens all the time in our house. We buy something and within a day or so it's all gone. DH is the main culprit. He can't just leave something there, if he knows it's there he has to eat or drink it. An example - orange juice. I like fresh orange juice in a morning. DH drinks it constantly. We used to buy one big carton but DH would drink the lot before I had chance to have any. So after coming downstairs many times to an empty carton I told DH I'd buy my own just so I knew I could have some with my breakfast. He agreed. But then what happened was, he'd drink mine too. His excuse was "well I didn't think you wanted it, it's been there 3 days". My reasoning "yes but I DID want it, just not all at once" so he'd say "well if you want it, you should have drunk it". In the end I just stopped buying orange juice because I never got any anyway. But this happens with everything. If we buy a multipack of crisps, DH will eat them. Same with biscuits etc. A few weeks ago I picked up a pack of bounty cake things, there was 5 in the packet and I was really looking forward to trying one. I went to grab one the next day only to find the empty wrapper in the cupboard. DH said "I didn't think you wanted them." So it kind of erupted into an argument last night. Last week I bought 2 multipacks of muller light yogurts. By thursday there were only 2 left. DH said "I've saved us some of these before the kids eat them, which one do you want, toffee or cheesecake flavour?" I said "Toffee, it's the only flavour I like". So he eats the other one. Last night I remembered about the toffee yogurt, went to get it and needless to say, it had gone. DH said "well you should make sure you get in there before anyone else!". I shouldn't have to!!!! I said "I'm getting sick of this, if you don't scoff everything at once in this house you don't bloody get anything". He just went really quiet. I said "sod it, I'll have a snowball instead". Needless to say, they'd all gone too. I never got chance to try them either.

I know it sounds petty (hence the name-change, as I have another 'sensitive' thread going on that I don't want mixing with this one) but AIBU to think I deserve a bit more respect here?? Is it right that if you're part of a family it's a free-for-all with the food and that if you don't eat it instantly it's tough shit that you never get anything? Half the time I feel like hiding stuff I buy but I shouldn't have to!

What would happen if you bought more food? Would he just eat it at the same speed? That would be the simplest solution if it would work. Sorry, I can't really empathise with you because my partner is the slow eater and I'm the kitchen bin!

Shouldn't be a free for all especially if you've said you want something. Short of putting your name on stuff like when I was a student I don't know what to suggest.

Small safe with one key?

Is he very fat?

Yanbu

Tell your dh he is a greedy bastard.

I would hide stuff tbh.

Stop buying shite snacks then! Simple

YANBU, thats just ridiculous, childish and selfish behaviour. Ask him how old he is, as last time you checked, most people have learned some self restraint by the time they reach 18.....

Either you aren't buying enough food or he has some kind of issue he needs to address. Is he overweight?

When I had 3 teens in the house, this was an ongoing issue.

My greatest achievement was the frozen veg bags trick.

Ice-creams, and anything else liable to be scoffed before it had a chance to gather any ice on it was put inside empty sprout or carrot bags... no bugger ever though of looking in there.

Who pays for the shopping? If its you, then tell him he needs to make a contribution and you can buy more.

If its him, then just buy more anyway.

He sounds like a compulsive eater.

Doesn't he realise that the food needs to last a week or whatever?

DH used to do this with things like cheese and yoghurt when we first lived together, and it would drive me mad because I would go to use some in cooking and there would be none there.
I went mental at him and he stopped doing it.

Now that I do all the shopping and meal planning, he always asks before he dives head first into the fridge or cupboards.

It's not petty at all. Your DH is being selfish and excessively greedy.

I'd go on strike, no cooking, no shopping, no n-o-t-h-i-n-g... for him. Only sort the kids out.

Greediness is one thing I really can't stand, it's bad for your kids to see it as well, they will think the same as you, that they have to eat everything in one go to get anything.

Just tell him simply that you would like x,y and z and also tell him you expect him not to eat it, period.

He seems quite childish and should really understand a simple.. 'i want one of those in the fridge' and not eat it. How very annoying for you OP.

I'd be livid too. If we buy a multipack of something, DH will always try and save me one because like you I rarely want things straight away, but will still want to have one. Your 'D' H is unreasonable and bloody greedy to be frank. Why should he have three of something 'because they're there' instead of letting the slower eaters have a chance?

Oh squeakytoy that is GENIUS!

My DH is a bit like this as well but he's improved since I called him on it a litte while ago.

I'd bought some grapes because DD (13 months) was pointing at them in the supermarket (her new way of telling us she wants something - it's working quite well with food!) and before I got chance o give her any the next day, he'd scoffed the lot.

Telling him they were something she'd picked out seems to have worked whereas when it was something of mine, it didn;t seem to matter.

It is bloody annoying though. Even worse when they donlt put the empty packets in the damn bin!!

He must be enormous if he's eating at that speed. Does he genuinely not understand that he's eating the weekly shopping in just one or two days ?? How are your finances, is it a case that you can afford to keep replenishing or are finances tight? If tight then he's being incredibly selfish, if not tight (particularly) then he's just being an idiot and making more work for you which is not fair.

How about 'spiking' somethings he's likely to scoff?? laxative/chilli flakes/garlic?? In fact I'd be tempted to make a special batch of cakes just for him ;)

Squeaky, you are a genius. As a mum of a teen it just vanishes. I do hide stuff in my wardrobe sometimes. Teenage boys eat SO much.

Your DH is not being fair at all. Unless he is doing all the shopping and cooking and preparing, he should ask you first before wiping everything out!

Because I childmind, DH more often than not, asks he if can have something or if I need it. Even bread rolls!

THat sounds bloody maddening. DH is the opposite. I'll buy, say hot cross buns because we all love them. Days later they'll still be there because he didn't think they were his to eat. Or he'll ask if he can have one of my hot cross buns. I have told him time and time again, if I don't want him to have something, I'll hide it! Anything else is fair game.

It sound like the separate shelf etc wouldn't work though, the OP has effectively already tried that with the orange juice.

I'm send him shopping for more when i go for an item that should be there and isn't. But his behaviour is really weirdly selfish childish.

Pop on a post it note! THIS IS MINE DO NOT EAT!!

I shop daily to avoid this, it's exactly the same here, I spent £60 on Friday and today the cupboards are bare, the kids would eat cooking chocolate if I left it lying around.
I buy shit loads of fruit and then if anyone moans they are hungry they can eat that, funnily enough it never seems to run out.

If he grew up in a house where food was scarce I can see why he is like it. My Dad is similar. If the kids have an ice cream, he has to etc.