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To think I shouldn't have to eat everything at once to ensure getting something???

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TheyDidntKillKenny · 21/02/2011 16:41

This happens all the time in our house. We buy something and within a day or so it's all gone. DH is the main culprit. He can't just leave something there, if he knows it's there he has to eat or drink it. An example - orange juice. I like fresh orange juice in a morning. DH drinks it constantly. We used to buy one big carton but DH would drink the lot before I had chance to have any. So after coming downstairs many times to an empty carton I told DH I'd buy my own just so I knew I could have some with my breakfast. He agreed. But then what happened was, he'd drink mine too. His excuse was "well I didn't think you wanted it, it's been there 3 days". My reasoning "yes but I DID want it, just not all at once" so he'd say "well if you want it, you should have drunk it". In the end I just stopped buying orange juice because I never got any anyway. But this happens with everything. If we buy a multipack of crisps, DH will eat them. Same with biscuits etc. A few weeks ago I picked up a pack of bounty cake things, there was 5 in the packet and I was really looking forward to trying one. I went to grab one the next day only to find the empty wrapper in the cupboard. DH said "I didn't think you wanted them." So it kind of erupted into an argument last night. Last week I bought 2 multipacks of muller light yogurts. By thursday there were only 2 left. DH said "I've saved us some of these before the kids eat them, which one do you want, toffee or cheesecake flavour?" I said "Toffee, it's the only flavour I like". So he eats the other one. Last night I remembered about the toffee yogurt, went to get it and needless to say, it had gone. DH said "well you should make sure you get in there before anyone else!". I shouldn't have to!!!! I said "I'm getting sick of this, if you don't scoff everything at once in this house you don't bloody get anything". He just went really quiet. I said "sod it, I'll have a snowball instead". Needless to say, they'd all gone too. I never got chance to try them either.

I know it sounds petty (hence the name-change, as I have another 'sensitive' thread going on that I don't want mixing with this one) but AIBU to think I deserve a bit more respect here?? Is it right that if you're part of a family it's a free-for-all with the food and that if you don't eat it instantly it's tough shit that you never get anything? Half the time I feel like hiding stuff I buy but I shouldn't have to!

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foreverondiet · 23/02/2011 19:01

OP - having thought about this, I think you need to buy lots of stickers and when the food comes home from the supermarket label whats for you & the DC (& ideally write which day you plan to eat it as well etc).

Tell your DH that if he doesn't have the control to refrain from eating your food that has to last until the end of the week then he has to accept that he has an eating disorder and will look for help.

But I also don't really understand why you buy crisps/snowballs, surely by now you know he is going to eat them before you get a chance?

bubbub · 23/02/2011 19:17

LWITW, year i basicaly went in and read out what i had written, still dont think he really gets it, but he arranged a councelling sesion which will hopefully result in hypnotherepy or cbt, i dont know if this can be "fixed" but i am open to anything which will help.
thanks for the support again, it really gave me the kick up the bum to go and make a fuss, i knew there was a big issue but having been knocked back for help before and being made to feel i was being silly had made me feel it was never going to be fixed.
thanks all xx

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 23/02/2011 19:39

Bubbub... Good news on the counselling/CBT. What you're suffering IS a big issue and if that GP can't give you the support that you need, find another one. Perhaps the next step would be, after the counselling/CBT, to ask to see the practice manager at your surgery.

Basically, you can tell him/her that you have a problem and you need ongoing support. You can mention that you don't think your GP is affording sufficient attention to the detail of your problem and you want continued counselling/CBT/anything else that you think will help. The practice manager will take it up on your behalf and will also report back to you as the patient.

I went through this with my brother (multiple issues, all different) and it worked really well. Once the practice manager is involved, there's a procedure and a reporting process.

I'm so glad that you have a start at least... please post back how it goes (PM if you like)xx. :)

BsshBossh · 01/03/2011 11:54

OP, where are you? Is everything okay?

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