mn is a public website. We do not sign up to terms and conditions that say threads may not be discussed outside of mn, on twitter etc...

[wannaBe]

yep, thread about a thread... big deal.

so - thread started on mn. Another poster tweeted about said thread, came back to the thread and said she'd tweeted about it.

Subsequently posters called for her to be banned for tweeting about a sensitive thread, followed by lots of other nasty name-calling.

Thing is, the thread was public anyway. You don't have to be logged into mn to view it. You don't have to have a button next to each post to tweet about it - all you'd have to do is copy/paste the link into twitter. Once you put your private business on a public website you lose control over what happens to it/who talks about it/tweets about it/potentially writes about it in the press.

To suggest that a poster should be banned for talking about a thread that is on a public website, on another public website is ridiculous.

Mn has hundreds of thousands of hits a day. People are very naive if they think that their private, sensitive business is limited to the few people that post on the threads in question.

And people do discuss mn on twitter. Both in terms of threads/the potential genuineness of posters/the outcomes of threads. It's just that they don't come back on to mn to talk about having done so.

I have shared thread on Twitter - funny ones or touching ones. Ones that I thought that others might enjoy, or be interested in.

And of course there is a bit of "ooh, this one is kicking off" posting on Twitter.

Which doesn't mean to say that it should be an "Anything Goes" situation.

I guess the difference is that this was not a general arguing about porn discussion, which would have been ok to tweet about. This was a relationship crisis that caused a poster pain and upset.

I seem to have changed my mind there, and decided that it was not ok to tweet the thread. Hmm.

SS, I agree with Dittany

I really feel your time would be better spent talking to your DH, and to your dc

I hope you don't take that the wrong way. I feel for you, but this isn't helping you any more. It's been wrecked (not by you)

Cut it loose. I hope you are ok x

and actually I do think the buttons are irrelevant in this particular subject. As

a) there are (apparently) no buttons in relationships

b) I suspect the MNer would still have linked even if this were before any of the FB/Twttier buttons appeared on threads.

Please tell me where I have insulted you ss

MMeL...were you on the thread itself as it was unfolding ?

You would be even more convinced that what happened was the wrong thing to do, I promise you.

It was un-necessarily cruel.

"my point was that you can't be all coy about what you post and go on and on about privacy on the internet when she has posted about her husband's private life as well.

It's all a bit hypocritical isn't it"

See, I think the word "hypocritical" is an insult. You might view it as a compliment, but I do not.

I have not for one nanosecond gone on about privacy on the internet. I have just complained that a fellow MNer tweeted a thread that WAS NOT MEANT FOR TWEETING and talked about me being either a troll or having my vagina sewn up.

You're defending the indefensible. Really

and I don't even remember saying that I think that AL should have retweeted it, you don't know what I think because that's not the point I'm making

all I'm trying to point out is that it's a Public forum, anyone can read it, if you put it out there it's there for all to see. You can't be upset when it gets discussed somewhere else

PeterAndre
No, I was not on the thread. I skimmed it earlier.

On reading it, I was did more [eyeroll] at the fact that so many posters were using the thread to air their personal opinions on porn and the sex trade.

so multiple threads and lots of posts about the original thread are now all over the mn
website
this is much more widely viewed than it would have been in relationships with a few mumsnetting tweeters having a squint

you can't prevent this

even if mumsnet becomes locked to the public

Sue went and talked to some (gasp) REAL PEOPLE! You know, that I actually, personally know? Radical.

This must be a wind up. If you were really bothered you'd ask for everything to be deleted, not keep arguing about it.

But hey, it's cool. I'm sure you're only providing more entertainment for Alouiseg and her crew.

So, being told ( in a hugely sneering fashion) that the fact that you didn't believe your H used porn means you are deluded/in denial and you need to get real and accept that virtually every man uses porn, so you'd better basically shut up moaning and put up with it because his right to secrecy overrides your feelings and beliefs - that's not being ridiculed?
Really?

SS, this isn't helping

I said you should get your thread deleted last night

I purposely (with others) filled it up with bollocks to lock it earlier today

Go talk to your family

So far, I think your DH has much more right to be upset....

MMe Lindt, you and I are both twitter friends, although in this instance you do not know my identity (I'll PM you with my ID if you want).

I have always found you to be a fair and reasonable person. So I ask you now,

Do you think it is reasonable that this thread was tweeted, given that MN deliberately does not include a twitter button on this sensitive thread

Secondly, do you think it is reasonable that it has been tweeted in terms involving accusing me being a troll or having my vagina sewn up?

I'd just like you to answer those two questions.

There are clearly posters on MN who on multiple, multiple occasions have chosen to vent their repressed rage at their own husbands by directing it at other women instead. Perhaps these people just need to stop talking about porn so much? If it gets them so ragey?

Just a suggestion.

SS, you are going to get battered again

can't you see how this thread is going to turn ?

it's started already

already someone is taking your husband's side, it's sickening

< last try before I hide it >

SS, I would step away now - this isn't going to help to put your family back together and move on.

Or have a wank?

you see what I don't get about these spins off threads is this.

I did read the start of the porn thread - but didn't post on it, and hadn't looked at it since it first started. I had no idea that anyone had tweeted it, and I would never have known either..........without these threads

Naturally threads of this particular nature fill up quickly - and attract more people - so the story is even more widely known now than it was before. Which for something that was posted as a private issue isn't really that helpful

I do not have a strange desire to keep myself in the public eye. It's an easy comment to make though, just hinting maybe at instability? Nuttiness? How close is that to having your vagina sewn up? How misogynistic is it possible to be?

Or maybe I am truly cross at what you, Sue and Caffelatte are conniving at. Changing MN so that no one can post with honesty any more. In case some twat twitters it, with the label - Here's what the people with sealed up vaginas are posting now?

She's your mate. I'm sure she's good value. But I'm not backing down on this one.

SGM - Alouiseg doesn't care how offensive her comments are, to her, any woman who doesn't agree with porn is repressed, frigid and hysterical, not to mention in denial.