mn is a public website. We do not sign up to terms and conditions that say threads may not be discussed outside of mn, on twitter etc...

[wannaBe]

yep, thread about a thread... big deal.

so - thread started on mn. Another poster tweeted about said thread, came back to the thread and said she'd tweeted about it.

Subsequently posters called for her to be banned for tweeting about a sensitive thread, followed by lots of other nasty name-calling.

Thing is, the thread was public anyway. You don't have to be logged into mn to view it. You don't have to have a button next to each post to tweet about it - all you'd have to do is copy/paste the link into twitter. Once you put your private business on a public website you lose control over what happens to it/who talks about it/tweets about it/potentially writes about it in the press.

To suggest that a poster should be banned for talking about a thread that is on a public website, on another public website is ridiculous.

Mn has hundreds of thousands of hits a day. People are very naive if they think that their private, sensitive business is limited to the few people that post on the threads in question.

And people do discuss mn on twitter. Both in terms of threads/the potential genuineness of posters/the outcomes of threads. It's just that they don't come back on to mn to talk about having done so.

ok - I'm obviously missing the entire point of this thread then Dittany - as I thought it was about the rights and wrongs of posting links from a public website onto another public (or partly public if you have your privacy settings fairly strict on them) website

well I didn't see the sewn up vagina remark

I haven't aired my view on porn on here or anywhere else, I happen to dislike it immensely, so that can't be the reason I'm posting here, I didn't post on the thread either, I didn't retweet the thread

I'm answering the op which was on the subject of whether a post on MN is private or not, which it clearly isn't

quite why I've got a bashing is beyond me, it's obvious, it's the internet, it's searchable on google

"it's started already
already someone is taking your husband's side, it's sickening"

I wouldnt even know about this thread if it wasnt in AIBU, I stay away from Relationships otherwise I would have been divorced 20 times and we're not married a year yet!!
Again, I'm not on twitter. But you're hardly helping it to disappear into MN wilderness by going on about it!

And yes, I feel sorry for your DH. Imagine how bad he would feel if he knew that "most" of MN thought he was a pervert!!

I didn't miss the reference SGM. Why on earth else do you think I am still here, battling accusations of nuttiness, trollery, prudery and what have you. It was a bad thing to do. I am cross. And I am not going to STFU.

i thought they were referencing at worst episiotomy scars

honestly

i thought that that was low enough

are you sure that FGM is what was meant when the statement was made?

Cafelatte- I've reported your post. Pretty fucking unkind to talk to someone like that when they are having a shitty time, don't you think?

the only wrong doing I can see is that the tweet was nasty and insulting.

I honestly think, and I mean this with all kindness, your energies would be better directed towards your husband and daughter and the issues there rather than a random stranger who tweeted your thread.

And no, I am not suggesting (before Dittany leaps) that his porn use is your "fault". But that's your actual problem, this twitter stuff is all just absolute nonsense.

The eyeroll was not at BOF btw

SS
Don't feel that you have to PM me if you would prefer to keep your identity secret. I am trying to base my opinion on this on what I have read, not on the fact that I know both people involved, iyswim.

I did not read the comment about the sewn-up vagina - that is truly horrible and I don't blame you for being upset.

To your question. My first reaction was that anyone who posts on MN should realize that their posts can be lifted by anyone - whether fellow MNetter or not - and posted somewhere else. The buttons are irrelevant, IMO. Perhaps because I never use them as I use tweet deck or twitter apps. If I want to post a thread to twitter, I c&p

After reading some of the tweets, and how it was presented, I have to say that I don't think it was acceptable to post the link on twitter.

If it were a "do you think that porn is bad?" general discussion thread then it would be different. In this case, it was not a generic argybargy but an upset poster who was then ridiculed.

When the sewing up the vagina comment was first referenced on this thread, I thought it was a comment about women who object to porn being frigid.

yes - but it doesn't say about what thread - and I took it to be a general discussion about the rights and wrongs of sharing posts from MN elsewhere.

I still believe the issue of the button being/not being there is distracting from the point that the OP of this thread is trying to make. As before the buttons came into being people were already sharing threads.

Well Dittany, why don't you do that? Or SS could report it and get the whole thing deleted if she wished.

Mme Lindt. My thread was actually really supportive. You would not believe how kind people were, both in public and in private. However one chap did ask why my husband needed to use porn, which i read as being that somehow I had driven DH to this. So all the stuff about having my vagina sewn up, and understanding, from my background what that really meant? Well, I've come out fighting.

Actually Dittany - the OP (wannaBe) didn't mentioned WHICH thread at all.

it wasn't until I read DupliciousBitches post several comments in I knew which one was being talked about. I was interested in the issue being raised - not in the thread so had no desire to know which thread it was about.