mn is a public website. We do not sign up to terms and conditions that say threads may not be discussed outside of mn, on twitter etc...

[wannaBe]

yep, thread about a thread... big deal.

so - thread started on mn. Another poster tweeted about said thread, came back to the thread and said she'd tweeted about it.

Subsequently posters called for her to be banned for tweeting about a sensitive thread, followed by lots of other nasty name-calling.

Thing is, the thread was public anyway. You don't have to be logged into mn to view it. You don't have to have a button next to each post to tweet about it - all you'd have to do is copy/paste the link into twitter. Once you put your private business on a public website you lose control over what happens to it/who talks about it/tweets about it/potentially writes about it in the press.

To suggest that a poster should be banned for talking about a thread that is on a public website, on another public website is ridiculous.

Mn has hundreds of thousands of hits a day. People are very naive if they think that their private, sensitive business is limited to the few people that post on the threads in question.

And people do discuss mn on twitter. Both in terms of threads/the potential genuineness of posters/the outcomes of threads. It's just that they don't come back on to mn to talk about having done so.

Dolly, i do not think you tweeted my thread. But you said 'That's what the button is for'

And the point I was making to you, was THERE IS NO BUTTON ON SENSITIVE THREAD TOPICS. THEY ARE NOT MEANT TO BE TWEETED. DO YOU GET THAT NOW?

blasted effing cat - posted before I meant to -

wanted to also add - that I'm sure they are not the only MNer that could lie on these threads....

I mean - I could post now to say I've just shared it......there's one or 2 of my FB friends on here......but hey I could have hidden it from them (damn don't you just love the padlock )......so no-one is going to know whether I have or not or whether I'd just be shit stirring by saying it

how is this suddenly Dolly's fault?

huh?

factually no one owes you anything on here ss. something unpleasant was said
on the internet

what difference would a disclaimer make?

No SS - that simply won't do. If anything, anything at all, is posted on a public forum then it's up for grabs to be lifted and reposted anywhere. It's you that has to get that. Sorry if that's not what you want to hear, but it's true.

oh I get it SS

I just think you've blown it out of all proportion really you have
no-one knows you, I'll forget about it by tomorrow
Twitter is very fast moving, it's not like the threads on MN that are around for ever.

Maybe you should get the thread removed, that way no-one can see it any more

What I get from your comments, caffelatte is that it is absolutely okay for a fellow mner to tweet a topic that is not meant (by mn protocols) to be tweeted, and refer to me as either a troll or someone who has had their vagina sewn up.

And you're fine with that?

Rannaldi - I don't think anyone is saying is is suddenly Dolly's fault. But it is a fact that s/he was harrassing SS with an unkind question regarding her husband, with what appeared to me to be the intention to just rub salt into the wound.

I am off to read the thread before its deleted.......

Don't worry, I'm sure most people didn't care about your husband's wanking habits.

I'm actually getting quite sceptical now about how you keep responding and reacting, thus keeping the whole thing moving. It's like you WANT as many people as possible to hear about it...

MN protocols? Is there a list of them somewhere? I don't know what the person Tweeted because I don't use Twitter but that's by the by really. The person who tweeted is perfectly entitled to her opinion of you and it's not for me to agree or disagree with her viewpoint is it really?

Well, it's all opened my eyes to how unkind some posters here can be. Really opened my eyes - and not in a good way!

also
twitter is much more community based
you can educate yourself on there

i don't have to put up with fools I can block them
ditto some of the dm squad and their views
it is crammed with politics, feminist view points, blogs, witty insight and just shooting the breeze

people cannot name change and therefore you build relationships
there is no trolling
people start to care about others in their group

it is also truly hilarious on many occasions
try it, it is brilliant

not at all Scared, my point was that you can't be all coy about what you post and go on and on about privacy on the internet when she has posted about her husband's private life as well.

It's all a bit hypocritical isn't it

What on earth? Oh, you just like watching fights, right? Bit of goading on the sidelines, that your style?

forget the bloody button - it's IRRELEVANT. Tweeting and FB of threads started a LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOONG time before they were put on the website to make it easier to share threads. Not to introduce the idea of sharing them.

Though I'm a luddite - I still use the \link{ way of linking posts from here and C&P threads

fb and tweet buttons not irrelevant.integral to mn - facilitating easy and quick globalposting

you can block people on Twitter ?

it's starting to look very attractive...

SS I haven't commented on the subject of your thread at all. You have no idea whether I object to porn, whether I think you handled it badly or anything else.

I'm pointing out that this is a public forum
you post at the risk of being repeated somewhere else

you knew that when you changed your name
you can't complain now

I didn't tweet your thread, I had no comment to make on it, if you think AL should apologise to you then that's between you two

but you can't stop people retweeting or copying threads

SS.

Nobody called you a troll. and nobody said you had your vagina sewn up.

What I will say though, is that your thread is very easy to find. If your daughter or your husband know you are on mumsnet, they could very easily find that thread and read it, without being a member. All they would need to do is google a few keywords.

Dittany you have no idea what my point of view on porn is

that's not what this is about is it

Nah, Dittany. I'm up against the Twat on points, she's just resorting to insults now. That Sue person hasn't come back. I'm handling it honest

well I don't think they make it any easier or boost it in any way SM - it's no easier than just C&P IMO - I don't want another tab popping open thank you very much - I have quite enough on the go as it is without another to contend with

Dittany, as I have already said, nobody on that thread ridiculed the op. At all.

Everyone was supportive, and everyone offered suggestions as to how she could move on. Not everyone was in agreement about how they would do it, but nobody on there had a go at the op.