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Original poster

crisps at a child's party?

153 replies

macdoodle · 20/02/2011 21:59

I may very well be being a bit precious, I can take it.
Went to a friends childs 3rd party today, in a hall with bouncy castle and lunch.
Had DD1 (age 9) and DD2 (age 3).
Get there, all running around having fun, food about 10 mins from coming out (according to mum).
When another mum produces a bag of crisps and gives it to her daughter, who doesnt just sit quietly and eat it, but runs around flourishing a large bag of pom bears (yes really).
My DD2 comes to sit with me crying, she wants crisps, and I can feel a tantrum brewing, she is most likely hungry, tired and run ragged now. But would have been fine to wait for party food if another child hadn't been eating a bag of crisps. Said child also refused to share a single crisp.
Had to be very firm with DD2, and food arrived just in time.

Now I am not sure, it all seemed a bit unneccesary as the food was on its way, she wasnt going to starve (she has no medical problems I know mum well, she is also 3), and a few were upset wanting crisps.
On the other hand she has every right to feed her child what she wants when she wants. Just a bit thoughtless, and I guess I'm annoyed because it upset mine.

OP posts:
caffelatte · 20/02/2011 22:00

Truly? This is not an important issue. Your child will know much upset over the years and if this is the worst of it then she's a lucky kid.

PigValentine · 20/02/2011 22:01

YABU. Sorry.

Original poster
macdoodle · 20/02/2011 22:02

Yes thanks so much, I am aware this is not a world shattering issue, sorry was not aware that AIBU had changed only to earth important topics Hmm

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winnybella · 20/02/2011 22:02

Not very thoughtful on that mum's part, but hardly a big deal, tbh.

LadyBlaBlah · 20/02/2011 22:02

YANBU
I saw someone eating a burger today when I was fucking starving. I acted similarly.

MrsRhettButler · 20/02/2011 22:02

agree with caffe i'm afraid, your child needs to learn that she cant always have what others have. in fact she learnt a good lesson today Wink

not a big deal yabu

NorthernGobshite · 20/02/2011 22:04

YABU.

Original poster
macdoodle · 20/02/2011 22:04

Sorry caffe a simple YABU would have sufficed. It happened today, it annoyed me, I wondered if I was BU, and thought I'd ask AIBU. Was not thinking it was a massive issue TBH, and my child has been through rather a lot in her little life, like her father fucking off out of it, so she knows what "true upset" is, does that make it better in any way???? Hmm

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chipmonkey · 20/02/2011 22:04

I thought this was going to be about crisps being served at a child's party and was going to say you were being a bit precious!Grin

But it does seem a bit odd to bring your own crisps to a child's party! Maybe the Mum thought is was polite, like bringing your own wine to an adults' party?Wink

Trebuchet · 20/02/2011 22:04

Gooooood al-bloody mighty!!! Listen, "ITS A PACKET OF CRISPS!" Fedd your kids crisps or don't feed them crisps you make the rules but its none of your business what anyone else does-you planning to hide the existence of crisps from your kids forever? You can't stop people ffs get used to saying "No you can wait til lunch" as I do or say "Ok love why not, its a aprty I'll get you some" as I also sometimes do. You are in charge of YOUR DC ONLY.

usualsuspect · 20/02/2011 22:05

YABU

NorthernGobshite · 20/02/2011 22:05

Don't post on AIBU and then get sniffy when people have an opinion.

RunOrRioja · 20/02/2011 22:05

I'm more surprised that the kid was allowed to run around with food. It's a sit down and eat rule with me and most of my friends.

Love that it was Pom Bears!

Original poster
macdoodle · 20/02/2011 22:06

ok IABU fine.
As to my DD2 learning to be upset you're a bunch of hard cows, she wakes up in the mornings crying because her dad's not here, so she knows what true upset is. Tears over a bag of crisps is normal I guess but maybe I should have told her to rather be upset that some kids had their dads there?

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blinks · 20/02/2011 22:06

the idea of flourishing a bag of pom bears is strangely attractive... very decadent.

compo · 20/02/2011 22:06

Yabu
next take snacks if your child is going to be affected by a late lunch
it's a fact of life that your child will see people with things they want but can't have
if the child had shared her crisps with everyone she would have had none left

wideratthehips · 20/02/2011 22:06

this happens a lot with my just turned 4yr old after preschool. parents pick up kids and dish out crisps/haribos etc. this is fine but i have three and i want to get the home first so i can give them seperate snacks as the youngest is one and not yet safe with crisps.

4yr old gets mega hump as i'm not dishing out crisps...tough you can wait 10mins, their not yours and having a strop is going to make things worse.

the worst i have had is being with a group of friends in carluccios with a bunch of starving kids and one of the mums in the group starts getting out biscuits crisps etc for her child and making a right hoo ha about it

chipmonkey · 20/02/2011 22:07

And YANBU. These are three year olds. I wouldn't give one of mine a bag of crisps in front of others who had none. That's just rude and inconsiderate.

PaisleyLeaf · 20/02/2011 22:07

I've a feeling you may find you come up against other situations when your DD might see someone eating crisps.

PigValentine · 20/02/2011 22:07

To be fair, I thought caffelattes point was that YABU because it was such a non issue, not that you shouldn't have posted in the first place.

sethstarkaddersmackerel · 20/02/2011 22:07

maybe the mum had previously been to a party where the food was really late and it all went horribly wrong so she vowed never to get caught out like that again Smile

poochela · 20/02/2011 22:07

what's wrong with pom bears?

Original poster
macdoodle · 20/02/2011 22:08

I'm not sniffy about being told IABU in fact was expecting that Grin
Am sniffy about comments about my poor little DD2 learning to be upset when TBH a bag of crisps is the least she has to deal with.

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NorthernGobshite · 20/02/2011 22:08

macdoodle, I think you are taking this waaaayyy too seriously. Whilst I am sorry your dd's father has left, the thread is surely about CRISPS?

compo · 20/02/2011 22:08

You didn't mention the lack of father in the op so you can't keep bringing it up now and calling us all cows Shock
I'm sorry her dad isn't in the picture, you sound like you're low and need a bit of help? Doyou have family near you?

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