crisps at a child's party?

[macdoodle]

I may very well be being a bit precious, I can take it.
Went to a friends childs 3rd party today, in a hall with bouncy castle and lunch.
Had DD1 (age 9) and DD2 (age 3).
Get there, all running around having fun, food about 10 mins from coming out (according to mum).
When another mum produces a bag of crisps and gives it to her daughter, who doesnt just sit quietly and eat it, but runs around flourishing a large bag of pom bears (yes really).
My DD2 comes to sit with me crying, she wants crisps, and I can feel a tantrum brewing, she is most likely hungry, tired and run ragged now. But would have been fine to wait for party food if another child hadn't been eating a bag of crisps. Said child also refused to share a single crisp.
Had to be very firm with DD2, and food arrived just in time.

Now I am not sure, it all seemed a bit unneccesary as the food was on its way, she wasnt going to starve (she has no medical problems I know mum well, she is also 3), and a few were upset wanting crisps.
On the other hand she has every right to feed her child what she wants when she wants. Just a bit thoughtless, and I guess I'm annoyed because it upset mine.

I think it's rude and unneccessary to give food to a child at a party when there is food provided regardless of what the OP's child felt. Sorry, it's just bad manners.

My DS gets a right strop on if he see's food. Any food even if he has just eaten. But that is entirely mine and his problem. I have to put up with the strop and he has to learn that he isn't getting every bit of food he sees. By the way I have never given into his strops and never been one to just shove food in his face to shut him up...he just loves food

However, I do think it is rude to get food out at a party with lots of kids.

Haven't read whole thread but I agree with caffe.

I wouldn't take out a bag of crisps at a party for the very reason that it would probably cause all the other DCs to get upset and cause their parents a load of grief. I hate the do what you want with your DCs and tough shit on everyone else attitude

Am I right in assuming caffe that you're the type of mother who expects your DCs to let their guests have the first go at choosing what to play, and makes sure that your DCs share and take turns, only to find that when it's your DC goes to someone else's house it is not reciprocated?
Grrrr!