AIBU to think perhaps people should be looking after their children instead of arguing with strangers on the internet?

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Firstly, I fully expect you all to flame me - feel free.
Secondly, I am aware of the obvious contradiction in suggesting that people should have better things to do than be on MN, when I am clearly on MN in order to type this, so please try to resist the urge to endlessly point this out.

I am name changing for this, but this is the second time I have been on MN since my daughter was born 5 months ago.

I used to come on MN quite a lot. It was helpful when I was pregnant and constantly obsessing about childbirth and pregnancy in general. I also think it is probably a really useful source of support for things like feeding, sleeping, special needs etc.

However, now that my baby is here, I find that I have more than enough to do looking after her and trying to keep up with everything else in my life.

I am amazed at the number of people who seem to have a number of children, and yet have time to argue prolifically with total strangers over the internet about their useless husbands/annoying children/vile mother in law/tedious customer service complaints at the supermarket, etc etc etc.

Seriously? Have you nothing better to do?If you have children, I find it hard to believe that you don't!!

Not sure tbh and wouldn't want to make unfounded accusations. Probably get taxed at 2nd job rate - if your declaring it

galdem love your above post I never really thoughtabout it like that.

not true in my case tralala and I@m sure if you ask any of teh otehrs here tehy will tell you tehy are capable of being good parents and having an online social life.

I am a first time mum, my DD is 10 months old. My DH works away from home for months at a time. My RL friends don't have babies, so don't 'get it', and i have had a hell of a time during birth, and since...............
If it weren't for MN, and for all the lovely ladies i have found on here who have supported be in my worst hour etc. i don't know where i would be. I have made some truly wonderful on-line friends through MN, and wouldn't change that for the world.
What people wish to do in their own time is really up to them, no1 should criticise that, unless of course children are getting hugely neglected. MN is a source of sanity! (sometimes!)

FWIW, OP, my DD is a toddler who insists on doing everything herself.

So, mealtimes take an hour, on a good day.

WTF am I supposed to do for an hour when forced to sit at the table next to her (3 times a day), with her eating one mouthful every ten minutes (if I'm lucky), but not allowed to help her because "No Mummy, I want to do it, I am a BIG girl not a baby!" Whilst I have finished my own meal long since.

If I get up from the table and leave her unsupervised, she might choke. Bad Mummy.

And I am normally organised enough to have the dishwasher and other kitchen chores done and dusted.

So...I get the laptop out and use Mumsnet so that I may stay sane.

Should I be entertaining her somehow and therefore prolonging the mealtime? Or reading her Proust (en francais, naturellement)?

We'll see you back on here when the toddler years arrive.

@ bof

When your dc is older,you will be able to get them to do your housework whilst you mn all day.

Wait so, why did you start this thread? I can't see a plausible reason for it beyond shit-stirring , but surely you have better things to do with your time, so ...

Listen, how about this. You just leave MN alone, as it is (like so many other things in life) unworthy of your time.

We'll be really sad to see you go, obv.

Look, sometimes I do ignore my kids if I am having a really good MN slanging match conversation, or reading a really good bit in a book, or watching the end of Eastenders Newsnight.

But I will be momentarily ignoring the whining for a biscuit or a 'Muuuuum, he/she pushed me/called me a poo poo head; etc.

This was how people patrented ALL THE TIME when i were a young 'un

Now it's seen as abuse if you aren't sitting by their bed staring at their sleeping forms ona Saturdya night. FFS.

Viva le MN!

Galdem

when are you going to have time to read the responses OP?

TSC how is that little chubby baby of yours after being poorly a few weeks back.

Op

You are just a better person than the rest of us...

I tried to get my 14yo to stay in her cot today while I cooed over her and gave her milk and burped her, but she wasn't having it

Dueling, i was wondering that!

And Galdem - I agree. Sometimes mummy is just busy and they have to sort out the rights and wrongs if calling each other 'the bum maker' themselves.

doth protest too much...

I don't believe I have finally sat down today and found out I need to get the hell up again and do some parenting.

Anyone got a older dc whose still up I can borrow to patent to appease the op? Mine only go up to 7.

parent!

not patent!!!

I promise I won't take anyones child on Dragons Den

I don't know yet, the child I miraculously managed to conceive while completely neglecting my DH in favour of MN conception threads is due in June. I will report back after the birth and let you know.

tralala, if you have gone cold turkey, maybe you should log off now? or at least leave AIBU alone for a bit? it's like the crack pipe of MN.

You innocntly wander in and answer one AIBU thread and before you know it you have lost days and area pale and possibly toothless former shadow of yourself...

If this is only the second time you have been on MN in 5 months, how do you have any idea of how often people are posting and how old their kids are?

What was the point in name changing - no-one is going to care about someone who posts once in 5 months having a 'dig' are they? Inflated ego me thinks.

I think you've been making a few little sock puppets in your spare time

Fair point, Chippy