AIBU to think perhaps people should be looking after their children instead of arguing with strangers on the internet?

[youareallgoingtoshoutatme]

Firstly, I fully expect you all to flame me - feel free.
Secondly, I am aware of the obvious contradiction in suggesting that people should have better things to do than be on MN, when I am clearly on MN in order to type this, so please try to resist the urge to endlessly point this out.

I am name changing for this, but this is the second time I have been on MN since my daughter was born 5 months ago.

I used to come on MN quite a lot. It was helpful when I was pregnant and constantly obsessing about childbirth and pregnancy in general. I also think it is probably a really useful source of support for things like feeding, sleeping, special needs etc.

However, now that my baby is here, I find that I have more than enough to do looking after her and trying to keep up with everything else in my life.

I am amazed at the number of people who seem to have a number of children, and yet have time to argue prolifically with total strangers over the internet about their useless husbands/annoying children/vile mother in law/tedious customer service complaints at the supermarket, etc etc etc.

Seriously? Have you nothing better to do?If you have children, I find it hard to believe that you don't!!

Actually, DH and I were earlier discussing how to sort out the creases in the sofa from where I had sat on my arse bfing for the first 6mo of DS' life.

I had so little to do at some points, even MN got tedious.

who says tehre kids are even tehre though Bluddy?

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She prob sings while the baby sleeps and hovers constantly, that takes up a lot of time.

Wow. I would love to know what you do with a 5 month old all day that prevents you from being on the internet like the rest of us, apparent, losers. She (he?) must be very clingy.

Personally, my son is 20 months and hates it when I play with him unless he asks me to. So he plays, I MN (and do other things on and off line).

I hope some day your apparently very clingy, needy child gets more independence. It must be so hard for you.

Perhaps if you sent him (her?) to nursery she (he?) would learn how to cope on their own a bit better.

And then there are the net curtains to starch and teh frilly apron to iron...?

Yes, I think newborns are pretty full-time and it is hard to imagine ever having an hour or so to yourself.

As the children get older, though, I find you do get plenty of opportunities during the day to have a peep at Mumsnet.

And some people, like me, choose the internet over tv in the evenings.

OP I'd be willing to bet you watch a fuckload of telly

I hate that argument. That 'well I have real mates, not just 'random' friends on the internet' argument.

My 'real mates' are all either parents with their own responsibilities and priorities to juggle, or they are single and childless and out on the lash and having hot sex with strangers

So NO, I don't have many friends who I can ask opinions on a new pair of shoes at 10pm on a Saturday night, or discuss whether my DS might have chickenpox with at 8am on a Tuesday morning, or quickly check if I am being unreasonable about telling ym SIL to fuck right off at lunchtime on a Wednesday.
So sorry about that. i am obviously inadequate [yawn]

Ah i get it now. The op is clearly feeling inadequate and inferior and so has come to make herself feel better by shouting at us super mums who manage to do it all and still find time to mn

boo - I only say it from experience, I used to be someone else and be on here during the day, I stopped for a few months, as I felt I was neglecting my life and my kids.

The kids would be about, I would half pay them attention but in all honesty would be thinking..oh go away so I can go on mn. .

I even starting thinking about mn during rl conversations. And would be a bit chuffed sometimes if DH was working as that meant I could go on here on the evening.

During my break I felt much happier and tbh honest parented better.
I was addicted and itvwas great being 'free'.

I now come on only if all the dc are out or asleep and it's been much better,

so really I should be having ago at myself but xan't believe I am the only one.

DaffadownDilly , It's ok, but it's no ipad.

Actually OP said she works to bring in money on top on Mat pay

Maybe this is a roundabout way of saying how great she is - for working?

OP is there a hidden message - because this is a saturday night and the may be flowing - so just spell it out

ever heard of multi-tasking?

then again, i chain my dd to the leg of my chair whilst I'm typing...she knows not to interrupt mummy when she is arguing relentlessly on internet....

and I find your name change insulting...

can you imagine how pissed off all our 'real' mates would be if we texted or called them to ask everything that we do on MN??

Isn't actually illegal to work and get maternity pay?

yes i noticed that mumbar. are you allowed to work whilst receiving SMP?

X-Post Boo. HI!

ah so you are projecting the tralala.

Hi tee

of course boo, tis the night for it

We could strike a deal- OP doesn't call social services, and we don't grass her up.

wot bibbity said

I wish I could ignore my DCs when I'm MNing. They start that tugging at your clothes thing though and it really winds me up. It's more painless to log off and spend time with them.

DS2 asked me the other day if I was going on Mumsnet 'to learn the swearing words'.

doesnt mean it 's not true though!