AIBU to think perhaps people should be looking after their children instead of arguing with strangers on the internet?

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Firstly, I fully expect you all to flame me - feel free.
Secondly, I am aware of the obvious contradiction in suggesting that people should have better things to do than be on MN, when I am clearly on MN in order to type this, so please try to resist the urge to endlessly point this out.

I am name changing for this, but this is the second time I have been on MN since my daughter was born 5 months ago.

I used to come on MN quite a lot. It was helpful when I was pregnant and constantly obsessing about childbirth and pregnancy in general. I also think it is probably a really useful source of support for things like feeding, sleeping, special needs etc.

However, now that my baby is here, I find that I have more than enough to do looking after her and trying to keep up with everything else in my life.

I am amazed at the number of people who seem to have a number of children, and yet have time to argue prolifically with total strangers over the internet about their useless husbands/annoying children/vile mother in law/tedious customer service complaints at the supermarket, etc etc etc.

Seriously? Have you nothing better to do?If you have children, I find it hard to believe that you don't!!

OP, your only excuses would be that either you are suffering from a mild form of post-natal depression (I know I did, after a horrid birth I struggled to do my daily jobs for a long time) or you have an unreasonable amount of things on your plate (what's this working while on mat leave thing???)
Either that, or YABU.

And a piece of unsolicited advice from another newbie: DON'T start threads by insulting MNs.

Sorry - I pressed post too soon - I wanted to say that I hope your dad gets the help that he needs soon. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy works for some people, and group psychotherapy is helping me. Hopefully the drugs will at the least help him to keep going until he gets something more in the way of help.

He will probably be struggling to motivate himself - I went for appointments that other people (gp, Doing Well service etc) organised for me, and joined a group when a space became available - I doubt I'd have been able to self-motivate to do that. Might your dad go along to a psychotherapy session if someone else organised it for him?

I hope he feels better soon, and if there is anything more I can do, or anything you'd like to ask me further, please feel free to pm me.

My DS is next to me playing on Wii big treat for him and he is being indulged it half term FFS!

and i am talking to my friend on long landline convo!

However yesterday we went out for breakfast and toyshopping in city center.

At the weekend we went to Edinburgh and went round castle and quality family time blah blah read on train together etc

So yes today is my lazy do what we want in our jamas, we are out visiting fort the next few days

So its balance - does your baby not sleep, would you like more time on here - I hardly came back on here after I had DS, you soo learn to grab time for you!

Thanks SDTG very much. He is getting some one to one CBT at the moment, the group CB therapy didn't really help him as I think hearing others problems depressed him further and also he said it made him feel like a 'codger' He is very tired all the time, he isnt sleeping well and kept dropping off in the sessions :(

The problem with CBT for him is that he doesn't really believe in it. He says 'its not a cure' I think he thinks the medical profession can just give him something that will 'fix' him. I think old age has hit him suddenly and very hard and you are absolutely right about the motivation. He has been used to finding things easy and been very active and now finds all those things very hard but cant find the motivation to find new interests. I am frustrated as i really want to help but arnt on hand very much as live 2 hours away and in 3 months time will have my hands full. I think I might speak to mum about organising him some psychotherapy. To be honest I think she could do with counseling too. Crappy situation really.

Anyway have contributed to thread hijack enough too :o Get on the case with the doggie training, if she is tearing things up when you are out it, its could be because she has attachment issues and is distressed when you arent there bless her. Build her confidence and it could very well stop.

STFG - I've sent you a PM so that we try to meet up for that coffee :).

Just goes to prove that the "virtual" friends that you make on Mumsnet can turn into "real life" friends. :)