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Original poster

not to answer the door or phone if I dont feel like it

156 replies

thefruitwhisperer · 17/02/2011 12:18

Sometimes I cant be fucked. I do however always call the person back when I can be bothered to talk, normally within an hour or so.

DP thinks Im an abomination.

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RamblingRosa · 17/02/2011 12:19

YANBU. I'm super antisocial and often blank calls and rarely answer the door. It's a miracle I have any friends at all Blush.

KazBarTheFriendlyGhost · 17/02/2011 12:20

It's hard not to answer the door when someone is peering through your window, which is what always happens to me.

Answering the phone can be done at leisure I reckon.

So, No. YANBU to choose when you wish to speak to people when in the comfort of your own home.

mrsruffallo · 17/02/2011 12:21

Yabu
How bloody dare you

jellybeans · 17/02/2011 12:21

YANBU I do it all the time.

Original poster
thefruitwhisperer · 17/02/2011 12:22

Ive just turned the tv down and pretended not to be in, you see...

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MuthaHubbard · 17/02/2011 12:22

YANBU - i do this alot, especially in the evening if i can't be arsed talking to anyone.

it's your phone, you do what you like.

DooinMeCleanin · 17/02/2011 12:25

YANBU. My friend has been known to watch TV with the subtitles on so if anyone peers through the window and sees her sitting there ignoring them they presume she is hard of hearing and leave her to it.

I just turn my ipod up and sing louder Grin

muddleduck · 17/02/2011 12:26

PMSL at "an abomination"

Original poster
thefruitwhisperer · 17/02/2011 12:26

Subtitles? Your friend is brilliant! BRILLIANT!

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CrapBag · 17/02/2011 12:26

YANBU.

I do it sometimes, beauty of having the persons number come up on your phone too. Smile

MayorNaze · 17/02/2011 12:27

i don't usually answer the phone after about 5pm

door is more tricky as the people there will know you are being rude, whereas the people calling you will just think you are out [confuse]

RunforFun · 17/02/2011 12:29

I wish i hadnt answered the door just now.

Ended up spending a tenner on 2 washing machine balls from a young guy on a young offender retraining scheme [mug me ?]

nobody ever knocks at my front door as its in the middle of no where so it wasabit of a novelty !

Plumm · 17/02/2011 12:30

YANBU, I rarely answrer the door and nobody except close friends and family have my phone number (and even then I often ignore it).

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thefruitwhisperer · 17/02/2011 12:33

He says 'But you arent doing anything else right now, why not just answer?'

I AM doing something else right now, Im lounging around not being bothered to talk! Thats what Im doing right now!

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nomoreheels · 17/02/2011 12:36

YANBU. Both of us screen all calls to our mobile and we don't give out the landline except to our parents. I've registered with the TPS which has stopped nearly all spam calls.

We do always ring people back and of course if they don't pick up then, I respect the fact that they may well be doing the same!

missismonky · 17/02/2011 12:38

YANBU. I do this all the time. I never understand people who think there is some obligation to talk to other people just because they want to talk to you.

I have no problem with the 'abomination' thing because DH totally agrees. Smile

oldwomaninashoe · 17/02/2011 12:40

I never answer the landline in the evening I'm to tied/busy/engrossed in Corrie to be bothered.

callow · 17/02/2011 12:42

I was like that. I always felt I have to answer the door or phone, but friends said it was up to me.

The first and only time I didn't answer the door it was burglers. I was in the back garden on a sunny day, relaxing. I heard a knock on the door but thought I don't have to answer. So I didn't. The knocking and banging continued so I thought then I must have misheard and it was the neighbours having some work done.

Then suddenly the music I was listening to via an extention cord into the house stopped and so did the banging. I got up to have a look and saw people in the house. Luckily for me the neighbours had seen what was happening and the police came and caught them.

Obviously they had banged on the door, had no answer so assumed no one was in the house. If I had answered they would have made some excuse and been on their way.

MsFaithless · 17/02/2011 12:47

YANBU

DP and I do this all the time. Only problem is when I genuinely forget to call people back and it looks as though I'm blanking them although my nearest and dearest are used to me by now!

IME it's my parents generation that have the biggest problem with this*, people 60/70+ seem utterly dumbfounded that you can not answer a door or phone without all hell breaking loose and something being seriously wrong Hmm

*Disclaimer- Anecdotal evidence not ageism Wink

OnlyWantsOne · 17/02/2011 12:50

i dont answer the door either - its my house, im doing stuff, tough

grump meeeeee

Callisto · 17/02/2011 12:51

Phone calls can be really intrusive, especially at supper time. DH hates the fact that I will happily leave the phone to ring if I don't want to answer it, so I guess I'm an abomination too.

craftynclothy · 17/02/2011 12:53

YANBU and I agree with MsFaithless (based only on my parents Grin).

My mum always thinks something must be wrong if I don't answer the phone when she rings. One day she even phoned dh (on his mobile, while he was at work) to ask him if I was ok Hmm. I was out at a friend's having coffee Confused. I'm supposedly just to sit at home awaiting phonecalls from my mother...

MsFaithless · 17/02/2011 13:02

This happens to me too Crafty, DP knows to expect panicked/pissed off calls from parents trying to locate me.

I once received an answer phone message saying I had 24 hours to respond before the police were called as they were so worried! Shock

Admittedly this was when I was young and a tad reckless but it hadn't even been a week and I had my own flat, job etc...

crazypanda · 17/02/2011 13:08

hi,i'm glad to know its not just me who does'nt answer the door or answer the phone,sometimes i think leave me alone i've had enough today!.

MooMooFarm · 17/02/2011 13:10

I only answer the phone if I recognise the number (with caller display). And I keep the front gates closed so nobody can see if I'm at home from there anyway. Am generally very unsociable BTW!