how much sexual harrassment from other/older boys should a 10 year old girl get?

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dd (a young 10 year old) is being asked for hand jobs etc on the bus by boys (12 - 13 year old plus one in her class). I don't think that they are serious but teasing however she is not at all comfortable with it (does not know the facts of life in that kind of detail). Is it reasonable to complain to the school?

Sorry, should have read thread first!
So glad you got a result, we shouldn't just put up with behaviour like this+

Melika....Can you understand why your posts have caused such a response? Lightbulb moments like this can really help people examine their thinking.....it's quite a normal response to say fight back with better words. Most of us have had to this, but it doesn't make it right., I had my bra strapped pulled and was called Tits ten from age ten because I had breasts. My parents never considered a strong course of action and I began my journey, like so many women, accepting that sexual attention from boys and men was acceptable.

I hope, even though you feel you've been treated unfairly, that you examine your position.

Posie, I too, have suffered, felt aggrieved for what happened. I agree with you, but nothing has ever stopped it happening to me. (police action or not)

i'm coming to this late, and jumping in but my god, i'd make sure the relevant home/school liason officers etc were in touch with the relevant boys parents with recourse to further action if things don't improve. Sounds like something's gone badly awry with them.

A ten year old girl should get no sexual harassment whatsoever and it's your duty as a mother to protect her fgs!

It's the horrible school bus culture. My the 9 year old ds was harassed by older boys on the bus for ages. They'd say stuff to him like he raped animals, His mum etc etc. He and his 8 year old brother got off the bus asking me what anal sex was.

They didn't even get a couple of days banning off the school bus. Aparently because he was a bo, and the other boy was a boy, it was ok. I was even told not to exaggerate things by calling it bullying, and that I had to be careful using such labels.

OP; I'm glad your dd could come to you, and that your school has responded well, and that you got a lot of support on this thread.

Oh ffs, the very idea that it's not bullying and is 'ok' because he's a boy [shocked]

Who are these half witted 'adults' ??!!

i worry this is the thin end of the wedge re the pornification of our culture and the sexualisation of children. yes, when i was 10 there were boys in my class who said some outrageous things, but i don't think they had the scope of knowledge or seriousness of intention that posters have cited here. really worrying for my girls.

I've started to take the sting out of sexual things by giving my children facts and so when tey here ridiculous stuff at school they can shrug it off....not that we wouldn't report sexual bullying, but I hope that by education we take the hurt out of it?

i didn't expect to have to educate my 7/ 8 year old as to what anal sex and rape was :(

And there was a wee 5 or 6 year old girl on the bus.

School busses = nightmare. A huge reason why we pulled ds out of that school and put him in one 10 minutes walk away from the house we bought to ensure he could walk to school and not get a dreaded bloody bus.

meli - someone disagreeing with you is not bullying. I can see how you have come to the conclusion that it's not worth doing anything, from your personal experience. What we are saying is that it takes lots of people to speak out to ensure these things don't happen to you, or us, or our daughters.

I don't think all school bus journeys are like this. DS has a long bus journey to school. The kids read books, play handheld games or do homework. There isn't loads of carrying on, fighting or sexual bullying. It is down to the culture of the school.

We can change the culture of schools, partly through the actions of people like the OP actually making a stand.

Sorry OP that your DD had had to go through this. I have a daughter in year 5 and it would upset me if she had experienced this.

Pixie, of course, you were right all along.