how much sexual harrassment from other/older boys should a 10 year old girl get?

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dd (a young 10 year old) is being asked for hand jobs etc on the bus by boys (12 - 13 year old plus one in her class). I don't think that they are serious but teasing however she is not at all comfortable with it (does not know the facts of life in that kind of detail). Is it reasonable to complain to the school?

The school have temporarily excluded the boy which is fine by us (ie they appear to have taken it seriously and got the boy to understand that it is completely unacceptable)
melika maybe if schools (and the public) took the correct (hard line stamp i tout now) approach when children were younger then the next generation will not have to put up with this kind of harrassment. I agree that society is far from perfect BUT IT WILL REMAIN FAR FROM PERFECT UNLESS MORE TAKE A STAND (sorry to shout). I know that we are still not perfect and have a long way to go but look how far we have come wrt racism - things are gettign better and it is in schools that this sort of thing has to be stamped on.
Also I did complain before I posted on here. I wanted to know if what I have done was reasonable.

Great, I'm really glad someone listened to you!

Good for you. I'm so pleased ths school listened.

Glad they listened.

And Melika, I'd love to know where, in my posts, I was unpleasant to you? Because you seem to think it is ok to be so towards me for no other reason than the fact that I do not agree with you. Rather childish, don't you think? Have a

Have one yourself with a cup of tea manicbmc and I wasn't unpleasant to you!

If that's what you call it. I call it having a discussion.

I'd call being told to 'shut up' and 'grow up' quite unpleasant, uncalled for and adding nothing to a discussion. But thanks for the biscuit.

Well said, Pixie!

Well, that's nothing to being called 'full of shit' by another poster.

I didn't, in no way condone the behaviour and am glad some action has been taken. But what happens next week when all is back to normal, does it stop?

So you justify it by sinking to someone else's level? That's very grown up of you.

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melikalikimaka Wed 16-Feb-11 11:24:32
I'm sorry but this is how kids talk to each other, it's bravado on the bus. I'm afraid there's not much you can do about this. She will just have to have some smart replies ready for the next barrage of abuse.

then you said...

melikalikimaka Wed 16-Feb-11 11:51:21
Yes, in an ideal world, it shouldn't happen, it is not acceptable.

But not with the best will in the world will your 'having a word' with the perpetrators work.

If anything, it may make her bus journey worse.

I remember when I was around that age being asked by older boys if I could take their 10 inch cocks! Yes, I was disgusted, but no retort would have stopped these imbecilic idiots. So shut up!

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So basically she needs to deal with it and learn some smart replies to these boys, even though in your second post you stated that no retort would stop the boys you dealt with.

Tyra, blah de blah blah blah!

I expected nothing less from you melikalikimama.

maka

That's good news OP. I'm pleased the school have taken it seriously and I hope your daughter starts feeling a bit happier on the bus.

Yes- glad the school is taking it seriously

meli - things don't change unless you do something about it.

Why are you wasting time ringing the school? They are over the age of criminal responsibility and are committing a crime. Call the police.

melikalikimaka when you find out you are getting paid less than a man in the same job as you do you just say 'oh well, it happens'

How about if your friend is raped and the rapist isn't convicted 'never mind'

Your daughter hangs herself because she can't take the sexual bullying at school any more 'just today's society'

FFS wake up woman! The OP's DD does not have to "come up with some smart replies" Is that what she would do in 15 years time when this happens in her place of work?

Your attitude stinks. If you are a woman you are overwhelmingly under educated on the things that effect you every day that stem from men who began as immature little boys such as the ones on OP's DD's bus. Maybe if they had been pulled up on it as these boys are being, the world would be a fairer place for both sexes.

Sexual bullying. It's a growing problem and need harsh and swift action.

Oops well done OP, perhaps this sort of attitude is the same one that grows into not taking no for an answer later in life. You never know OP not only have you saved your DD from this, and other girls at school, but the knock on could be that this boy and his friends do not turn into entitled sex pests when they're older. Afterall the attitude of the rapist, especially the date rapist, and the boys that pressurise girls into having sex have got to start somewhere.

Well, Tyra and Pixie, are you still drivelling on and on, cos I'm getting bored.

It's Mumsnetters like you two that put a lot of people off putting an opinion on here. It's called bullying, whoops, you are victimising me because my opinion is slightly different to yours. Let's all sing from your song sheet, tow the line and everything will be hunky dory in La la land.

OP Good luck in your fight against the abuse your child has suffered. I hope those boys have learned a hard lesson.

My dd is 10 soon and i have had a chat and she does know about sex. If any boy asked her for a hand job however, i'm sure she wouldn't know what they were on about!
I hope you do have a word and get this sorted, it's disgusting and disgraceful that she should have to listen to that on the bus!