Poll: Prefer to be called Christian name or Mrs by children

[Mrsredoneslast]

By request.
Do you prefer to be called by your christian name or by your "title"..Mrs, Ms etc...by children (acquiantances's children/ dc's school friends etc)

So which

A)christian name

or

B) "title"
?

This thread has made me realise something I didn't know before, which is that when we insist on my stepdaughters calling adults auntie or uncle as a sign of respect (as my DH puts it, his father would have given him a backhand if he had ever referred to or spoken to an adult without saying auntie or uncle), in this country (England) the adult may not necessarily see it that way, and may not even like it.

I am really sorry about the repeats, I am using a Blackberry to post and it seems to post things twice every time.

I am really sorry about the repeats, I am using a Blackberry to post and it seems to post things twice every time.

Same opinion here wrt Auntie. To me, Aunts were rather formidable older ladies, some with whiskers, all with unpredictable dogs; the title conjures up a vision that isn't really me.

I always called my neighbours Auntie/Uncle, as did every other child I knew.

I'm pretty sure I would feel uncomfortable with that now though.

When did that change happen? Sometime during my teens i suppose

A

Auntie and Uncle are the terms I used as a child as well. It's a cultural thing (or at least it was where I grew up)

Auntie beanlet. Strikes the right balance between respect and informality.

One of my friends got round this conundrum by calling my parents 'Mr Sophie' and 'Mrs Sophie' (subsituting Sophie for my first name of course...). I always thought it was quite a sweet compromise!

I might add she did that when we were kids, and hasn't just started doing it now!

As I said in an earlier post defiantly A (x or y's mum will do fine too)

But what I can't stand are children who don't answer when spoken to, won't say if they want a drink or anything and have as much charisma as a paper bag (I know its's an act for grown ups because DD's would not have invited them if they were that dull at school) Generally I don't bite - although I might make an exception for a certain visitor who never says thank-you and is hard to avoid because she lives round the corner

Well I always used to feel that it should be A when the children were little, but I have to say as the DDs & their friends have got older & bolder it does feel somewhat disrespectful sometimes - I don't want to go back to the Auntie-everyone days of my childhood but a little distance & respect would really go a long way i feel - think it's too late now though!

A - with children, always. Don't like Aunty Jacanne as I'm not their Aunty. In a professional sense (I'm a teacher) then Mrs is obviously preferable.

B - with adults trying to sell me things or providing a service unless I tell them otherwise - don't like that instant familiarity that somehow sounds patronising when they don't know me.

A, although it was Aunty/Uncle all the way when I was little (it was nice, actually, because I don't have any real ones!)

Most shop assistants, waitresses etc in England seem to have a name label with their first name, whereas here in Germany it's always Frau x/Herr x (tho generally Frau in that kind of job, that's another story!), so then it is balanced by them calling me Frau Fingers...

(Frau Fingers? Sweeney Todd's pickpocketing cousin, perhaps...)

happy for either, I help out a lot at the school so most of them call me MRS however there are a couple who use Christian name outside of school then revert to Mrs when they see me in school, i think that's quite funny!