Poll: Prefer to be called Christian name or Mrs by children

[Mrsredoneslast]

By request.
Do you prefer to be called by your christian name or by your "title"..Mrs, Ms etc...by children (acquiantances's children/ dc's school friends etc)

So which

A)christian name

or

B) "title"
?

why should the advancing of time mean we lose respectful titles?

I'm Auntie Mumcentre...

I don't mind a title.. at work I'm sometimes called miss (not sure why actually because I'm not a teacher!) and I would probably say it's ok call me Auntie Mumcentre

I agree breathing

My instinct is to say A, but when my DD's 4 year old friends call me my first name, I find it quite odd. I think I expect them to call me "DD's mum" maybe...
Although Mrs SlightlyTubby would also do.

A but only if invited to do so.

Close friends kids call me Auntie Gas and I have loads of 'aunties' that aren't blood relations.

I detest cold callers using my firstname though. I recently had a row with a cold caller as 1) I'm registered with TPS so they shouldn't have been calling in the first place 2)she had the temerity to mispronounce my first name (it is very common and i have a very normal spelling of it) and then argued with me about how I was 'wrong' about the pronunciation and then 3) she said that she wouldn't call me Dr. surname as that was 'too formal'.

Needless to say I won't be buying car insurance from them!

I don't mind. Most of my DC's friends call me 'DC's mum' first, and then by my first name. I'm a teacher so am used to Mrs Madonna (or rather Miss) too.

Re respect, surely it's about respecting someone's preference about what they are called?

B until invited to A

A

DS (2) marched up to my friend in the Tesco queue last week and said "Hello Carole, do you want some tea ?". That's his longest ever sentence and I wasn't aware that he knew her name!

A

A.

Can't bear stuffiness and formality, least of all from small children.

A definitely
when I was little we always used to call friends' parents auntie & uncle x.

A

Or failing that, She Who Must Be Obeyed.

Whatever, really. As long as they take their shoes off, don't eat with their mouths open and don't put too much vermouth in my martini, I'm fairly chilled out about etiquette.

Mind you, DS is only 2, so most of his mates can't really talk yet.

I am happy for my friends' children to call me by my first name. But I HATE people I don't know doing it so I think it is important to teach that kind of respect. I also insist the girls call people 'Mr/Mrs/Dr' whatever unless they are close friends so e.g. the neighbours are given their titles. Interestingly, no-one has complained yet.

A, my first name, definitely.

AN alternative, when ds was younger, was that ds' frineds would call me "

A) I called all my friends parents by their first names 40 years ago. Remember distinctly being told on moving from infants to juniors to be absolutely sure to remember to call the couple across the road, who's garden I'd spent the summer in and out of playing with their daughters, Mr and Mrs S (as both taught at my new school.
(Non of us would have thought of using surnames, don't know if this is a Welsh thing, lots of Jones and even more Davis's - so Mr X could get confusing)

Despite being married 19 years Mrs T is something I put on forms.

normally I am just Star or Star Tail and thats just fine

A My 1st name

A) First name

Formalities like that used to really make me uncomfortable but since becoming a teacher I sometimes find the distance it puts between you and the person you are talking to comforting. It is a way of saying "You and I are not friends and professional boundaries apply". This seems a bit wrong though when talking about your children's friends as there isn't a professional boundary. Call centres, sales people and alike are pulled on it if I either a) don't want to talk to them or b) want to remind them that they aren't my friends and I'm paying for a service.

My first name. I would always correct straight away if called Mrs Astrophe. Partly because that is DH's stepmothers name - weird - but also it seems odd. I want to be a motherly kindy fun person in my DC's freinds' lives, not a distant professional figure.

Some close friedns kids call me "Auntie first name" and so do my Godchildren, and I like that - it implies a sense of specialness in the relationship, and a sense of family.

In some cultures its normal for children to call all older women "Auntie" and all older men "Uncle" - we had a little neighbour to whom DH and I were always "Auntie and Uncle", without first names, and I thought that was a sweet way of conferring respect without the distance that comes with "Mrs".

When they call me Mrs I, I tell them they may call me X. One still calls me Mrs I, he said it feels strange. He also calls me Mom though.
When I babysit, children call me X.

My DCs are teens, and their friends call me:
"mamagoodynuff" "M.O.M. My Other Mum", DC's Mum, or "Um" as in "Um, can I have another helping?" and some call me Mrs. Goodynuff.
I'll answer to anything, as long as it is said with respect. My DH wanted all of the kids' friends to call him Mr. Goodynuff, but he relented after seeing how hard it was for little ones to remember, and how uncomfortable some of the other parents felt (even if they didn't say anything) As the years have gone by, he has mellowed, but most of the kids are still a bit scared of him

A. Always, and by everyone. I've never worked in an environment where titles were used regardless of seniority, so I don't associate titles with respect.

I don't recall my parents friends being called Mr/Mrs. I do remember my mother asking my friends not to call her Mrs X because she was a teacher and didn't like it at home.

I don't get the annoyance with cold callers being related to what they call you - surely they are just very annoying anyway? But then it's quite possible that they use 'Mrs nooka' in any case as my first name is hard to pronounce.

My children's friends tend to call me ds/dd's mum until they learn my name, and they are a nice polite bunch. I would feel very weird indeed if they attempted 'Auntie' on me, especially given that my own Aunts made it very clear that they were to be called by their first names.

when we were small, we tended to call friends' mums "Auntie X". I do remember one of our "gang" who didn't use this, called my best friend's mum just "X" and we were all quite . People we didn't know so well, were Mrs. Y. All school teachers were Mr, Miss or Mrs. Z (but not in my younger sibs' school, where they were more "progressive" and used teachers' first names.)

When I started work in a hospital, staff were starting to call patients by their first names. My grandmother for one loathed this, as even her best friends had never used her first name, always called her Mrs.W.

I also found it extremely offputting when doctors would ring the labs for results, and just say "hi, it's Bethany here, can I have the results on patient A" - er, no you can't unless you demonstrate you have some right to be hearing them, i.e. you're a doctor or somesuch, in which case you should be saying "hi, it's Doctor Smith here..."

BUt now... in my play group, we all call each other by first names and all our children call us by our first names and it doesn't seem weird at all. Strange, huh.

A.

Nothing to do with respect or manners, that comes from please and thank you, knowing not to talk over someone else, not putting shoes on the furniture, etc etc. A child can call me Ms Pip and still be rude or disrespectful.

A.

1. My dc's friends are all perfectly respectful and 2. It is not 1954.

It feels really unnatural to me for a child to call me by my first name