Poll: Prefer to be called Christian name or Mrs by children

[Mrsredoneslast]

By request.
Do you prefer to be called by your christian name or by your "title"..Mrs, Ms etc...by children (acquiantances's children/ dc's school friends etc)

So which

A)christian name

or

B) "title"
?

I don't think it's weird to call unrelated adults "auntie" or "uncle" - it's still normal in some cultures, notably Indian (according to my Indian friend) to call all older women Auntie and all older men Uncle as a respect thing (unless they have a specific relationship to you, that is, in which case they are called by that relationship) - and seemed to be normal in some parts of British culture until only a couple of decades ago.

It does start to get a bit weird when one is in their 30s+ and still calling their friends' parents "auntie" and "uncle" though. We stopped that in our 20s .

Definitely no Auntie here unless it is an actual niece or nephew, my mum was very against this and so am I. We were brought up to call parents friends as firstnames, would have seemed weird to call them Mrs X when parents always referred to them by firstnames, however if my parents referred to them as Mrs X etc then we would too, usually for the generation older than my parents.

A

A. Although one friend of DS1's calls me Mrs G (i.e. just that, not Mrs Full-surname) which I find quite endearing

A. It's my name!

I would rather not be called Mrs at all, since I divorced Mr 3 years ago.

A - I much prefer my DC's friends to call me by my Christian name but as I work in my youngest daughter's Primary it's Mrs Lemonmousse at work - although some of the little dears like to sneak in my Christain name sometimes just because they know it - gives them a bit of superiority!

By DD's school friends and family friend's children - A, by my first name.

At work in the classroom, by Mrs xxx

I tell DD to address her friend;s parents as Mrs xxx unless told to do otherwise by the person in question.

A.

My parents made my friends call them mr and mrs.
Twas very embarrassing.

When I've lived overseas in other countries/continents I've generally been addressed as Miss Firstname, which I think is quite sweet, but still respectful.
Would probably sound strange in the UK though.

A - forename

It's very normal in South Africa for a child to call adults Auntie or Uncle (or the Afrikaans equivalent Tannie or Oom), in fact a child would be thought very ill-brought up and rude if they did not.

Even younger adults would refer to old adults in this way, a sign of respect.

older adults I mean

PS my title is Dr, not Mrs, but I certainly can't imagine asking DS's friends to call me Dr xxxx. It seems really stupid somehow.

First name

first name definately.
But then my children and grandchildren call me Julie too, so would seem very strange for other people's children to call me anything else.

why would someone who is a doctor want their childrens friends to call them by their title of doctor?

Surely id you are not their doctor and seeing them in a professional capacity then your title is irrelevant.

A.... none of the kids round here call adults Mrs. X. And I'm not a Mrs anyway... so don't chare my children's surname which would just confuse kids.

Some kids say 'X's Mummy' if they can't remember an adult's name.

B

Mrs, out of respect. I'm continental European and in my language we use a formal way of addressing anyway.

2 generations before me and still in my peer group in some very smart families the children address their own parents formally.

A
I'm a Ms anyway, not a Mrs thankyou v much

A) of course.

Even DS calls me by my name where refering to me to others.

At school, the kids call me Ms__, so when I get home, I just want to be my name so I don't feel like I'm still at work.

A -definitely by my christian name.

All our (me and my friends) children use christian names outside of school unless there's Aunt or other term of relation required.

When I help at school I am

C - Mrs Marnie's (but not my and never has been my) surname.
Sometimes DC's school friends get mixed up and call me this outside of school. Freaky!

Sometimes it amuses me to be married off and sometimes it annoys me.

In any case I'm also a Dr (but that's never mentioned, except when I say to DC's 'trust me I'm a doctor' - well worth 4 years of study and the hardest oral exam known to man, for that gag!)

A

I'm not a Mrs. But even if I was it would be A. Though I'm not a christian either.

Hilarious about the Dr. thing!! I still called my friend's dad Dr.xxx up until he passed away. I would have never ever called him by his first name. Ditto for my other friend's dad who had a PHD. He remains Dr. xx to this day. Funny....I am beginning to think this a cultural thing, as my DH wasn't given permission to call my parents by their first name until we got engaged!!

Cantspell, I wasn't saying I wanted my son's friends to call me Dr! I don't! But, in the context of this discussion, they can't call me Mrs as I am not a Mrs, that's all I was saying.