is it unreasonable to be lazy?

[KnittedBreast]

Having read some threads on here about people listing all the things they do every day to support their families and do everything for the children am i the only one on here who just be arsed with it all?

Dont you just refuse to do anything some days and leave your partner to do it all?

like today, i am doing fuck all. im not cooking or cleaning in fact i plan on sleeping for a couple of hours and making dp pick up my son.

Is this lazy? I think alot of people on here need to stop being super mum and do nothing for a while.

I have a lazy day sometimes, used to do it when DD was a clingy nightmare by staying in bed with her and bfing her pretty much all day, we'd both doze on and off, it was lovely.

OP YANBU, even without the clingy toddler, people, and especially women are far too keen to make martyrs of themselves imo.

and having a lazy day doesn't mean that DH has to do lots...

on a lazy day dinner can be fishfingers, and the housework will still be there tomorrow.

Just make sure you have enough kitchen equipment that you don't run out in a day then that can wait a day too

I dont take housework to the extreme

But there is a saying "If you want something done ask a busy person"

There is busy and busy: I know a bloke who has a full time job. He goes to work every day dressed up and says. "I do as much as I feel like and get well pasid for it."

There are jobs and jobs, I suppose. "Gabby"

Love you're on the wrong thread - you need to be asking advice on how to handle your DD. You sound strung out.

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I think she asks a legit question from her point of view

i get to have a lazy day as long as i have her on my lap or in my arms. hence my shit typing. shes been with me all day holding on to me, sleeping. ive read to her and made her food.

a lazy day means i havent done house work. ive just sat and held her. less stressful than hearing her scream

OP, I'm going to leave this thread now. I'm sorry for the problems you're having with your dd, but you have changed your story so many times, I can't keep up

You didn't say that you were going to sit and hold her - you said that you were going to do fuck all and sleep for a couple of hours.

Anyway. Good luck.

I don't do housework - neither does DH, really.
We hoover once a week and wash the clothes and pots as we go.

Otherthan that, we will clean stuff when it looks dirty.

both of us works, though, and we have no kids.

can't imagine that much would get done when we have kids, though - it takes too much time to look after them.
don't stress about it - if it needs doing, you'll do it.

i cant afford to send her to a nursery and as for jobs you dont think im looking. where the hell do you live that theres so much work. my family all work full time and even if they didnt they wouldnt have her as she is too much work.

i do take her out, walking baby groups, gymnastics etc...

on a non lazy day....jesus justification anyone.

7am up get children up, breakfasts, luch box, dps breakfast lunch etc.. take son to school.

walk home (takes 1.5 hours there and back school) while she screams the whole way. then have roll or food with dd.
read her story she wants to nap. she wakes up every time i move, resettle her she wakes again. or i just let her sleep and she will sleep until nearly 3 if i let her. she wakes up its to late to continue to let her sleep i tidy up or try she follows me screaming. i give her more, then turn to do something else she screams until i hold her. this goes on all day.

go to collect ds again 1.5 hours she screams the whole way naturally acts up at school running away refusing to listen. when we get home i put the tv on and start to do prepare dinner she follows me screaming. he starts crying this goes on until dp comes home. he takes her upstairs and she screams til dinners ready.

we all sit at table she refuses to eat as she wants me. i try and read my son a story but she keeps coming in crying then he cries etc...

then all night she follows me around screaming and refuses to sleep. i lay with her for usually 4 hrs while she sleeps each time i try and get away she awakes follows me screaming. my son wakes up crying, dp handds her back and says i cant take this and goes to bed. anytime between 1 and 4 am she might finally go. all evening ive been alone with dd as dp cant cope with it.

7 am im up again. 7 days a week.

this is a day without a baby group, gym or town which are invariably even more stressfull, or reading morning at school.

ive not gone into to much detail or il write an essay

thats one hell of a drip feed

[but sympathy as I has a velcro child and dusty skirting boards]

who is that changing my story? are you stupid? my doing fuck all means fuck all house work. just holding my daughter and doing nothing else. of course i can sleep WITH her, shel sleep with me. i just cant do anyhting else

So you spoiled your child and now she's a nightmare?

Aww poor you. Get some earplugs and get dusting.

Yes.

I'm a lazy fucker ...Competitive housewifing makes me laugh.

god there are some right bitches on this forum.

i wonder if you would give the same advice to your daughters if they were going through the same thing?

im thinking not

KB - are you okay?
seriously, are you okay?

I hate all cleaning talk ..its dull

KB Are you maybe letting her sleep for too long during the day?

Does she scream all the time if she is doing something fun?

What about getting a sling or hip seat so that at least its more comfy to carry her about.

My kids won't go to sleep without me either, so you have my sympathy.

Jesus Christ what a nasty thread.
OP I have a velcro baby too I know how you feel it's bloody hard work and draining :( I really feel for you.
If somebody told me to get dusting I would shove a duster up their judgy arse.

YANBU

I can't believe how horrible some people have been. You clearly have a really tough time. I feel really sorry for you and hope that you can sort out your daughter's behaviour.

Everyone deserves a lazy day every so often, and you clearly need your day off once a week at your mum's.

"There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women".

I am naturally a lazy person, but still need to do at least some chores during the day or I feel guilty.

At the moment I am 40+5 weeks pregnant with DC2 and I have had a SHITE pregnancy. I'm ashamed to say my DP does almost everything at the moment as I have just been feeling so ill.

To be honest I can't wait to actually take control of the housework again (I don't work) because having not done much for so long I have a NEED to be industrious lol.

When this baby is born and I feel a little more human again, my poor DP needs some pampering too as he has been such a star.

Anyway, back to the point I reckon doing a little bit every day and then vegging out is fine. But if you couldn't be arsed to do anything ever, then that's a different matter entirely.

Hehe! I was chatting to a friend of mine whose just had a baby and is doing all the baby groups... The mummies keep on saying stuff like "How can I possibly fit everything in?" and "No one appreciates how hard my life is" when they don't actually work and only have at most 2 kids.

We had a good giggle at that, as frankly can't fathom how anyone spends so long making such a palava out of just running a home - it's not bloody rocket science!

She manages two kids single handedly and runs a business and doesn't have any help with the cleaning/kids either and lives 40 mins from the nearest Tesco... Hard work? Nah!

I used to be a smug mummy too with my perfect children then I got velcro baby who has just spent the last ten minutes kicking the door and screaming because I am cooking dinner...she is only quiet now because she is in her highchair and can see me.

Alright.... I know I said I was leaving the thread - but in fairness, comewhinewithme, this thread was seriously drip fed. None of the velcro baby stuff was mentioned until much later on. People can only comment on the information given, kwim?