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is it unreasonable to be lazy?

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KnittedBreast · 01/02/2011 10:48

Having read some threads on here about people listing all the things they do every day to support their families and do everything for the children am i the only one on here who just be arsed with it all?

Dont you just refuse to do anything some days and leave your partner to do it all?

like today, i am doing fuck all. im not cooking or cleaning in fact i plan on sleeping for a couple of hours and making dp pick up my son.

Is this lazy? I think alot of people on here need to stop being super mum and do nothing for a while.

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KnittedBreast · 01/02/2011 11:29

what am i for? certainly not there to run after them constantly all day.

i do all of everything most of the time, but there are certain times like today when i am doing absolutly nothing.

how is that nfair to my dp? he is able to cook aswell, he has arms and a brain.

of course he does nothing occassionally too, but at weekends when he has time off he moans if i ask him to do something with the children and so i have my day off on a week day instead!

I really dont see the issue with my asking him to make sure the washing up is done ready for me to cook dinner. I have a daughter who is, challenging shall we say and she just screams at me unless i hold her. If he dousnt help me out with the washing up her behaviour along with my hour or so it takes to get my son home from school means its nigh on impossible to do it all. If he were to consider picking my son up form school it would be more do able. as a result he knows that he has to do the washing up if he wants a nice proper home cooked meal the following day!

and there is no need for personal insults-skank? what am i for? not skivvying!!

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anamerican · 01/02/2011 11:35

OP your post made my day. I am with you on this one.Wink

kreecherlivesupstairs · 01/02/2011 11:36

Oh dear, don't ask AIBU if you don't want an honest answer.
I am astonished that you have a day off too.

RealityIsKnockedUp · 01/02/2011 11:38

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KnittedBreast · 01/02/2011 11:41

i didnt say i have several days off a week did i?

my house isnt a shit hole either, i just dont spend the whole day cleaning and tidying up.as i said before all i EXPECT him to do is the washing up so i have a clean base to start dinner from. After the time it takes to get back from school if i had to do all the washing up the children wouldnt get a look in.

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KnittedBreast · 01/02/2011 11:48

thats not what i said. i said there are some days when i dont do anything like today. If he hasnt done the washing up then he has too cook dinner.

you need to learn to read! :)

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KnittedBreast · 01/02/2011 11:51

well there we are-SOME DAYS. not every day.

the clue is in the words SOME DAYS

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KnittedBreast · 01/02/2011 11:54

see i disagree, my "job" is 24hours. If im doing everyhting most of the time there are SOME DAYS (you see that??) when i just say enough im doing it today. There isnt much i ask of him and the washing up is the very least i should EXPECT.

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KnittedBreast · 01/02/2011 11:56

yes he does, they are called holidays

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MotherOfSuburbia · 01/02/2011 11:56

More to the point... How on earth do some of you manage to do all your tidying up in an hour? I seem to spend my life playing catch up with it and it never ends! Admittedly i'm in a small space with lots of children but I have no idea how the rest of you are so efficient! Envy

Memoo · 01/02/2011 11:57

You have NEVER dusted? I dread to think what your house is like.

Memoo · 01/02/2011 11:58

If you keep on top of it an hour a day is all it needs

WimpleOfTheBallet · 01/02/2011 11:58

People make more work than they need too...I put that energy into persuing my passions...who gives a crap if the laundry needs putting away? It won't explode if I leave it a few days.

MoonUnitAlpha · 01/02/2011 12:05

I'm quite lazy and so is DP.

I never dust or iron. We clean once a week or so. The only things that need doing daily are cooking dinner and putting on some laundry.

anamerican · 01/02/2011 12:07

Moonunit, that is what we do. As long as we have clean laundry, and fresh food, the other stuff can wait. works for us!!

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KnittedBreast · 01/02/2011 12:08

no i really havent ever dusted- saying that i havent lived there very long at all! ive never dusted anywhere i live, but i have never seen dust either.

i do a brief clean about and i suppose it is an hour in toal and that is most days. but i dont iron or do the washing everyday, i tend to do it a couple of times a week.

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Memoo · 01/02/2011 12:10

If you never dust how is your house not manky??

MoonUnitAlpha · 01/02/2011 12:12

I don't really have knick knacks that get dusty.

Memoo · 01/02/2011 12:13

But what about window sills, shelves, the TV, etc. I don't have knick knacks either but still need to dust.

TheDevilAndTheDeepBlueSea · 01/02/2011 12:15

I think you're taking the piss a bit, OP. I'm a single parent that goes out to work, 2 children 13 and 5 - and I manage to do everything by myself.

If I had a partner at home that expected me to do the washing up when I came home after a 10 hour day, or whatever, I would conclude that she was a lazy caaaah.