to go of a friend who has just been on a sex tourist trip to Thailand?

[Hairyjumper]

Single male friend, just been on 2 weeks holiday where he paid women to fuck him.
Have had quite a cerebral discussion with him about it.
He says it is not seedy , no pimps blah blah.

I thought I was open minded but it just seems wrong.

so...you are staying friends with him then ?

despite everything on this thread ?

He paid for sex and broke the law though. If he got into his car hammered and drove home from the pub, would you respect him even so, as he is a nice guy?

Or would you think he was a bit of a nob?

have another "cerebral" conversation with him, did you ?

it seems you already made your mind up

I am sorry now I contributed to this thread

I was kinda hoping you just needed a little push to accept it was ok to be disgusted with him

obviously not

Oh FGS I'd have nothing but contempt for a man who thought it was OK to use another human being as a wank sock, however old she was and whether it was "consensual" or not.

Who teh hell wants to have sex with someone who doesn't want to have sex with them? An abuser, that's who. Prostituted women don't want to have sex with their clients, if they did, they wouldn't want money for it. Your friend isn't a kind and gentle man OP, he's a horrible mysogynist abuser.

Oh and if it ends in marriage, it will hardly be an equal relationship, will it?

Fucking disgusting.

I am watching the program as I type dittany it is awful, just awful.

Not only for these poor girls but the also the police who feel helpless in these countries and the forensics guys and investigators who have to look at the vile photos of these monsters and then go home to their families with the images imprinted in their memories.

My dh's sdad seems to think it is just part of life and that is why I have nothing to do with him anymore.

'To clarify () my friend would absolutely have no part in any of that and is deeply offended that I pointed out the association between that and what he did. He just does NOT get that connection at all. He is NOT thick, he is an extremely kind and gentle person and bears no relation to some of the men you have described.'

Of course he was deeply offended. He wants you to smile and say you hoped he had a lovely time and thank him for the postcard. Nobody wants to hear he is a monster. He doesn't want to hear the truth about himself. Obviously you don't want to hear what your choice of friends says about you either.

Serial killer Ted Bundy used to volunteer for a suicide hotline. When his fellow volunteers would sign off for the night, he would turn off the phones.

I turned it off

I know I should finish watching it, but I can't

much like this thread, really

He's deeply offended by you pointing out the association?

A decent man would be deeply disturbed and ashamed.

Lots of people use the right to be offended, in order to make other people STFU about their appalling behaviour.

HJ...is this man in fact more than just a "friend" to you ?

HerBex, just a quick aside

are you new, or a namechanger ?

am loving your work this evening

the others on this thread...nothing more than I expect

Be interesting to find out if Hairyjumper watched that programme on BBC2.

If she is, as she says, not at all clued up on what goes on in Thailand and the Far East, then it may help illustrate it.

Hairyjumper - did you watch it? What did you think? Still have respect for your friend knowing he's a part of that sex trade?

Have PM'ed you AF

thanks HB (feels a bit fick now )

OP, you are almost as bad as him to defend his behaviour.

'To clarify , my friend would absolutely have no part in any of that and is deeply offended that I pointed out the association between that and what he did. He just does NOT get that connection at all. He is NOT thick, he is an extremely kind and gentle person and bears no relation to some of the men you have described.'

He's a pathetic excuse for a person who pays for sex. A total zero, disgusting loser who pays abused women for sex. There's nothing extremely kind, gentle or at all intelligent about paying into this industry in teh Far East. It's rotten to the core. Every.single.part.of.it.

He's deeply offended someone pointed out to his what a low life he is for paying into slavery?

And you know that saying, 'Birds of a feather flock together'?

Well, there you go.

He paid a woman (she did look to be in her 30s right? ) to pretend to be his girlfriend for a few days - he's still a vile, vile excuse for a man.

What is wrong with you OP? Of course he doesn't get the connection, they never do, to admit otherwise would mean recognising that he's a sexual predator who gets off on abusing women.

what do women think about excorts who choose to do this in the UK for money? is this the same? if not why not?

sorry escorts