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To think that resources are being wasted on underserving scrubbers

758 replies

rezbites · 20/01/2011 10:12

It makes me very angry to think that deserving parents, like Riven and her partner, are being denied the help the help they so clearly need when there are others in our society who are bleeding the system dry and giving nothing back. Please let me explain what I mean.

Where I live (and in other parts of the country too, I'm sure) there is a certain "underclass" of young women - you know the ones I mean - little scrubbers who clearly model themselves on Vicky Pollard - who are provided with everything by the State. They have not suffered abandonment, divorce or bereavement. They have not been made redundant or struggled to find a job - they have never tried to get one. They have chosen to become single mothers, straightout of school in many cases, so that they qualify for social housing and benefits to live on, claiming that they cannot work because they have a child. They think the world owes them a living and it is their right to claim all these things. I do not mean to suggest that they are typical of single parents or council tenants generally because I know that they are not. They are a feckless, but very visible, minority.

Why should the country waste resouces on these selfish, irresponsible deadbeats who have chosen that lifestyle, at the expense of people in genuine need of help - the disabled, the vulnerable and those who through no fault of their own have ended up in very difficult circumstances?

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ILikeMilk · 20/01/2011 13:46

Ha bloody Ha thethersend. Anyway, the argument is pointless. (and yes, I expect all of you to come with a "funny" comeback on this one).

ReclaimingMyInnerPeachy · 20/01/2011 13:47

ilikemilk

I went to Uni at 30; I got an A in finals despite having a 5 week old child sat outside with his Dad needing a BF

I am going without hugely to put myself through an MA part time so I can start a business, alongside having 2 autistic kids (all born into full employment, or at least conceived in- thanks for the redundancy ex employers of dh)

And yet I cannot find a job; I just can't. Even as a care assistant which I don;t want to do (knowing my son will need care one day it upsets me, have done it before, and crying on shift is wrong)

tell me where all these jobs are please?

oh and we do pay tax, dh does anyway- on the work he can fit around requalifying

tethersend · 20/01/2011 13:47

There are decent people at the post office? Shock

What on earth were they doing there? Claiming benefits?

bupcakesandcunting · 20/01/2011 13:47

"actually milk i am midway through becoming registered as a childminder..."

DOn't justify yourself to her. No need. If it all goes tits up with your course, you know where I am. There will be a place waiting for you at the workhouse.

Marry me, Shirl'.

DameShirleyKnot · 20/01/2011 13:48

Boo. Don't get sucked in love, you don't need to explain yourself to someone who can't even work out that 0.5 million jobs divided by 20 million equals unemployment

Nippolopolis · 20/01/2011 13:48

"It's a WORKHOUSE Keep your voice down, dear"

I'm quite sure those were the exact words SS Heinrich Himmler used!

ILikeMilk · 20/01/2011 13:48

ILoveIt, but we were talking about YOUNG MOTHERS THAT CHOOSE IT AS A LIFESTYLE. Not the people that got into this situation due to bad lack/circumstances, etc. So why did you get defensive?

JoanofArgos · 20/01/2011 13:49

You're all being very mean and ungrateful, and I for one would like to say a big 'thank you' to Milk's husband for his generous feeding hand.

His medal's in the f*cking post.

ILikeMilk · 20/01/2011 13:50

Reclaiming, but you are not a mother that got pregnant at 14 to secure a council house? This what OP was complaining about.

DameShirleyKnot · 20/01/2011 13:50

My funny comeback =

(bupcakes - you feeling me today aintcha?)

KalokiMallow · 20/01/2011 13:51

"ILoveIt, but we were talking about YOUNG MOTHERS THAT CHOOSE IT AS A LIFESTYLE. Not the people that got into this situation due to bad lack/circumstances, etc. "

So how do you know for definite that anyone chooses it as a lifestyle, as opposed to situations causing it?

ILikeMilk · 20/01/2011 13:54

Kaloki, I dont look at mothers on the street and try to figure out which/why they claim benefits. But I DO know that such mothers do exist in real life (or are you trying to say it is al a work of fiction)?

tethersend · 20/01/2011 13:54

Don't be ridiculous, Kaloki- someone on this thread went to school with someone like that

What more proof do you need?

TakeItOnTheChins · 20/01/2011 13:55

Because it isn't PC to disapprove of anything at all.

You have to understand WHY the poor things feel that they'd rather sit on their arses all day than work. You have to SYMPATHISE with someone who thinks popping babies out to a variety of fathers is far better than getting a job. Poor souls, they just don't know any better.

JoanofArgos · 20/01/2011 13:55

Yes - we are only debating STRAW MOTHERS ON BENEFITS here, not real ones!

bupcakesandcunting · 20/01/2011 13:55

You is on fire, SHirl'.

How do you know who the TITS chooses it as a lifestyle? Unless they hand out crystal balls at the "Superior Taxpayer Convention" that your DH goes to.

My mum didn't choose it as a lifestyle. She popped out two sprogs whilst in a happy, secure marriage. That went tits up. Ended up single mum with slag's glass and SNES wielding kids.

My mum, thankfully, pays taxes now. Has done for twenty years, so she is safe from the van I've sent out onto the streets to herd the unwashed single mums into my workhouse. Let's hope your DH never buggers off and leaves you up shit creek without a paddle, Ilovemilk. I'd hate to have to spoonfeed your words back to you when you're on here asking for help :)

KalokiMallow · 20/01/2011 13:56

How do you know this?

ReclaimingMyInnerPeachy · 20/01/2011 13:56

Well, I know or rather knew lots of mothers with young babies in their teens as I worked for a parenting charity

DO I want their lives? No bloody chance!

I don;t they do either, mostly.

ILikeMilk · 20/01/2011 13:57

Kaloki, please get real.

KalokiMallow · 20/01/2011 13:58

Ah, your wonderful debating skills and presentation of new and interesting facts has completely won me round

Hmm
bupcakesandcunting · 20/01/2011 13:59
ILikeMilk · 20/01/2011 13:59

I did watch "teenage and pregnant". Or "one born every minute" Or was it also played by actors? They should be nominated for an Oscar then.

giyadas · 20/01/2011 14:00

hehe "bollockspew"

Anniegetyourgun · 20/01/2011 14:01

I notice my calling of the OP on his/her "poor" credentials has been ignored.

Of course that's because it's so ludicrous he/she won't dignify it with a response.

bupcakesandcunting · 20/01/2011 14:01

Oh yes. One of two people on a documentary are indictative of a nationwide epidemic of single mums choosing the easy life on your DH's taxes innit.

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