to think its irresponsible to drink alone with kids in house

[scuzy]

following on from thread below about a poster wondering if she should as her dh to stay at home as she thought her son had swine flu .... she was looking forward to a bottle of wine once her dh was gone!!

i'd never drink if i was on my own with my son!!

YABU = You Are Being Unreasonable.

And yes, you are.

"what does yabu mean am still new to this"

So new these are your first posts. Bless.

scuzy - I feel you are getting a bit of a battering here, so I just wanted to clarify these things.

yabu means you are being unreasonable.

We are all entitled to our own opinions here, I think.

I used to drink much less when dcs were younger because I know alcohol affects me.

If I got spannered I would struggle to strip a bed or clear up sick properly. I'm not sure I would trust myself to hear a child cry out for me in the night after a lot of alcohol.

Now Dcs are older I am more laid back.

I am a single parent. From time to time I will have a couple of glasses of wine. I don't drive. I have never put my child at risk as I am able to have a drink without getting so drunk I am unable to respond to am emergency or my DS being unwell.

Single parents have to do lots of things on their own including having a drink.

YABU

Of course YABU.

Most people are able to have a drink without getting blind drunk or falling into a drunken stupor.

Having a glass of wine when alone with the children in bed of an evening is not unreasonable.

Difference between having a few drinks and getting tipsy/enjoyably drunk and drinking yourself unconscious and so you'd have a hangover the next day.

I'm old enough to know my limits.

I dont do it because i am RUBBISH when i drink at home. I just get a headache and then fall asleep.

But its not like shooting up is it? A few glasses of wine when you have a child is hardly abuse.

I wonder if people would feel differently if someone posted 'cant wait to get stuck into the special brew/smirnoff/wkd though? Just wondering how that would go down on MN

OP really what you are saying is that noone with a child under a certain age should ever drink if they dont have a babysitter/back up in the home?

Sounds a bit extreme

If anything happened to your children, you sober up bloody fast I am sure and you would call an ambulance rather than drive with your child in an emergency anyway.
I could drink a bottle of wine and not be stinking drunk, I'm sure most people could.

p.s. YA also BU for not putting your thoughts on to the original thread, but if you're new, its something to remember for next time.

thanks for clearing that up. yes it is my first thread and talk about jumping in at the deep end!!

and i know what its like to be a single parent.

each to their own as long as all our kids are happy and healthy.

sorry for ruffling any feathers. i really am. i really didnt mean to come across as such a judgmental sanctimonious bitch

Yabvu.

scuzy says this person is proposing to drink "a bottle of wine",

I take that to mean the whole bottle.

When my dd was a week old I would not have done this.

I now have teens. I am going to open a bottle later and will probably finish it before any of us go to bed.

I think this is the debate Scuzy is trying to open up - I don't think she is attacking a hard working, knackered single parent who just wants a vodka and coke on a Saturday night or someone who wants a couple of glasses with a takeaway to wind down after a shitty week.

ooopsadaisy said it much better than me. Thank you!

What debate Oopsadaisy?

Honestly don't see the debate here.

'i really didnt mean to come across as such a judgmental sanctimonious bitch'

It's actually illegal to post on MN unless you're like that sometimes.

i really should have started off on the chit chat board shouldnt i

YANBU - and YABAST.

(You Are Being A Sactimonious Tosser).

lol agentzigzag well looks like i have that down cold doesnt it

However I had only read page one and now I think other people may have said all that needed saying.

You should have started some where gentler than AIBU ...like the camping or gardening topics

scuzy, in future don't start threads about other threads either - if you want to criticise another mother at least do it on the original thread.

thanks tyzer. very information opinion there.

ok. i see your point. i shouldnt have started a thread based on someone else even tho it wasnt my intention but it does read that way. i'll delete this.

lol bluddy i should have thought more being new and all but i really should engage before i post. dont wanna be hated on me first post.