Rude woman in tesco

[TorianaTollywobbles]

This is my first AIBU so please be gentle!

In Tesco earlier. Woman in front of me in queue, unloading her shopping from small trolley. I leave a gap, put a divider on and start unloading my shopping also small trolley. The following then happens:

Her: What do you think you are doing? (aggressive tone)
Me: errr.... unloading my shopping
Her: well I have a full trolley you know
Me: ok will move my stuff down a bit, is not a problem, you only had to ask nicely
Her: silence

So was I BU unloading my shopping before she had finished? Didn't think I was, have done it before and no problems.

So AIBU or was she?

Haven't read the whole thread. Haven't really thought about it before but i certainly wouldn't dream of loading my shopping on the conveyer before the person before had finished and would almost certainly be pissed off if someone did that to me.

OP, would you dream of barging your way into a changing room while someone else was still in there with your items and start undressing? Cos it's exactly the same thing.

You wait your turn. End of.

yabu - always wait till they've finished.I've known people to do this to me b4 and its eneded with all there shopping crashing into mine and her shoving her shopping down with the divider...

YABU. I think it's a bit rude and pushy to start unloading your stuff before the person in front of you has finished.

Funnily enough I had that exact thing happen to me today in Aldi, first time it's ever happened to me. The man behind started loading all his stuff on when I'd barely started emptying my trolley.

I can't see what's to gain by doing that, it doesn't get you served any quicker.

It's made me laugh this thread. I find it all depends on the attitude of the "uploader". If it's done impatiently as though you are getting in their way by being in front of them, then I tend to nudge the bar back and start making extra space for my stuff. And take time packing of course

However, most people do it after having clearly judged that you only have enough left in your basket to fill a couple of feet and they have an lifetimes worth of baked beans so why not start filling up the end of the conveyor whilst you finish off up your end. Especially if you have ever shopped in Aldi/Lidl - the conveyors are about 30 feet long! If you don't pre-load, it's wasting time.

I bet the people who object to pre-loaders also never let people out of side roads when in a queue of traffic, either

Frequently, if I'm faffing with ordering of goods before they get through checkout I say to the person behind - "load up! We'll shove in the next divider when it arrives."

YANBU she over reacted

if the person infront has finsihed unloading onto belt and there is room for my shopping i start loading my shopping

even if there is not an available loader

i leave a small gap andi stil ge filthy looks from the person infront of me as if i expect them to pay for my shopping

petty fools

available divider

MotherJack - I'm an objector who always lets people out of side street - unless of course they try and push in

Lol Masie

Thing is though, that pre-loaders don't actually (usually!!!) push in. They don't nip in front of you, shove your shopping back a foot and plonk their warburton's sliced down.

Ok.... I'll try my other insult. Oooh, I bet people who object to pre-loaders wear supportive undergarments and hide packets of gingernuts under their beds.

Get out of THAT and look fashionable

Ah, but the OP decided that she was the person to allocate the customer in front a certain amount of belt space. However, if she'd simply waited her turn (refer to my side street comment) she wouldn't have slowed the whole process down with all the shopping shuffling. Some people are so impatient - and it makes it all the more satisfying when you can slow them down!

Oh, and I do wear supportive undergarments - Spanx are a godsend when you've got the stomach of a 42 year old with 3 kids who sits at a PC for a living, does no exercise and eats too many gingernuts (although I don't find I have the time to hide them )

Hmmm.. I do think that OP may have been misguided in her allocation of space - full trolleys are a no-no for pre-loading. There is definitely a pre-loading etiquette (and no, I don't believe that means not doing it )

Heck.... You just described me (almost). Are you my non-preloading alter-ego??

SHE DIDN'T HAVE A FULL TROLLEY, SHE HAD A SMALL TROLLEY WITH A SMALL AMOUNT OF STUFF IN

I HAD LEFT HER ENOUGH ROOM TO UNLOAD THE REST OF HER STUFF!!

Absolute breach of belt etiquette. A single loaf and a pint of milk can be squeezed on at the end providing the customer in front has almost come to the end of their inpacking. A full trolley (small or otherwise) is never to be unloaded before said other customer has finished.

I am your preloading alter-ego - I suspect if we met it would be handbags at dawn (in a very polite, 'no, no, after you, type manner )

inpacking??? What am I on about?!

YABU. I would never, ever dream of loading my trolley before the person in front of me has loaded theirs - size of their trolley is entirely irrelevant.

I wait patiently and then expect the person in front of me to put the divider down when they have finished loading. Once they have done this I start loading. If they don't put the divider down () I get it very myself with a very passive aggressive while inwardly tutting.

Ok ok I was in the wrong

Seems I can't convince you ladies otherwise

Nope, cannot be convinced

I do applaud the fact that you can admit you were in the wrong - you are a better and bigger woman than I am, that's for sure

Laughing at this thread. Toriana, I think you have been suitably flamed. Are you getting a thicker skin yet?

Lol Masie. Your posts have had me chortling away all morning!

I don't think you were being unreasonable Toriana. Just pre-load behind people who haven't got gingernuts in their trolleys (so to speak ) next time.

Will never dare do it again, MotherJack

Just in case the person in front is an MNer

Yes mince I think it will be a while before I post in AIBU again !

Well done Toughas

Glad I have managed to spread the word re conveyor belt etiquette!

Think we have all learned something here

PMSL.

But the conveyor belts are only short in M&S, Toughasoldboots. Oooooh, perhaps there is a correlation between perceived class of supermarket and length of conveyor belt, resulting in likelihood of pre-loading or not with secondary correlation related to tuttage over perceived breach.

..... and never EVER touch the shopping of the person in front of you to lay it out 'better' like the mad old woman behind me who took all my bottles lying safely on their sides, as placed by me to avoid jolting smashing incidents, and put them upright to 'save space'. Grrrrr ... I can feel the anger now.