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To go ballistic at my irresponsible friend?

165 replies

TheSingingNun · 08/01/2011 23:15

My friend is normally a sensible mum of two, who occasionally leaves her two children (14 and 6) home alone while she pops to the shop, which I don't have a problem with.

However, recently she has started dating a man (who I suspect is a bit of a philanderer, but that's another story), and left the children the other day to meet him and have sex in his car Hmm. She said it didn't take as long as here usual trip to the supermarket, but that's not the point, surely?

I'm afraid I went ape at her, and now she has deleted me from her facebook. I wasn't being unreasonable, was I? It is not exactly great behaviour for a responsible parent.

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ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 09/01/2011 00:05

you may think it is tacky OP, you have a right to an opinion. but you don't have a right to go ballistic with her because your opinion doesn't tally with hers.

mutznutz · 09/01/2011 00:06

Perhaps she should have shagged in a more upmarket shop Apocalypse That's not just an orgasm...it's an M&S orgasm Grin

TrillianAstra · 09/01/2011 00:06

If you get Travelodge on offer it's £19.

PolythenePam · 09/01/2011 00:07

In all honesty Singingnun - you can be as upfront with close friends about anything you like....EXCEPT their parenting!

Those kids were not at risk...you had no reason to be questioning her responsibilies as a mother whatsoever. That was not very clever at all.

I can't think of a single good friend of mine that would appreciate unsolicited judgement on their decisions as a parent.

I too would have sent you packing!

Spenguin · 09/01/2011 00:07

Can you imagine the depreciation on the Range Rover after what they've done to the suspension?

Recesssssssssssssion!

mutznutz · 09/01/2011 00:08

Being serious now OP I think the best thing you can do for your 'friend' is to never contact her again. She really doesn't need people like you in her life claiming to be her friend Smile

NormalityBites · 09/01/2011 00:08

YABU

Sex is a VERY necessary errand Grin

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 09/01/2011 00:09

Exactly MutzNutz, still makes me chuckle, don't think her equally vile kids ever got over the shame, eldest was the same age as me, bout 14/15 at the time Grin

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TheSingingNun · 09/01/2011 00:09

Ok, I take your points. I will try and think how to make up with her while letting her know that I think she is acting out of character.

Thank you to all who have posted- I was feeling chilly but now my bum is well and truly roasted Grin

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ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 09/01/2011 00:10

i think you should contact her and offer a grovelling apology and make no mention of your disapproval. then if you honestly are worried about her you should tell her and offer support.

Vallhala · 09/01/2011 00:10

"I will try and think how to make up with her"

How about, "I'm sorry". :o

PolythenePam · 09/01/2011 00:10

Singingnun - i think on this occasion, all she needs to hear is the apology.

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 09/01/2011 00:13

Buy her an all singing all vibrating all flashing GIFT as both a sorry and an alternative Wink

BuzzLightBeer · 09/01/2011 00:14

I would rather have sex in a car than go to the supermarket anyday.

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 09/01/2011 00:15

me too buzz!!

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