To go ballistic at my irresponsible friend?

[TheSingingNun]

My friend is normally a sensible mum of two, who occasionally leaves her two children (14 and 6) home alone while she pops to the shop, which I don't have a problem with.

However, recently she has started dating a man (who I suspect is a bit of a philanderer, but that's another story), and left the children the other day to meet him and have sex in his car . She said it didn't take as long as here usual trip to the supermarket, but that's not the point, surely?

I'm afraid I went ape at her, and now she has deleted me from her facebook. I wasn't being unreasonable, was I? It is not exactly great behaviour for a responsible parent.

Are you not getting any OP?

It wasn't a couple of hours, it was about half an hour- including travel. I also suspect he's married, but she is being quiet on that topic.

Matthew 7.1 Judge not that ye be not judged.

As a nun I thought you would know this.

Or you a jealous ain't gettin nun.

julybutterfly I restrained myself from saying exactly that

I love it when people say 'I agree with Trillian' :)

YABU

You don't mind when she leaves the kids alone to go to the supermarket but you do mind when she leaves them to go and have sex?

Jealous much?

i doubt her going to the shop is necessary errands aswell, just convenience and less hassle than brining the dcs.

and how is her having sex, her choosing her man over the dcs?

If it took less time than her usual trip to the shops, which you have no problem with, then you are judging her on what she was doing and using the children's welfare as an excuse. I expect you've made her feel like a pile of shit, no wonder she de-friended you.
YABU.

even if he is married still none of your business.

What do you think is going to happen in a half-hour's shagging that wouldn't happen in a half-hour's shopping?

I don't see the problem really as long as 14yo id responsible enough to look after the younger sibling (whatever she's going out to do - shagging or shopping).

There is less than three years between DB and I, mum used to leave us at home when I was 11-12 and he was 8-9 (I'm older).

It was never a problem - until one day he absolutely terrorised me and I had to lock myself in the bathroom to get away from him

Can't see a problem with leaving a 14yo with a 6yo for a couple of hours as long as the older one (and the younger one I suppose!) is responsible.

Agreed mutznutz

At least she didn't do it in the next room

Depends on how responsible the fourteen year old is

Talk to her, don't break a friendship over this

i agree with trillian

Although doing it in the car is unreasonable - so uncomfortable

Better on the bonnet ;)

YABU to be judgemental regarding the 14 year old babysitting the 6 year old as long as they get on. I was looking after my half sister and brother when I was 14 and they were 3 and 5.

As someone else said, better than bringing a random stranger home and bonking them senseless while the kids are about.

If you are bothered that she is shagging a married man, then talk to her about that.

YABU, and judgey.
14 is more than old enough to look after a 6 year old.
I feel sorry for your friend, and hope she gets some better ones.

But OMG, he's married, well that means the 14 yr old can't supervise as well as if it was a single bloke right?

I agree with Trillian :)

Yabu

imvho it sounds like you could do with a quickie yourself.

She is a very young fourteen year old though- I just don't think she should be put in the position of babysitting when it's not necessary. Sex can wait until her free weekends when the children go to their fathers'. except I suspect her new man might be busy with his family.

It must be a wind up.

If not, YABVVVVU.